to think I'm living in a parallel universe sometimes

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There are so many scenarios I see on MN that I don't recognise from my real life:

Not wanting anyone to touch your baby
Not wanting grandparents to take the baby out for a walk on their own
Confronting people who've parked in P&T spaces and demanding to know their disability
Leaving elderly parents alone at Christmas for no good reason

I just don't see this kind of behaviour in my own everyday life so AIBU to think there's a parallel universe out there that I fortunately don't belong to?

I think it's weird how nobody ever gets offended by anything and tell the OP she is "hard work" for asking something like: "Aibu to be taken aback by a school mum randomly presenting me with a food parcel because she thought my DD looked hungry?"

The overall response will be to "thank her for her generosity".

Agree, but really we are all different.

For me the folks that get all pearl clutching about booze, get obsessed with the royals, fancy their work colleagues or assume their work colleagues fancy them, walk about with their pubes hanging out their swimwear, can't eat a full restaurant meal, and shout fuck Off at anyone who looks at them the wrong way, are not within my realms of experience, but mumsnet has opened my eyes,

Vive la difference,,,🤣

Lucy I think it's the every week thing and the fact that it has to be without the baby's mother (and disregarding the mother's wishes) Also the MIL worked FT so assume it would have to be at the weekend when it was one of the only chances for the DH to spend full day with his baby. It was like the MIL's wishes trumped everybody else's. Which seems very off to me.

The other time was a tax driver who once again cut me to get in. If he’d been disabled he could’ve used one of the many empty disabled spaces closer to the store. He wasn’t. He literally ran into the store. I saw him heading back as I was on my way on my way in and asked him to park more considerately as I’d been queuing and he jumped the queue.
If he ran into the store maybe he was absolutely desperate for the toilet but too considerate to use a disabled spot?!

There seems to have been a run recently on people’s sexual partners and the numbers some have dropped to me have left me gaping.
I have not posted on any of the threads as I have no comment on anyone’s sexual history but I do wonder when they get the time to sleep😁

People on MN seem to take everything so personally, half the stuff people complain about I probably wouldn't even have noticed let alone got upset about.

Yes, this! I never thought of myself as a hugely laid back person until I started using MN! Now I feel like the Dalai Lama!

It's also made me bloody thankful for my partner and my family as there seem to be an overwhelming amount of women on here who are having children and living with emotionally abusive/generally shit men.

I agree with some of the Anger shown if in disagreement on MN - It does make me wonder if that person is as angry IRL -!??

I have my own personal views on many things - I don't get angry at people if they don't agree with me or vice versa! I quite like being proven wrong in many instances - there's always something new to learn about yourself and others - makes us better 'humans' - ever evolving and all that crap :)

As a vegetarian, the undercatered wedding thread didn't surprise me at all - I have frequently been left hungry at all kinds of events. So I guess that shows we all form opinions from our own little bubble.

I once saw an irate and I mean IRATE woman go absolutely postal at this dude that picked up a croissant with his hands instead of using the tongs in a self serve bakery. She was literally shouting in his face about germs. Then she loudly rang a mate to congratulate herself on confronting the 'discustin' man.
He was upset and shocked - quite elderly- and I thought to myself, she is SO SURE she's right. On paper, on MN, she's right. But in real life? She was a fucking bitch.
I've seen similar about P and C spaces. People 'confronting' over their misuse. More entitlement from one of societies most catered for groups. I think: Get a life.

I agree OP. The ones where people say they hate it if anyone they don't know talks to them, the not wanting people to visit the baby etc I find odd. But the not answering the door unless you know who is coming is something I do at night because I live in a high crime area and that's the advice of the local police. If it's someone I know they can text or ring to say they are outside and I'll let them in even if I'm not expecting them. I also find the massive salary/savings ones odd but only because I'm jealous. The oddest one for me was the person who uses a new facecloth every day for no good reason whatsoever.

I think some new mothers do get over possessive about their baby and don’t want grandparents to have what would be normal interaction with their baby. Then in a few years when they do want time away from their child they wonder why the grandparents are not falling over themselves to offer. They forget that maybe they didn’t allow a natural bond to develope and so the grandparent has taken a step back.

I totally agree with this. Little babies are easy to fall in love with, and once that bond is there you naturally want to take the child out/look after them. If you are kept away and only asked to get involved when they are a toddler who is at the constantly no stage, then you might do it as a favour, but the same bind isn't there.

People being "fuming" or "livid" over things no-one IRL would even notice, much less care about e.g. an old lady in the post office queue patting their child on the head.

"I'd tell him/ her to fuck off!" as advice to another poster over something trivial that could easily be sorted out by, y'know, talking to each other like adults.

Not sure where these people live but round here that exchange would end with one of you in hospital and the other spending the night in a cell.

I like imagining certain MNers chirruping "fuck off" at every minor disagreement tho. After a head tilt and tinkly little laugh.

Also lots of competitive under eating.

"Oh no I couldn't possible eat a whole sandwich. I see others cramming whole sandwiches into their mouth and just see a bunch of greedy pigs."

They always use words like cramming and insults for people who eat normal amounts of food. From MN I have come to the conclusion that there are a lot more women with food issues than I had realised. My own view is eat what you want - too much, too little, crap food - as long as it is not life threatening I really don't care.

when I lived in a house I wouldn’t have answered

I opened the door late last Saturday to a chap from the takeaway kindly returning ex-DH’s wallet which he’d dropped but hadn’t yet missed at all

Good job I answered

I'd never openly voice the majority of what I write on here, so the chances are a lot of people who you know do experience the same things that people post about they just don't talk about it.

I hate the touching of babies hands when they are very small, it winds me up so much. I want to shout STOP FUCKING TOUCHING HIS/HER HANDS THEY'LL BE IN HIS/HER MOUTH IN 5 SECONDS. Do I say it out loud? No. I just quietly (sort of) fume on here instead.

"Emily* In real life I simply don't believe these posters do say fuck off.

Oh God, that head tilt. Does anyone really do that?

Oh I agree OP, I love strangers fussing over my children, especially the elderly!

I would like five minutes to myself, if I had somebody to offer to take my baby for a walk I’d grab the chance with both hands.

Finally nobody should be alone at Christmas unless they choose to be

I swap my face cloths every two days, cos otherwise I come out in spots [misses point of thread]

I do find the judginess wearying on some threads, especially those about performance parenting and what have you. They used to make me quite anxious when DS was a baby (I suspect I had undiagnosed PND, looking back). I just don't notice things like that, it made me paranoid that other people were noticing me though!

It's not as hunky dory for everyone out there as you might imagine, OP: shitty family, babies in NICU (so no, you will not get to hold my baby after weeks/months of fighting for his/her life, thanks). Life is different for everyone and this is a venting place when it all gets too much. You've clearly had a good run, but we are all just a few steps away from everything going very awry.

A FIL I know told his DIL he'd burn her next Xmas present, so I would definitely leave someone like that alone at Xmas. Don't know about the parking thing, mind. Sounds a bit intrusive.

user We all know families like that exist and some of us even come from them. OP is talking about people who simply don't want to.

There is one thread up right now and I obviously won't name because TAAT but it is very :

"How on earth do you get through life when the answer to this scenario you're handwringing over has a glaringly obvious common sense solution?"

I was going to comment just that and decided not to, sometimes it's best to back away from a thread

Abacucat, granted if the reason is that simple. But isn't there usually a backstory? I like to assume the vast majority of people are reasonable (otherwise life is too depressing!) and have their reasons to feel a certain way about some things.

Sometimes, but sometimes it is quite clear that posters simply want to be together with their nuclear family and don't care if an elderly relative will be alone for xmas. And yes it is depressing.