Aibu headteacher undermining me

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I think I know how I'm going to respond to this but would like some mn opinions first!
Scenario: child participates in something at school that I'm not happy with. I tell school I'm not happy for them to participate and they say fine (think religion based) . Next thing I hear is that my ds has had a meeting with the head where he's told why it is fine and he will participate.
For context ds is 7. I'm now more annoyed by the heads actions than the thing itself. Am I right in thinking that if the head wanted to discuss it, it should be with me?as it is I feel our family values and parenting decisions have been undermined and I don't know if I trust other issues to be dealt with properly.
Am I over reacting?

Walking, were you present in the lessons then? There has never been any indoctrinating in the RE lessons I have observed or taught- and while they don't cover a varied range of religions in Primary, similar amounts of time are spent on Christianity, Judaism, Hinduism and Islam.

Fresta Yes in some of the primary lessons I was present. ...

Whilst colouring in a picture of Noahs ark the priest explained that god loves us so much that he told Noah to build a boat so he would be saved. A child asked, "but why did god drown everyone else?" Teacher interrupted with a ticking off, "dont ask such a silly question".

Another lesson, teacher asks, "does anyone know who created man", child answers "we evolved", teacher replies "no, it was god who created man".

I wasn't present on a school trip to an 'activity' centre. I find out afterwards it was a church hall and they spent most of the 'trip' in the church participating in 'Holy Communion'. When I complained the head said, whats the big deal your DC could have refused. When I replied I wouldn't have given consent if you have informed me what it was, the head mumbled some non apology I cant remember, but was essentially, "well none of the other parents complained".

Yeah so f that for indoctrination against a parents consent.

I would estimate it was 90% the one true god and 1 or 2 lessons on what a few 'other' people do. Their should be no religion in Primary schools its ridiculous that you have to tell your child that some teachers are a bit loopy and shouldn't really be teachers.

Nothing to do with normal RE lessons in a non faith state school. In case anyone reading this thinks that’s anywhere near the norm.

I’ve worked in quite a few schools in this country, faith and secular and how much Christianity is taught as fact depends quite a bit on the individual teacher/headteacher ime.

In which country?
I think that may well be the case in primary as you’re not getting trained RE specialists.

Regardless of the detail people seem so keen to have  the issue is whether you can agree something with the school then they tell a 7 year old it is ok to go against their parents wishes for some unknown reason.

I've had this situation where DD and I have agreed a course of action which suits her, spoken to to the School who agree with it, then had them completely ignore it and get angry with her when she re-iterates what I have asked for. (Nothing to do with faith BTW). I've called them out for it and they apologised. The correct course of action would be for the School to speak to me if they want to change what they agreed with me, not discuss it with a 7 year old.

My youngest ended up on class trip to a creationist zoo - didn't realise till after we paid as it never occured to me such a thing existed in UK. It was a community school ie none faith based.

As scientists we weren't pleased - spoke to teacher and head was reassured they wouldn’t go in main barn and have creationist talks - came out weeks later DD2 had done that.

We watched a lot of David Attenborough espcailly his galapagos island programs and bought some evolutionary books aim at children. She probably got a better grounding in evolution than otherwise though it confused her for a while with timings - but have watched lots of programs about dinosaurs since and been to museums so it has sorted itself out.

Apparently they'd decided it wasn't anti science so went ahead anyway .

I'd suggest another chat to the school and then see - if it's likely to occur again or similar issue then it's harder to let go.

So many people don't realise you can live somewhere where all your choice of primaries are religious (ALL are C of E where I am, I would have to do maybe 30 minute drive to nearest secular school and then wouldn't get a place as miles out of catchment)..

What a peculiar thread.