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Tonight's headline news - Asian gangs, So what next for these young girls? (Triggering)

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DeadLioness · 19/10/2018 19:24

Apologies, posting here for traffic. Don't think we need a link, it's right across the news tonight. What I'm wondering is what next for these poor girls? The judge said 'It is likely that many, if not all, of these girls will never recover from the abuse they suffered'. But the psychological damage is colossal. There should be compensation and a massive care package. How will they get past this? A prison sentence does nothing to stop flashbacks. I speak as someone similarly affected. I am waiting for my perpetrator's trial to start. I also don't believe I'll get over it. The very best psych help the Nhs has to offer is not enough. I guess I want to hear that they'll be ok, so I know I'll be ok. But I know that isn't the case. Those men should have had life without parole, all of them.

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George4444 · 12/10/2020 10:22

The Petition when over 10,000 signatures at the weekend, which is fantastic. Big thanks to all that have signed and shared the link.

The government will now respond. The response may be soon or in a few months time.

The current II CSE investigation has been criticized by professionals and survivors. Maggie Oliver recently called it a white wash.

Its now time for a proper Public Inquiry that does not shy aware from asking the difficult questions about grooming gangs. Three core questions all public inquiries seek answers to: What happened, Who is to blame, What recommendations to be put in place to prevent this every happening again.

Thanks again for all your support



Mimishimi · 12/10/2020 10:49

I was eight years old when I was molested by a white man. His father, as it turned out, was a notorious pedophile himself and 'protected'. My parents pressed charges but nothing came of it.

This is SO much bigger than just Asian men and anyone who pretends otherwise has another agenda I think. You only have to look at WW2 to see that.


Cheesess · 12/10/2020 13:45

I have a friend who comes from a Muslim culture but is an atheist.
In her early twenties she was in an abusive relationship with an Asian man until he fled the country one day and never returned.
Turns out this man was involved with sex trafficking and she had no idea.
She says it was obvious he was a bad man in hindsight, but as a young female she was too naive to realise and she was pacified by the gifts.
We need to work on building the self esteem of females and make them realise that they deserve so much better.
Teach them the signs of an abusive relationship and how to extract themselves from one (believe me I know how hard that this). Teach them to value decent loving relationships and not go after men because they have nice cars and flash the cash. Teach them they are worth more than a man and can cope perfectly fine without one. Support the prospects of young females who aren’t destined for university better.


George4444 · 13/10/2020 11:46

Hi Mimishimi and Cheesess,

Thanks for your comments.

I'm not pretending that the majority of pedophiles in the UK are not white men. Generally speaking white pedophiles tend to act alone. Online targeting of children is also a large problem with much police resources being put in place to stop such abuse.

However there does appear to be an issue with (If i write the specific cultural religious category the post may be deleted) but its Asian, Pak* Mus** men. Who are over represented as grooming gang predators. No all but over 80%. As this is group based grooming the children involved will suffer higher levels of abuse. As they are trafficked into a net work of abusers. Are there white and other cultural groups grooming children and traffic them yes, they are criminals also.

The big problem is the prevention. Which Cheeses mentions. The girls mostly white are targeted at a young age and are more easily impressed by attention and gifts. We as a nation cannot, put on television an awareness program that shows young white girls the colour of skin of the majority grooming gang members. What they say, how they act what they do. It just cant happen. That is exactly what needs to be done. To prevent this terrible crime happening now and in the future.

So we are stuck.

The space in a public inquiry may, just be able to say in a grown up way what the problem is and what the preventive action should be.

Also I would like to say that the police are much more aware and doing alot more to disrupt grooming gangs. Also people and parents are more aware of the danger to 12 to 16 year old girls from grooming gangs.

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