PIL letting someone else take DS out alone

[Whatdoyouthink123]

Name changes for this.

PIL very kindly look after DS (10 months old) once a week for us while we are work. Upon collection they give me a run down of the days events etc etc and casually mention... 'oh and Mary took him out for a walk'. Turns out Mary took him out by herself while PIL's financial advisor came for a meeting.

Mary is a very close long-standing friend of MIL who I've met a handful of times. Seems like an absolutely lovely women, but I don't know her overly well.

AIBU to be a bit uneasy that PIL sent DS off out alone with someone with neither of them present? PIL have known the woman for years, so I'm sure they was confident he was in safe hands - however I'm just not sure I feel comfortable with the idea of them sending him off with other people? I'd get it if there had been some sort of emergency, but it wasn't. I have always said if there is ever an issue with looking after him or a day they can't do I will very happily make other arrangements and would never want to put them out.

Am I being a bit precious or justifiably uneasy?

Stop being dramatic Nice. Sounds like the OP's dh had a reasonable adult chat with his dm and everyone is happy.

I would also say calling them 'Poor grandparents' is a bit of leap! We didn't tell them off, we gently said we'd rather DS stayed with them and if that wasn't possible just call to check or DH/I would come back for him. We have a wonderful close relationship with PIL so please don't assume that because we have a difference of opinion that they are badly treated - they aren't! We help and support them often and absolutely love the bones of them both

For what it's worth, I'm comfortable that we weren't being unreasonable

I don't think ywbu, because I don't think it was about Mary walking around the block, it was about boundaries and checking that they understood you didn't really want your baby looked after by other people without you knowing.

Some of the replies are batshit though, they truly are. People must spend a lot of time fuming is all I can say. The PILs didn't do anything wrong they just let a trusted friend walk baby round the block because he/she was unsettled. I do think though that you need to trust their judgement if they are carrying for dc regularly. But sometimes you will need to clarify stuff, for me it was MIL reassuring me that the dc never went into the kitchen alone when they were small and climbing (vertical blinds ).

Teateaandmoretea - this was exactly the issue!! Perfectly summarised, thank you 😊