Aibu to not want to show my sister our bedroom

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First house, a long time coming. We’ve now been in for a couple of months. My sister is coming over tomorrow. I don’t want to show her our bedroom (plus shower room). Now that it’s been lived in for a bit it feels like dh and my private space.

It’s not anything to do with not trusting her or whatever but I just don’t want anyone but me and dh in there. Aibu?

If not how do I tell her ‘it feels too private to let you in’.

I'm with the OP here. I will show people my bedroom, but it does feel like a bit of an invasion of privacy and I'd rather not. My room definitely isn't a sex dungeon though. Likewise, I feel a bit awkward when other people show me their rooms.

Madness.

Bloody hell its creepy the number of people who want to see other people's bedrooms and nosey round their houses but who think the OP is weird!

That is a bit weird. I am happy to show anyone around my house including my bedroom. I am really not precious about this at all.

OP is too busy on her sex swing to come back to the thread

What I find really strange is the general assumption that visitors have the faintest interest in being given a tour of your house -- is this an English thing? Honestly, do people expect to be shown around a renovated house? Wouldn't you just happen to see some rooms when you're on a visit, rather than tottering about staring at people's perfectly ordinary airing cupboards and built-in wardrobes?
I find it strange to think nobody would be interested. Home decor is a massive thing, people like to make their homes look nice and people are interested in seeing them. There wouldn't be TV programmes about it if nobody was interested....

I have several sisters. I just could not imagine the look of horror on any of my sisters faces if I refused to show them my bedroom or bathroom.... if you had one of the rooms as a secret sex dungeon yes I could understand OP.... how very bizarre.This probably the oddest thing I have read on MN in a while. Seriously... I'm shocked at the bizarreness of your post 

'Private space' .... this all sounds a little cringe lol good luck with not trying to look like a weirdo 

Ridiculous.

LOLZ

Yep definitely weird, what are you hiding?

This is why I toured family around our new home before we had even moved in I totally get it OP and it’s nothing about having a weird fetish (unless it is??) The bedroom is your private space, possibly the only completely private space you have in your home—you don’t want people in there. I’m not sure how you will explain that to your sister unless you just say exactly that. But I get it. Maybe I’m weird too??

OP must be chained up in her sex dungeon!

I think it’s a bit precious, but at the same time I doubt she’ll care too much either way. Her life won’t be dramatically worse because her sister refuses to show her where she sleeps..

Ok. The majority ruling is ‘weirdo’.

There’s nothing remotely unusual, no mirrors no chains, nothing kinky on display. Some things in the drawers out of sight.

I was reading an article about how some orthodox Jewish women want only their husbands to see their hair, because it’s so private. So they wear wigs over their hair. It feels like that.

We have had the movers in there, electrician, and occasionally a cleaner. It just feels like they are people doing their job. I don’t mind a Dentist looking into my mouth but would not want a colleague seeing.

@NarcolepticOuchMouse

It's sounds like you're having a bit of a tough time if you feel you need a space to escape to and shut the world out. Do you have alot going on right now that perhaps you need support with?

I think you are quite perceptive. I hadn’t thought of it like that but that may be the underlying feeling.

You’re not a weirdo op.

Not a weirdo at all, it's a private space. I'm not like that and happily show folk my room if hey ask (not strangers, obvs), but it doesn't mean you're U for not wanting to.

I wouldn't offer a tour at all if there are out of bounds areas. My imagination would run away with me if someone showed me around their house but pointedly left one room out - but I would think nothing of not specifically being shown anything iyswim.

Only on Mumsnet - where people believe they are doing friends/family a massive favour by letting them see their house or baby

Yup weird.

Still if I were her I'd sneak a peak on the way to the loo or whatever. I've had guests comment on my gorgeous wallpaper when they come back from using the facilities. But then you've probably got a downstairs loo.

Only on Mumsnet - where people believe they are doing friends/family a massive favour by letting them see their house or baby

Actually when I moved house the people I showed round were the ones who indicated they wanted to see round

Another vote for odd, but giving every Tom, Dick and Harry a ‘wee tour’ is the equivalent of offering them a cup of team in my family. 😊

Not weird. I think tours of people’s houses are weird anyway.

I think tours of people’s houses are weird anyway.

Thank God. I was beginning to think it was just me that thought it was really strange that anyone (visitor or host) thought that the greige bathroom tiles or Orla Kiely patterned spare room pelmet was of general interest.

WERE of general interest. Obviously, if the bedroom was an actual sex dungeon in a medieval cellar, that might up the ante a bit.

V odd. My sister and I sleep in each other's beds all the time... we're sisters. My friends do too tbh.

It's your choice as it's your room but she will think you're hiding something...