Bridesmaid can’t make my wedding - AIBU?

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I’m getting married next year and one of my bridesmaids now can’t come to the wedding because she’s joining the Navy and she’ll be training. AIBU to be furious and think friends shouldn’t do this?!

YABU! Your wedding may well be the centre of your world right now but to everybody else (other than potentially v close relatives like your parents/in laws) it is just another day.

There's no way I would put a friends wedding above a life changing opportunity and I'd hope a friend would understand that.

It's next year not next week! YABU.

If you are so bothered then move your wedding

My bil (dh brother) missed our wedding due to army training.

If she is joining the navy she will have to get used to missing things.

You can't honestly expect her to put her lid on hold for your wedding?

You are like totally reasonable.

She's like joining the forces possibly for 22 years and the selfish wench won't give that a swerve to molly-coddle you for a day - and let's face it - given current stats you'll be divorced before her contract is up.

Your ONE day vs her LIFETIME career.

Get yourself on.

YABU.
My DH was best man for someone whose 'proper' best man wasn't sure if he'd make it back on the day (also Navy). Friend turned up in his uniform and was an unexpected usher. All good.
Your friend won't be able to make a promise to be there but will undoubtedly do her best. Surely it's much better she explains now than telling you a month before that she can't get leave?
Don't be THAT Bride!

Hmmmm.. your wedding or her life plan... what's more important. You really think she should delay her employment for a year to please You?
Why do weddings turn brides into idiots

YABU.

YABtotallyU.

You're really not a good friend.

I can understand that it’s disappointing, but I don’t suppose the navy give recruits any choice about when they’re expected to do training.

Most likely the only way she’d be able to go to your wedding would be to put off joining the navy for a year. It’s really not reasonable to expect her to put her life on hold to that extent just because the training clashes with your wedding.

I think your friend's career is of a higher priority than your wedding, however disappointed you may feel. Feeling "furious" is definitely U.

A wedding is just one day, (and however much you'd like it to be so, she just isn't as invested in it as you are ) her career (hopefully) will last much longer than that!

Smile, wish her well and choose another bridesmaid for your big day.

Seriously no one really cares about someone else's wedding. It might be a nice party but her career is way more important. If you can't see that then you're not a real friend. Stop being so precious.

If this is for real then YABVU! It's not like she's said ages washing her hair! It's a year away!

It's only a wedding, her missing it is not the end of the world. YABU.

Bridezilla much!

Maybe the Navy are at fault for not giving her the day off to celebrate the event of the year your wedding ?

Is it a destination wedding in Maui maybe with a super expensive hen weekend and a list of rules your bridesmaids must follow?

So you want your friend to delay their career for approximately a year in order to wear a dress on your wedding?! 😂

Errrrr yes you are being unreasonable!!!!

I was having a really bad day, but this made me laugh so much I’m feeling much better!
YAB completely and utterly U

If it's really important to you, you can postpone your wedding for a couple of years and ask when she might be available.

Let me guess, you don't like someone else dictating your life plans?

Congratulations to your Friend on her success in joining the Navy

Everyone has their own life to lead OP

😂😂😂