Bridesmaid can’t make my wedding - AIBU?

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I’m getting married next year and one of my bridesmaids now can’t come to the wedding because she’s joining the Navy and she’ll be training. AIBU to be furious and think friends shouldn’t do this?!

Genius, Dooby!

YABU.
My only sibling couldn't come to my wedding as he was deployed to afghan at last minute. I was gutted but it didn't occur to me to be mad!

AIBU to be furious and think friends shouldn’t do this?!

Shouldn't do what? Live their life? Have a career? Potentially fulfil a lifetime's ambition?

YABU and also very weird.

OP what will happen if one of your bridesmaids gets pregnant, is that allowed?

Come on lass, this is your day and it's only massively important to you, I'll bet your OH doesn't give a toss either. Choose another bridesmaid and wish her well before you lose a friend.

OP you can't really be serious. Upset maybe, that's understandable. But honestly, you can't think you're even slightly in the right.

Oh my god you seriously think your wedding is more important than someone else's life/career??

Get over yourself OP.

YABU One 9f DH's ushers had to cry off because he'd been offered an amazing job that meant leaving the country a week before our wedding. We're all still alive and all still friends. Grow up.

@gamerchick no, Bridesmaids are not allowed to be pregnant

YABU. You sound like my DH cousin who had a massive bridezilla breakdown because my DH wasn't going to be there. At the time she said we obviously meant so little to us.

He was seving in Afghanistan at the time.

You don't sound old enough or mature enough to be getting married OP.

Actually, why dont you move your wedding, if you were a real friend you would do that

^ this

I have already bought her dress yes

Wow, well that makes ALL the difference
If it means that much to you charge her for it .

Give yourself a head shake op

You’re being a brat

Sorry OP but please get over yourself. This is her entire career/life you’re talking about. Should she put this on hold for the sake of a party? Totally U .... Find a friend who hasn’t got something much more important to do that day .....

YABMassivelyU to think that anyone else in the world gives a toss about your little party. I certainly wouldn't put my career on hold for someone else's party.z

This is definitely a wind up.. all these responses and all OP can say is yes I’ve bought her a dress..

One of mine nearly didn't make it because, shock horror, she chose to have a non essential operation. She made it, had a cast on and guess what. Made no difference to either the wedding or friendship.
Because my wedding was about me getting married and anyone else interested was a bonus.

I think you should go and picket the Admiralty immediately!

Maybe ask The Admiralty to host the Reception, they always put on a good show.

My bil nearly missed my wedding because his transport back from Basra was delayed by live fire. AIBU to think he just should have made the pilot take off. It is my wedding after all!

Good Grief

You do know there is life after the wedding and the honeymoon? You need to realise that your wedding is just a day and there is a lifetime afterwards. Please don't be one of the people who just see the glamour of a wedding and a honeymoon and never see the reality of day to day life.

Wish your bridemaid the best of luck with her new career and her new life. Don't be the pathetic Bridezilla stereotype. She has given you plenty of notice, sell the dress, get it adjusted for someone else. Give it as a gift to your friend.

Love the OPs only reply 😂

This has made me laugh so much!!! Get over yourself OP

YABVU

Yep yabu . Hope that helps