To ask if you would have another child..

[Babyblues209]

With new man if you were in your early 40s and already had 3 nearly grown up DC?

Why not? My oh is a little after thought baby so to speak. He is 15 years younger than his oldest bro and 13 years younger than his other bro. He is so loved by his siblings who really enjoyed having a baby in their lives. I’d let fate decide. Try and if nothing happens leave it.

No way. Nothing would make me have another child.

I did. I have an 18 year gap between DS and DD (with a new partner). I was in my late 30s when I had DD and physically it has been harder, but I'm fit and healthy and I've bounced back pretty well (though not as quickly as I did in my late teens with DS). It was DH's first baby so financially we're pretty comfortable with just the needs of two children between us to worry about (and DS is working and financially independent now). If you can cope financially with 5 DC between you, I don't see why not. I do understand the feeling of wanting to have a child with your current partner, having DD together has really brought a new dimension to our relationship.

As for having plans for more time to myself once my DS was older, we've agreed that I'll be a sahm even when DD is in school, so although the baby years means I won't have much time for my own interests, I'll be able to have lots more time for myself during the days when she starts nursery/school. And we have always travelled a fair bit with DS (and also done some trips on our own when DS was in his late teens) and we plan to do more trips with DD.

100% no. That part of my life is over

You will never regret having another baby, not ever, you will love that child no matter what but you may regret NOT having another one and once the time has passed that is it.

This simply isn’t true. Many women regret another baby. I think I would if I fell pregnant now

You will never regret having another baby, not ever, you will love that child no matter what but you may regret NOT having another one and once the time has passed that is it.

This is nonsense. I know my mum regretted having my sister and I’d 100% regret having another one.

You can regret having them and love them at the same time.

Those of you who are still young and fit in their 40s with adult children, what do you do now? 

I’m still in the midst of baby and toddler hood but I like to think that if I wasn’t I’d spend my time eating out, going on nice child free holidays/city breaks, exercising, hobbies... all the things I don’t currently get chance to do!

I dream of uninterrupted coffees, leisurely walks around stately homes, angles around picturesque towns etc. Going away just the two of us for a weekend. Lie-ins. Doing whatever I want when I want.

We had a few years together before kids and did all these things and we miss them - it’s not the same with three loopy minions racing around!

We plan to do the travelling we didn't do in our twenties. Spontaneous weekends away. Get our unlimited cinema passes back. Get involved in hobbies etc.