The great magnum row

[ilikemagnums]

DH and I went with his children to his parents earlier today. His parents gave all the kids a cornetto type ice-cream.

Then after dinner DH brings out a bowl of ice lollies and ice creams for them to chose from; included were my magnums. As is obvious, all the kids picked the magnums.

I was peed off with DH. Firstly because they were my magnums. Petty, I realise, but it's nice to have something to myself that isn't ransacked by kids. There were plenty of other things to choose from.

Secondly, I didn't think he should be giving them a second ice cream.

When I told DH all of the above he got shitty with me. Asked me when the last time I ate one of the magnums was, etc. And then said 'if I want to give them an ice cream then I will.'

Well that's fine. But he's always actively trying to get me involved in hands on parenting with them. Yet, when it's something he doesn't agree with, the default seems to be, essentially, it's none of my business.

AIBU

Please tell me your kids don't get presents on YOUR birthday? Or on their siblings birthdays? 😱

YANBU... were they mint or almond? 😍

Magnums are expensive and kids are just as happy with a choc ice..

@Gottagetmoving

Actually the whole family does hobbit presents so when it's someone's birthday they buy everyone else a present too. Doesn't have to be something big, can even be something you've made.

Why is it ridiculous to be sharing and caring? And why is it ok for you to mock it? It's not hurting you.

What does he buy in for himself? Would he be fine if he came home to find you had friends visiting and you'd all "helped yourselves" to his nice whiskey or beer?

Actually the whole family does hobbit presents so when it's someone's birthday they buy everyone else a present too. Doesn't have to be something big, can even be something you've made.Why is it ridiculous to be sharing and caring?

That's not sharing and caring. You are teaching them that someone can't have a special day of their own and they have to have something too.
Yes, it is ridiculous.

@Gottagetmoving Did you mean to be so rude?

I think they only said what the rest of us were thinking. It;s stuff like this that is making society full of namby pamby entitled adults.

You can still be kind and nurturing and keep some stuff for yourself. people are allowed to have their own birthday without their siblings having to also get presents. Each to their own of course, but I don't agree with it.

Gottagetmoving Did you mean to be so rude?

I haven't been rude. Blunt, yes, rude?... No.

What the fuck is a hobbit present?

Must confess I haven't RTFT but has anyone mentioned Lidl's Magnum dupes? Totally lush and at such a ridiculously low price you wouldn't mind handing them out to the kids. (misses point of thread but useful to know)

What the fuck is a hobbit present?

Something to do with Lord of the rings?

You have my sympathy! Personally I'd just hide them from now on 😊

According to Tolkien hobbit parents didnt give thier kids a birthday present. The head of thier family did but it could be just a token gift!
Everyone gave each other presents instead.
Big Lotr and Hobbit fan but thats crap. Everyone deserves at least one day a year thats just for them in my book.

We're not hobbits and don't live like hobbits though, so I would give that a miss