Aibu to not want to show my sister our bedroom

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First house, a long time coming. We’ve now been in for a couple of months. My sister is coming over tomorrow. I don’t want to show her our bedroom (plus shower room). Now that it’s been lived in for a bit it feels like dh and my private space.

It’s not anything to do with not trusting her or whatever but I just don’t want anyone but me and dh in there. Aibu?

If not how do I tell her ‘it feels too private to let you in’.

You can say what you like but its very odd. Looking forward to seeing her post.. "AIBU to think my sister has built a sex dungeon in her bedroom"

It is a bit odd Op. To be fair though, I felt a bit like this when I was very ill with depression.

Definitely a strange attitude. She'll be in once for about 30 seconds. When I moved house last year everyone wanted a tour first time they visited. It's just human nature. I can't think why you wouldn't let someone have a look.

Bizarre, just bizarre..

Not weird at all. Nobody goes in my room! It's never part of the tour

You ok hun?

I could understand this if it was some random error from down the street, but your sister? Seriously that is rather errr unusual, nah it's odd.

To me, that’s very strange OP!

Your decision but a bit strange. Surely your kitchen, living room etc. have been lived in too??

The only reason I don’t really like visitors in my bedroom is that I dump everything in there when people come over. The ‘private space’ thing is precious and weird, especially as it’s your sister.

Very odd indeed.

Unreasonable...well...

not guided by or based on good sense

Yeah, I’d say that’s unreasonable.

beyond the limits of unacceptability or fairness

...maybe not ‘unreasonable’...

But certainly very odd and quite hurtful. But maybe your sister is used to your ways and won’t be as offended as most sisters would be.

It’s just a bedroom...what’s so special/unusual/private about it that she can’t see it?

Totally weird and extremely silly.

Don’t say anything just skip the room when looking around.

It’s bizarre because your house was all over the Internet when it was on sale and you will be showing the entire world your bedroom when you put your house on sale at some point in the future.

That is odd behaviour, for goodness’ sake.😂

I mean you don’t necessarily have to take her in and open all the drawers and let her stand inside the en-suite shower or peer down the loo - just pop your head round the door and say “this is our room” and then breezily go off towards the bathroom and say “now let me show you the shower!” Or etc.

If you mysteriously go past and keep the door closed she’ll think you’re bonkers.

Why would you specifically 'show' anyone your bedroom? Do people give tours to family and or friends?

She is your sister, not a passing acquaintance. I would be offended if my sister behaved like that. Very very silly.

Strange but your choice. Her presence isn’t going to tarry it. I take it you don’t have a cleaner.

Beyond bizarre.

You have no idea how many times I’ve come home to find my brother in my bed with my husband

You’re being really weird.

this is very odd.

Your sister seeing it won't make it any less a private space, unless you think she'll take root in there.

Unless you have a habit of leaving your underwear and sex toys lying around the room, you are being ridiculous.

It's a bedroom. It's a bathroom. In your new house, which most people would be delighted to show off to loved ones!

I can understand an acquaintance but seems really weird that you won't show your sister your new bedroom? Is it a tip? People normally get excited to show sisters/friends their new bedrooms and how they've decorated etc

Unless you have some kind of weird sexual fetish thing going on in there (everything made of leather/feathers/bacon ... ) then you are being very strange...

Neighbors/the gas meter reader - fine. Sister ??? Why is MN populated by such strange people ?