Being left to eat alone in a pub because I'd annoyed him?

[StrugglingWife]

Out with the OH at a busy pub - ordered our drinks and food. I asked him a question (about tax of all things) and he gave an answer that didn't really give me the info I needed and I wanted to know to continue in the conversation we were in. I got my phone to look it up on google and he asked me to put my phone away saying that I "didn't need to know the answer now" - I continued to look - he got up and walked out - leaving me alone in the pub (we were staying over and he went back to the room) I felt humiliated when the waitress came out with both our meals and I had to send his back. I ate my dinner alone - went back to the room where he was acting like it was me who was totally out of order. Next morning he said he would do the same thing again if the situation arose - even knowing how hurt I felt. AIBU to think that he was being a disrespectful arsehole??

@batshittery - I travel away for work at least 2 nights a week and eat alone and have no issues with it at all. Choosing to eat alone and being left to eat alone because I've disobeyed his "request" is a whole other thing entirely.
I'm now very curious about what you wrote that got deleted

Sorry then Struggling. I obviously misunderstood and didn’t appreciate that it was because you’d disobeyed him. I’m very sorry. I don’t know what I put that got deleted. it’s only my second deletion in about 9 years

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batshitery it’s because you didn’t read the thread and then told the OP she was pathetic.
The OP isn’t pathetic, abuse is insidious and is hard to notice when you are in the throes of it.
Still we’ve all been guilty of jumping in without reading everything at one point or another of MN so take it as a lesson learned.

Thank you gamerwidow.
OP I am ashamed to admit that I was drunk. I am very sorry for what I posted and it is indeed a lesson learnt.

Don't blame yourself @strugglingwife - abusive men are often nice some of the time and the abuse escalates very slowly. So it's hard to see, when you're in the middle of it, just how much of a prick the man is: it's just easier to 'pick your battles' ie let him have his own way over pretty much everything, until finally he starts doing things that are completely unacceptable, and yet you often try to tell yourself it was just a one-off, and he was tired, or his haemorrhoids were hurting or something.

Good luck with giving this one his marching orders.

Start hoarding money and visit a solicitor. He seems the best type to fight dirty.

Idk how that extra word slipped in there 🙄