TO think Nursery are taking the piss!

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I’ve just been told to drive back and provide nappies as I forgot his bag. Not allowed to leave any on site have to provide them daily. I explained I am now in Work and can’t they use spares to be told we don’t have any spares you need to bring some by 11.
Surely nurseries have to have spare nappies on site?

Whilst 'rules is rules' it's utterly unreasonable and unhelpful to not assist you on this one day.

Having to return to nursery for a true emergency (eg: sick child) is one thing; nursery not being able to cope with a lack of nappy supply for one day and making you trek back from work to supply something they must have spares of, or could acquire spares of, is something else entirely. Requiring spare nappies today is hardly taking the piss.

The nursery I used was always helpful and understanding of working parents - they fully understood that's what they were there for.

You agreed to their way of working when you signed up. If you'd wanted a nursery that supplied nappies either included or for additional charges, you should have chosen a different one. What is unreasonable is that you expect them to do something different to what was agreed from the outset with discussion or prior arrangement.

My blood pressure is rising just thinking about this. What a horrible, horrible position to be in.

And people wonder how women get eased out of the workforce when they have children...! You can't allow your child to go unchanged. You don't want to disrupt their routine by changing nurseries. You don't want unwilling staff looking after your baby. You want to keep your job. All you can do is beg your boss to let you go and fix the problem somehow... How long till your DC leaves nursery for school? Maybe it's worth considering a new nursery.

It’s in your contract to provide nappies so you need to provide all of them. If everyone did the same as you it would cost them a fortune. Surely you can see why they need to be strict about this? Keep some in the car or you bag just in case.

We specifically chose a nursery that provided nappies, wipes etc to avoid this hassle BUT we pay extra because of this.

So weird that you can't leave nappies there. I would always buy a big packet and leave them at nursery. My children had their own changing 'drawer/tray' in a cupboard in the changing room adjacent to their room. Worked fine. If for whatever reason we ran out - ones were borrowed spares and replaced when we restocked. Worked perfectly.
They are creating a problem that doesn't need to exist by not allowing you to store packs of nappies there.

That is rubbish OP, nursery I sent DC’s to you brought in a couple of packs and they would remind you when running low and in the event someone ran out they had spares.
It’s one of the many reasons it’s “outstanding” as they tried to make working parents lives easier.
Mind you after such TLC reception was a bit of a shock!!

Technically the nursery may be in the right, but my son's nursery would NEVER do this. Partly because they would instantly lose the goodwill of their customers, but mainly because they are intelligent and sensible adults who could easily find a solution to this problem as a one-off.

You forgot the bag, but it’s nurseries fault for not providing spares. I’m assuming your child is also at nursery without wipes or a change of clothes. Did you not realise when you dropped them off? Everyone makes errors but in this instance it’s your error so own it, and rectify. Don’t look to blame nursery.

Worked in nurseries, some allowed a stash (and preferred that) some expected daily drop offs. BUT they had an emergency supply of various sizes of nappies because invariably someone forgot or a child went through the 3 they had been left. Things happen, nurseries should be flexible imo. It isn't at all hard to have a couple of packets of nappies stashed away & simply asking the parents to replace them from their own stock if the emergency ones are used.

Ive worked in a baby room. Many parents are cf.
they forget nappies, snacks, even forget to collect the children . Forget they're ill and bring them anyway, forget to pay.

@IStandWithPosie
If they have space to store changing bags with full days worth of nappies plus wipes and a couple of changes of clothes they have space to store nappies.
Then each child would only need small child sized backpack for change of clothes

No ghanagirl not necessarily. Nappies for a full day is about 6/7/8 nappies. Can fit in a bag in a hook. But a full box of nappies? That takes up much more space, can’t go on a hook. Either has to go on the floor or on a shelf or a separate closet. along with the boxes for however many other children.

Borderline fine if they allowed to you keep some on site (though no spares is nuts), but madness otherwise. I can't believe anyone is defending such a daft system. I'd be switching nurseries, as any nursery displaying such inflexibility and failure of basic common sense is pretty likely to be lacking it in numerous other areas too.

marcipex but op has forgotten a bag once... she's not being a CF.

Massive difference if a parent regularly forgets. One offs happen ffs

Kazzyhoward I didn’t agree to this actually as babyroom we could store nappies and there was nothing said about it in the paperwork. I don’t pay 900 a month for such inflexibility.

Who told you to drive back by 11am??

Can you call back and speak to the manager?

I'm pretty sure them having no contingency plan in the event of parents forgetfulness is a breach of their care standards.

Kids must be kept clean and nappies changed regularly- this nursery policy is a joke.

They should have a stock of spares which they then recharge the parent at a premium cost to minimise the chances of it happening again, but means the kids don't suffer.

Does your DH work any nearer? Have they run him?

*rung!

The nurseries and playgroups my DC attended all required parents to bring nappies on the day. We rarely forgot but they were always good, used spares and replaced from the larger stash we'd send in next time. I think there were some instances of CF as one changed a policy to include a charge if spares weren't replaced. A fair few parents would often drop in supplies of too small nappies when their DC changed size so the nurseries/playgroups could have them available as spares for other DC too.

If they dont let you leave on site they are being ridiculous.

So wondering what has happened as it’s now after 11

I would be pissed off. It's a private nursery you are paying for. I know they won't have loads of money spare but you are just asking to borrow a few nappies. I would be asking what they would do if your ran out due to lots of poos one day. Would they be left in a dirty nappy?
I take nappies each day to our nursery but they put ones they don't use in a drawer so if I ever forgot it would be ok and i am sure they have spares in case.
Their attitude would annoy me really.

DH is abroad and I am also very heavily pregnant - I put out a plea on Facebook and someone has gone up there for me. I am going to compose an email to the manager now.

A taxi will take them in for you.