To ask if you would have another child..

[Babyblues209]

With new man if you were in your early 40s and already had 3 nearly grown up DC?

No one? 

Personally I wouldn't

How new is new?

No

No, I wouldn’t.

Probably not

The main question here is - do you want one?

Three years . The thing is I've always wanted four children, how do you ignore this feeling then?

God, no. But I'm not you. No reason for you not to if you both want to.

No. I absolutely wouldn't have another child in those circumstances

If you both want to and you are happy to go back to the baby stage at this point then go for it.

Yes, if that's what you want!

Nope.

I wouldn’t, but I’m not you! I’m sure people have in similar scenarios.

Does DP have children of his own?

No idea what I would do personally but if you both want a child and are in a long term, committed relationship, are financially secure and are prepared to do the nappies and sleepless nights again then I don't see the problem. If it's what you want, go for it.

No I wouldn't. My personal feeling would be that once my dc are adults, I wouldn't want to go back to the baby/toddler/primary/teenagers stages. I consider being in your early forties is still young...I'd want to enjoy myself, go on holidays, basically put myself first for once. I'd always thought that one of the benefits of having your children young is that you get your life back whilst you're still young enough to enjoy it.

That's just how I'd feel though.

To be honest though there’s probably more Info needed. How new is your relationship? Do you live together? Does he want children?

Nope. I’ve just had my second at 39. If I’d already got through all of the baby nonsense I’d never go back.

I don’t really understand people who say ‘I always wanted X number of children’ - surely you have one if you want one, and more if it suits you and you want more on a case by case basis?

I know.plenty who have. One has a 28 year age gap.........if it's what you want then go for it.

Not in a million years. What a ridiculous idea.

Honestly the feeling is so strong, that's all I can think. Yes we're financially secure and could easily support another child, he's got two DCs of his own, teenagers. That was my plan, travel and enjoy life. But it's hard to ignore this feeling, but I'm just scared once I have the baby I'll think FUCK what did I just do? 

Does he feel the same? If so, why not? There’s right way to live a life.

Given the fact that your relationship is relatively new and you’ve hit your 40’s with grown up children already, I wouldn’t.
Just focus on your fab new relationship. Go travelling and do all the things you’ve wanted to do.

It depends. How financially stable you both are. Is he in for the long haul.

Well
Does he want kids?
Can you afford them?
House them?
How old are your kids?