AIBU?
fifithefoof · 14/10/2018 14:00
@surferjet haha I got what you meant. 
There can't be many men around (my age anyway) that have had 5 or less partners though. Unless they've been in a really long term relationship.
Can any men on here chip in? (That's the first time I've asked for a man's opinion on mn ).
MulticolourMophead · 14/10/2018 14:32
Why brag about how many, i think id feel a bit ashamed of myself to have been with a hundred men. Who’d want to have such a cheap reputation.
What a misogynistic viewpoint. Why is it only mean who can have multiple partners without being judged for it? It goes right back to that crap idea that a woman's value is in her virginity.
NotNachoing I really like your post. I'm 50 and left my ex after far too may years together. He was my only notch on the bedpost, so once I feel ready, I'm getting myself some new action (safely, of course 
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chocsahoy · 14/10/2018 15:19
Ah surely it's mostly just a function of how long single plus interested in sleeping with new people.
I had what would be thought of as a high number until I met DH 20+y ago and now time has passed and my number would not sound so outrageous though of course it hasn't gone down....
Also are you pulling in aldi is the funniest comment on this thread
thisneverendingsummer · 14/10/2018 15:25
I haven't read the last thread, and judging from this one so far, I won't. I hate to see women buying into the misogynistic view that other women are just for enjoy their sexuality.
You don't have to shag multiple dozens of different people a year to 'enjoy your sexuality,' and saying that is just an excuse from people who want to be promiscuous and are looking for an excuse to justify it...
And yes I do judge people who shag 2 or 3 or more different people a week. But I judge women AND men. I think it's gross and icky, and so I am judgemental. What of it?
What a misogynistic viewpoint. Why is it only mean who can have multiple partners without being judged for it? It goes right back to that crap idea that a woman's value is in her virginity.
As I said, I judge men as badly as I judge women. I am also willing to bet that the women who are SO proud of shagging around, don't brag about it in real life, because they know they'll be judged. Despite all the bravado on here, about how liberating it is, and how they are 'merely enjoying their sexuality;' they would never brag about it in real life.
How many WOMEN do you hear - in real life - bragging about fucking 3 or 4 or more different men every week? I'll tell ya... NONE. No woman does that. Men do. But then, it's a badge of honour (for men) to fuck lots of women. Not so much for women to fuck lots of different men - despite what some women on here are trying to claim...
@MultiColouredMophead
I'm 50 and left my ex after far too many years together. He was my only notch on the bedpost, so once I feel ready, I'm getting myself some new action (safely, of course )
But why? Why the desperation to go and shag as many men as possible now? What are you trying to prove? And what do you think you will achieve? And where are you going to find all these men to shag you? 
The posters on here who have had many sexual partners can deny it all they like, but there is an air of 'men do it, so why shouldn't I?' in their posts. And they seem to be rather proud of all the men they have fucked.... There is nothing for them to be proud of. It doesn't mean they're clever, or special, or more attractive or pretty if lots of men shag them. To be honest I find it quite sad, because there is clearly something missing from their life.
Also agree with a pp that you are putting yourself at risk of disease and even worse. No matter how 'safe' you think you are being.
StrawberrySquash · 14/10/2018 15:34
Sleeping with lots of people is fine, not sleeping with lots of people is fine. So long as it's all consensual etc. Some people only want sex with a person they have a strong emotional connection with and some of those will take a long time to build that connection. Some people sex doesn't have all the same preconditions. People just vary.
Maybe it's the circles I move in but I also see plenty of men being judged for the number of partners they've had. Those men are sometimes seen as using women/not able to make a proper commitment. Sometimes those things will be true too.
None of which is to say that people don't sometimes have sex for the wrong reasons. If you're constantly doing it to feel good about yourself because it means someone wants you then that wouldn't be healthy past a certain point. But lots of non sexual behaviour is like that, it's all dependent on context.
jane251 · 14/10/2018 15:45
Good on you if you could find so many people attractive. I was always hampered by wanting an amazing entente with whoever I went to bed with. Wish there had been hundreds. As it was if I found somebody suitable, which happened once in a blue moon, I would practically throw myself at them-often making a complete fool of myself.
DioneTheDiabolist · 14/10/2018 15:48
Why the desperation to go and shag as many men as possible now?
She didn't say she was going to shag as many men as possible. You're making that up. Also she said that she would have a sex life when she felt ready. How is that desperation?
And what do you think you will achieve?
I would assume some orgasms. Orgasms are brilliant!
What are you trying to achieve through your posts on this topic thisneverendingsummer? Because it looks like slut shaming women for wanting, enjoying and talking about sex.
thisneverendingsummer · 14/10/2018 16:40
@DioneTheDiabolist
What are you trying to achieve through your posts on this topic thisneverendingsummer? Because it looks like slut shaming women for wanting, enjoying and talking about sex.
I am not on about people TALKING about sex, I am on about people shagging around with lots of different partners. Stop making stuff up to suit your agenda. And I don't judge just women Dione, I judge MEN too. As I said, don't make stuff up! 
And so what if I am judging people? I am entitled to my opinions, and to think what I like about people, whether you like it or not.
thisneverendingsummer
And what do you think shagging loads of different people will achieve?
Dinonthediabolest
I would assume some orgasms. Orgasms are brilliant!
Wow is that all you've got?
You can have an orgasm with having sex with just one man - and you can even have them by yourself . No need to shag multiple dozens of different men. Good effort, but you need to try harder.
It's all icky, yukky, and ewwwwww..
Especially for @JacquesHammer
thisneverendingsummer · 14/10/2018 16:42
@DioneTheDiabolist
What are you trying to achieve through your posts on this topic thisneverendingsummer? Because it looks like slut shaming women for wanting, enjoying and talking about sex.
I am not on about people wanting, enjoying, or TALKING about sex, I am on about people shagging around with lots of different partners. Stop making stuff up to suit your agenda. And I don't judge just women Dione, I judge MEN too. As I said, don't make stuff up!
And so what if I am judging people? I am entitled to my opinions, and to think what I like about people, whether you like it or not.
thisneverendingsummer
And what do you think shagging loads of different people will achieve?
Dinonthediabolest
I would assume some orgasms. Orgasms are brilliant!
Wow is that all you've got?
You can have an orgasm with having sex with just one man - and you can even have them by yourself . wink No need to shag multiple dozens of different men. Good effort, but you need to try harder.
It's all icky, yukky, and ewwwwww..
Especially for @JacquesHammer
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