To uninvite somebody from my wedding

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I'm prepared to get flamed (I think)
My wedding is due to happen in January. To be nice, I invited my mum's longest standing friend and her husband. However they are yet to rsvp.
I don't have a mobile number for the lady but have Facebook messaged her and emailed her. I asked my mum to have a word aswell but so far nothing recently my fiancé has got back in touch with his brother and girlfriend so would like to invite them instead. I feel so stressed about this!

Doesn't really seem to add up OP. Please find time to look out for your mum.

If you wanted replies by now you should have put an earlier RSVP date. You have to wait until the 10th now then if no reply or they say no you can invite your bil.

Hi OP. I can understand this is all very stressful particularly with your mum in hospital.

Unfortunately you are going to have to wait until 10 December as it would be unreasonable of you to chase before then. However, perhaps you should send mum's friend another message stating that if you don't have confirmation by 10th you will assume they are not coming. Agree with PP that by asking them about their drinks it implies you think they are coming.

As an aside, I can't believe you didn't invite BIL because he lives in NZ. Family travel to weddings from other countries all the time. Even if he never intended to come it is still basic courtesy to send him an invite. If I was him I'd be very hurt not to have been invited to his own brother's wedding.

Your best outcome is that mum's friend declines and you can invite BIL. However, if mum's friend is coming I think you need to find the extra £190 to include BIL and his partner. In the grand scheme of things and the potential hurt that could be caused £190 is not much.

I hope your mum is well enough to make your wedding.

It's a load of rubbish, OP isn't even sure how many kids she's got never mind when her wedding is

So basically you expected everyone to read your mind and somehow know that 10 December actually meant 20 November. Riiiiiiight.

I'd cash the cheque

I think its pretty obvious shes not coming. Having to travel 11 hours to a strangers wedding, and the cost to her? She would have to have made travel plans by now if she was.

She's probably tried RSVPing via your mum and is feeling awkward about your contact since your mum hasn't acknowledged her (through no fault of her own of course), all these times you've been in touch with the friend, have you thought to tell her your mum is really unwell?

Yeah cough you've completely misread

No I haven’t. You haven’t read the whole thread (odd, since it’s your thread) - I was responding to the poster who set a deadline of 1 September, but got pissy when people hadn’t replied by mid-August.

Although to be fair, the same point applies to you - it’s just the dates that are different.

A lot of this information is not adding up..