AIBU?
Sarahjconnor · 21/10/2018 09:20
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IWouldLikeToKnow · 21/10/2018 09:32
If I got a call from family inviting me to a party, I wouldn't think to check if all the family were invited, I would just assume. Maybe your sister in law assumed that inviting you husband included you all. It would be a bit weird not to. Unless she has specifically said just your husband. In which case, your husband need to not to.
Urbanbeetler · 21/10/2018 09:32
As poster upthread said: Just tell sil you’re doing a separate thing to celebrate the big birthday, then at your convenience, take mil out for a meal as a family. It’s sil’s party - this unpleasant person can invite who she wants.
If your dh insists on going then have a great weekend doing something exciting with your dc without the drip about.
KateGrey · 21/10/2018 09:51
Personally I dislike my MIL so I’d be pleased. Last year my BIL decided when he visited his mum he didn’t want Dh, me and the kids there at the same time. MIL accepted (he’s a single 30 year old). And I was raging no one called him out but then my dh is a bit precious about his family and we can’t upset either of them (it has been a bone of contention for a long long time).
Moussemoose · 21/10/2018 09:56
Honestly, if this is what the family are like do you want your children there? Do you want your children involved with this type of negativity?
A 300 mile journey so someone can sneer at them? Fuck that.
Enjoy your weekend at home. Go to the park, order a pizza, watch a film enjoy yourself. #bestrevengeistobehappy
Moussemoose · 21/10/2018 10:02
You need to make a choice about this now. The family are going to be like this for the next 60 years.
Do you want drama? Do you want to have to make a fuss to be involved? Do you want a row a few times a year?
You can engage or disengage, just let them get on with it. Pack your DH off a couple of times a year and ignore them. Your life will be soooooooo much easier, they can call you names as much as they like but if you can't hear do you really care?
EggysMom · 21/10/2018 10:09
When I opened this thread, I expected to read that the children are 3 & 5 and therefore likely to be noisy - but 11 & 14?
Sorry, I'd be confronting the issue myself, asking SIL (and then MIL if she knows about it) why I and the children are not included when other spouses and grandchildren are.
Madein1995 · 21/10/2018 11:40
I'd presume there's just been a misunderstanding, unless there is a big back story.
I also don't get people calling MIL 'disgusting'. For a start it's SIL not MIL, MIL could be blissfully unaware. Not her fault her daughter is a bit rude. She probably knows nothing about it.
Im sure there's been wires crossed somewhere. Why don't you ring SIL up to clarify? Everyone shouting on here is a bit premature isn't it? When we don't actually know what's going on? Best to make sure of the situation before doing anything.
Even if it is true, I think calling this situation 'disgusting' is an over reaction. It's bad (if true) and says more about them than you, but disgusting is a strong feeling
ZanyMobster · 21/10/2018 13:08
Any decent man would not be going. What sort of husband allows their family to behave towards their wife this way. I am utterly appalled by him TBH.
I am so sorry you and your DCs are being treated this way. I can't imagine ever speaking to my parents again if they did that at xmas. Did your H go to Christmas dinner with them or stay with you?
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