Aibu to not want to show my sister our bedroom

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First house, a long time coming. We’ve now been in for a couple of months. My sister is coming over tomorrow. I don’t want to show her our bedroom (plus shower room). Now that it’s been lived in for a bit it feels like dh and my private space.

It’s not anything to do with not trusting her or whatever but I just don’t want anyone but me and dh in there. Aibu?

If not how do I tell her ‘it feels too private to let you in’.

Weird!

Surely once the bed is made and clothes are away its like any other room?

It's not weird or silly OP. You don't want to show off your bedroom. Your choice. If anyone's 'offended' by that they are the odd ones.

Now a weird response.🤣

Unless it’s a shit tip, just weird

I feel mildly uncomfortable about people even family in our bedroom, not sure why!

I mean apart from the people who live there

Can't explain it, it's like it's my quiet retreat type place somehow, private? I mean not weird or anything just mine and personal... can't explain it!

Wanted to post in face of 99.9% of comments saying you are a freak

I don't think you are being weird. When we got our house we showed everyone around (including our bedroom) however I wouldn't be happy about SIL being up in it (I don't have any sisters of my own). I think of it as our private space. I only let people in when I bring them in. I don't have anything weird but it's just our space lol

Another vote for weird.

I don't like people just going into my bedroom without invitation but it seems really odd not to show it if it's a new house / been redecorated.

It's not a sex dungeon. blush

Name change fail, OP?

Weird attitude but do what you like in your own house

I’m with you op. I didn’t show my sister my bedroom either when she first visited us. It’s mine AND my husbands room and actually, he didn’t want her in there either. So YANBU.

I've never been upstairs im dsil's house and i often catch myself thinking it's weird she never showed us around

OP I get it once our bedroom has finished being renovated I think I'll want to keep it as a sanctuary for DH and myself too. Could you show her the room without letting her walk in maybe? Just a quick head around the door?

Very odd!

However, on the offchance you are my neighbours, I feel embarrassed now. A few weeks ago we invited over some recently-made friends, who attend our church and are retired. They'd said they were interested what we'd done with our place since we moved in, so we gave them the full tour. Now I am worrying it was not the thing to show them our bedroom, and we should have gestured meaningfully at a closed door and whispered

and HERE we have SEX ....

Weird

Do people give tours to family and or friends?

Of course. That's normal isn't it when you've recently moved? We've had a variety of guests since moving in June and everyone turns up expecting the tour same as we do first time visiting anyone's new house.

Face it ,it's a mess. That's fine. Leave your dirty pants on the floor

Sorry I think it’s odd too.

Get a grip, she's your sister not the village weirdo or vicar of the parish!

Is it mostly women that want to show off bedrooms or nosey at others bedrooms? I've never known a bloke remotely interested in seeing someone's bedroom unless he's after a bunk up.

Work colleagues, neighbours - YANBU, Sister/Mum etc - you are a bit U.

Totally weird.

Just don't say "and this is where the magic happens".

It’s not anything to do with not trusting her or whatever but I just don’t want anyone but me and dh in there. Aibu?

What about work men if you ever need stuff done in the shower room / bedroom ?
Sorry you can’t come in it’s me & Dh private space ?
Surely you can say that about the whole house so - the toilet etc ?

Paint a large red cross on the door.

This is bizarre! Don't you have sex anywhere else in the house then?