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TO think Nursery are taking the piss!

204 replies

Eden80 · 14/11/2018 10:03

I’ve just been told to drive back and provide nappies as I forgot his bag. Not allowed to leave any on site have to provide them daily. I explained I am now in Work and can’t they use spares to be told we don’t have any spares you need to bring some by 11.
Surely nurseries have to have spare nappies on site?

OP posts:
EK36 · 15/11/2018 04:07

I was really annoyed as I discovered that my supply of nappies was quickly disappearing due to other parents forgetting to bring nappies!! I demanded a pack were bought by the nursery, to replace mine and not to be shared again. Why can't you buy a big pack of nappies and leave them in the boot of your car? It's not the nursery's responsibility to provide them, unless otherwise agreed upon. You didn't have to drive all the way back home. You could have stopped at the nearest shop/petrol station.

MidniteScribbler · 15/11/2018 06:49

Another parent trying to shift the blame for their mistake onto school/nursery. If you've been doing it for two years, you know you need to take nappies every day. Get more organised.

flamingofridays · 15/11/2018 09:43

midnite Christ its once, people forget.

waterrat · 15/11/2018 09:49

This is why I used a childminder. Come on - who in normal life would ask an adult to drive from work to supply a nappy when they are caring for young children day in day out.

My chilldminder just kept a stash of them that I supplied and let me know if I was running low. Never in a million years would she have asked me to come running back for something so minor.

waterrat · 15/11/2018 09:50

Accusing parent of shifting the blame???!! Which normal person doesn't make mistakes sometimes! This is child CARE - they are supposed to CARE about your child.

Why I don't like some nurseries - it's a business not actually caring about the family and child.

Allthewaves · 15/11/2018 09:51

Could u call taxi firm to get some and take them in

Allthewaves · 15/11/2018 09:52

I started using cloth as so many of my disposables disappeared

BlaaBlaaBlaa · 15/11/2018 09:53

@midnite for goodness sake. It's easy to forget things sometimes.

CatLadyToddlerMother · 15/11/2018 09:59

At DDs nursery you provide nappies and they can either be kept on site or provided each day.

They do have spares, but if you use a spare you have to sign a waiver to say that if the child reacts badly to the nappy it's not the Nursery's fault.

They've always been great. When I first split with my DDs dad they went out and bought 3 packs of nappies for DD to use at Nursery and didn't ask me to replace them until they'd run out.

ImSoExhausted · 15/11/2018 10:10

I don't think it's ridiculous. It's just good habits to get into?
We pack our sons bag every night, at least 4 nappies. He's in school now but has SEN so still in nappies. It never occurred to me that the school would have spares, if he were at home I'd be providing them, or if he was at a grandparents house, same scenario.
I'd ring and offer to pay a tenner for someone to nip out on their break and buy nappies, that will also cover a box of biscuits for the staff room for the inconvenience, lesson learned 🤷🏻‍♀️

packetofpartyrings · 15/11/2018 10:17

Blimey... I didn't realise some nurseries were such hard work. I'm starting to feel very fortunate about the one we use.

Nappies, wipes, bibs, milk, Calpol, meals and snacks are all part of the service. We had to take in suncream in the summer and have to provide nappy cream and obviously leave spare clothes but that's it.

Sunhill4 · 15/11/2018 11:15

Some parents want the moon on a stick!! Your child = your responsibility.

BlaaBlaaBlaa · 15/11/2018 11:19

@sunhill I'm pretty sure the OP realises that but sometimes people make mistakes. It's not like she was asking them to provide nappies every day. It was just a one off.

I'm so grateful our nursery is far more understanding.

makingmiracles · 15/11/2018 11:23

SEems quite ridiculous. Cheap nappies can be as little as £2 a pack so no excuse not to have at least a pack of cheap spares for these type of situations.
My dcs nursery would have a shelf with baskets for each child, you would then supply a carry pack of nappies, some wipes and a pack of nappy bags, when they were running low they would inform us and we’d bring in some more. What’s the reason they can’t store nappies on-site?

flamingofridays · 15/11/2018 11:24

sunhill a couple of nappies which will be replaced (so costing the nursery nothing at all) is hardly the moon on a stick is it. Christ!

TrashPanda · 15/11/2018 11:28

Expecting a nursery to have nappies is not moon on a stick behaviour. Our nursery will provide formula, bottles, nappies, wipes, snacks, breakfast, lunch and tea. Sun cream is charged at £3 a year. You need spare clothes for mess or accidents but they have more if you run out for any reason. If you want nappy cream to be used you need to supply it. If you want to provide your own of any of the things, you can but there's no fee reduction. If you have your own sun cream you won't be charged £3.

redexpat · 15/11/2018 12:03

That would really frustrate me. But I think I would just leave the pack of nappies in the car and take some from there each day.

justfloatingpast · 15/11/2018 12:09

I'm loving all the sanctimonious posters on here who obviously never, ever forget anything or make a mistake.

I think the nursery should keep spare nappies and have a policy of charging parents who regularly 'forget' to pack nappies, but not ones like the OP who once in a blue moon might genuinely forget.

Sunhill4 · 15/11/2018 12:26

Do you all really think this is a 1 off? At least 1 parent would forget/not bother every day if they were allowed to get away with it. That adds up to a lot of spare nappies somebody else has to pay for. If you forget your lunch do you expect your boss to provide it?!

justfloatingpast · 15/11/2018 12:34

Sunhill Yes, there are some parents who will take the piss if nappies are given out free, which is why nurseries should have a general policy of charging for nappies.

And there are many parents, like the OP, who might forget once in a very blue moon, and should be cut some slack.

flamingofridays · 15/11/2018 12:34

well clearly its a one off for op or she wouldn't have started a thread about it Hmm

nobody is suggesting nursery pay for it - op could take extras tomorrow to replace the spares....

as it happens I did forget my lunch today, popping to the nearest supermarket or ordering a sandwich from work is much less hassle than it would be for me to drive home. Its not comparable.

a nursery, with children in nappies, should have spare nappies. It is silly to think otherwise to be honest.

TrashPanda · 15/11/2018 14:04

No I wouldn't expect my boss to provide lunch because if I forget it I can go without until I get home. Nappies don't work like that. If I forgot tampons i would ask if I could borrow from someone and replace, whether that's my boss(nursery) or colleagues(other children).

MondayImInLove · 15/11/2018 14:35

Actually Sunhill4 if I don’t have enough cash to pay at my work canteen they just write it down and let me pay the next day.
I imagine that if someone does it too often they say no.
I would expect similar for nappies, 1-2-3 times a year they could provide a spare one. 1 time a week they could say no.

Sunhill4 · 15/11/2018 16:49

Makingmiracles
Our nursery has 104 children. We really do not have the space to store 104 packs of nappies.

TheDarkPassenger · 15/11/2018 17:03

I would honestly change nurseries. I wouldn’t feel like they were being very caring and that was extremely important to us, we deliberately chose one that gives cuddles and accepts kisses so I’m with you op.

If that’s what they do then fine, I don’t have to buy into it