To think who gets married on a Monday

[MardyArabella]

An immediate family member is getting married on a Monday next year. I know it’s an invitation not a summons I can’t not go without causing a serious rift in my family but Jfc could they have picked a worse day? Wedding is also 3 hours from where I live so will need two days off work.

Neither of them are retired.

My sibling has a very specialist job anyway so it doesn’t really affect him as much. He cares a lot less than me about upsetting our parent than I do so I think if it clashed with Work he just wouldn’t go and wouldn’t care.

Me!!!! Loved our Monday wedding.

We wanted a Christmas wedding. We're both teachers, so had to wait for the Christmas holidays. Did not want the Saturday or Sunday immediately after breaking up from school as there would have been no down time and too much to organise.

We broke up from school on the Friday and got married the following Monday. Christmas was Friday of the same week and we had our mini moon starting the Monday after the wedding. It was absolutely perfect, magical and amazing. Wouldn't change it. Was nothing to do with costs or savings. It was a Monday as it made the best use of our holidays.

Many of our friends are teachers so were off anyway. My dad's a builder so has his holidays then too so we didn't feel unreasonable asking people to take a day off work. We fully understood why those who couldn't make it didn't (however, only one couple out of those invited declined and every one of our evening guests turned up) xx

I got married on a monday. Was fine

OPs parent getting married, I see. Retired, I'm guessing, so work not an issue? Big bash on Monday no issue for THEM. Me thinks the lack of sensitivity colours numerous facets of the relationship
well your theory was blown out of the water. The bride and groom want their wedding on that day and why not? It's their day. How many wedding threads are there on MN when the bride is getting stressed over SIL demands or MIL wants to take over and people tell her not to worry about them, it's her day. Same here. Monday is the most coviennent day for them. It appears really sad that the OP is doing nothing but moan about making time for her parent. If it was a cousin I could understand the reluctance but for a parent? Unless you have issues that go back I think yabu about this. As some one else said if you didn't want to hang around you could always book just half a day or even drive back early.

They are having full bells and whistles wedding from what I can gather. It’s not first marriage for either of them. 100+ guests

You sound very judgey. Try and at least be nice about it or don't bother going.

@notacooldad you seem to be taking this very personally.

I wanted to get married on a Monday, but our local register offices don't offer Monday weddings because they need to keep all staff available to register deaths from the weekend (or say they said ....)

So I got married on the Tuesday after a Bank Holiday Monday instead

@notacooldad you seem to be taking this very personally.

I am a bit aren't I?
I think I have got a bit over invested, it's a very slow day at work and all my tasks are completed so have been a bit bored!