Aibu to not want to show my sister our bedroom

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First house, a long time coming. We’ve now been in for a couple of months. My sister is coming over tomorrow. I don’t want to show her our bedroom (plus shower room). Now that it’s been lived in for a bit it feels like dh and my private space.

It’s not anything to do with not trusting her or whatever but I just don’t want anyone but me and dh in there. Aibu?

If not how do I tell her ‘it feels too private to let you in’.

Cuban - oh, no, I love seeing what people have done! I like homes magazines and so on too. My mum doesn't get it at all and couldn't be more bored, though, so you're not alone.

I let people sleep in my room all the time and I bunk in with dd, don't get this personal space thing really but I'm from a big close family where we all got in bed with each other at various stages of childhood!

There must be a bigger issue at play here. Do you not like your sister?

Totally weird.

Just show her your bedroom you weirdo

If you don't let her in there she'll be imagining all sorts of horrors, I know I would be.

Not sure what you're being weird about it for, she'll glance at it to be polite and then think no more about it.

I'd assume you have a sex dungeon style bedroom 

Goodness, what do you have in there?!

It's very precious behaviour really.

YABU

Of course you don't have to, but my brother and I recently visited a relative who didn't want us to see her bedroom and we're now having a competition to guess why. He's winning by guessing sex dungeon 😂😂

Just show it to her.

I don't really understand it, I wouldn't let random visitors in my bedroom but family, friends, fine. My sister has often just slept in my bed with me if she is staying over while DH is on night shift. I bunk in with my friend sometimes when I stay at her house and her DH is out. I even...grab your pearls...let my parents sleep in our bed while we were on holiday because they were babysitting and it saved them sleeping in the living room.

Weird.
What happens in there that makes it so private? (If the answer if sex then you need to be more adventurous 🤣).
It would be odd not to allow guests to use the bathroom and what happens in there is arguably more 'private' than anything that happens in a bathroom.

Looking around other people's homes is interesting to some people (including me) and if you didn't let me see your bedroom I'd be imagining all sorts of things 😉.

Not weird at all. Your house, your preference. I don't get the "Tour of the House" thing and have no interest in it. I'm visiting the person, not the house.

What I find really strange is the general assumption that visitors have the faintest interest in being given a tour of your house -- is this an English thing? Honestly, do people expect to be shown around a renovated house? Wouldn't you just happen to see some rooms when you're on a visit, rather than tottering about staring at people's perfectly ordinary airing cupboards and built-in wardrobes?

Don't know if it's an English thing but yes I'd definitely expect a tour of a house I was visiting for the first time and vice versa. I like seeing layouts and paint colour choices and furniture. It is interesting!

This honestly would make me think you have a weird marriage. That you are so possessive of your bedroom and bathroom seems to scream insecurity.

Don't show her if you don't want to but this might not be recommended if you have pampas grass in the garden.

Purely going on my own experience, "let me show you the rest of the house" is code for "I am not averse to shagging you, let us exchange loaded meanings in the rest of our conversations"

If you're really un/lucky you'll overhear "Oh yes Prime 1, I have longed to be fulfilled by your human part!"

But yeah, mainly single guys trying their luck at being a "better boyfriend" than the guy you're currently with.

Very odd. If you are showing her a new house, I am sure it would be a quick door open look. She will think you have a mirror on the ceiling, chains on the wall.

Bonkers but nothing on MN surprises me any more. I sometimes think I must live in a parallel universe.

Wasn't this exact same thread on here a few weeks ago?

Purely going on my own experience, "let me show you the rest of the house" is code for "I am not averse to shagging you, let us exchange loaded meanings in the rest of our conversations"

But it's her sister!? 

Yes weird

My cousin had a mirror on her bedroom ceiling, she showed the room to someone and it was the talking point in the family.
So, OP, is there a mirror on the ceiling or not ?

It’s odd behaviour .