To think I am a mug but pay this anyway...

[MrsNacho]

Exp moved 250 miles away, not as soon as we split up but 2 years after. He comes up in the school holidays and collects his children, one with me, one from a previous relationship, has them for a week and brings them back.

He had just text me and said he hasn't the money to bring them home so can I lend him £100 for fuel.

He works full time, I work part time. He doesn't pay maintenance (something always comes up which means he can't afford it that month. He pays for his other child)

He does all of the journeys but it was his choice to move away. His parent moved and he followed them, he had a job etc in our area.

So AIBU to think I am a mug but really I have no choice but to give him the money. They are back to school on Monday and he doesn't get paid till Wednesday.

More of a rant really but so frustrated!

Maybe. But surely the roads are clear enough by 8-9pm? No need to be way after midnight.

He left at 9.30pm and arrived at 3.30, lots of 50 stretches on the motorway. It works that the kids sleep for most if it otherwise can you imagine driving with 2 children for 280 miles on your own. It would be fairly stressful keeping them entertained for that long.

Just to say MrsNacho leaving at 9:30 pm for 6 hr journey does seem leaving it very late especially on a Saturday.
What's the matter with eating getting ready for bed and leaving, like two hours earlier, a couple of hours chatter, car games and then sleep? For you to be up at 3 o/c in the morning is to me seeming very inconsiderate on his part, as its just unnecessary, isn't it?

Oh I see already been said too. I do wonder if it's just expression of his irresponsibility or making OP 'pay' in some form.
It really doesn't seem unreasonable to have left a couple of hours earlier.

As in, seems reasonable to have left a couple of hours earlier to exactly avoid you having to wait up/get up at stupid o/clock unnecessarily (and I am a great advocate of using the empty roads, but not if it means getting someone up at 3o/c - unless flights or ferries involved)

Wonder if he was on the M6 last night I got caught in two post accident hold ups as well as the 50mph stretches 😩

I have done 250 miles for over a decade with young children. A 7pm set off is much more reasonable!!!! The traffic is still much lighter etc.

Hi OP, did he give you the money back today?

By @MrsNacho lack of update I'm guessing she didn't....

Did you get your money back?