AIBU?
smilethoyourheartisbreaking · 19/10/2018 10:22
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lornar123 · 19/10/2018 10:24
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smilethoyourheartisbreaking · 19/10/2018 10:26
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JacquesHammer · 19/10/2018 10:28
It's very simple, people want to be with other people, they want their love. They get envious or jealous when they don't get it or they lose it. Human emotion 101
SOME people want to be with other people. SOME people want their love.
I geuniely can't see how you could be struggling with this
Thenewdoctor · 19/10/2018 10:37
I was on my own for years and years after I split up from my ex. I used that time to retrain and get qualifications and figure out who I was.
I only want to be with someone who is adding to my life. I’m complete without them. They need to be an added extra. An in addition.
Thenewdoctor · 19/10/2018 10:46
I’m going to pull you up on something else as well Lornar.
You said you had 4 long relationships in your adult life.
You’re 28. That’s 10 years. An average of 2.5 years each.
You couldn’t have had 4 long relationships. You’re 28.
You’d still be at the loads of shagging stage. Because you’re only 5 minutes into a long relarionship. Long is 20 years. 10 years. In the one adult relarionship. 4 since 18 and you’re 28, not so much.
DioneTheDiabolist · 19/10/2018 10:47
Lornar, the only emotions you speak of are possessiveness and jealousy. When your "loving" relationships end it takes you all of a week to grieve, recover and be in another one. The one "lovely" man you have talked about was a gaslighting cheat. 99% of your adult identity has been being someone's girlfriend.
Over the two threads you have demonstrated a lack of self awareness, social awareness and complete ignorance of what constitutes a healthy emotional relationships.
What sort of relationships did your parents have?
soupforbrains · 19/10/2018 10:53
You know what? I've just re-read this thread from start to finish and I'm beginning to think that @lornar123 may not be the only insane person here.
I think that @JacquesHammer @DioneTheDiabolist @ftfoawygtfosm @fifithefoof and myself among others are the mad ones.
Purely on the basis that we have spent nearly 1000 posts responding to this blinkered judgemental imp, with effort, and patience, consideration and thought when none of these things have been expended in the other direction. 
Ladies, I have very much appreciated your openness, candour and seemingly eternal patience in the interest of education. Glad to have found my raging whorebag scum possy people.
Thenewdoctor · 19/10/2018 10:57
I’m going to try again.
Mr FTF is a type one diabetic, has been since he was a child. He sometimes has issues with ED - he can’t get hard and if he does, he doesn’t always stay hard.
And my biggest worry about it is the impact on his health and making sure he knows that it’s only such a small part of our relationship that if it doesn’t happen sometimes that’s ok.
He feels terrible about it and has been made to feel shit by previous girlfriends and that bothers me far far more than what shagging he did with them.
I wouldn’t care if sex with him as in PIV sex never happened again because there are many many more ways to show love and care and he adds to my life in a million other ways than sex.
DioneTheDiabolist · 19/10/2018 10:59
This thread has taught me that there are way worse things to be than a raging whore bag soupforbrains.
Can I still be a raging whore bag even though I've only had 2 men in the past 20 years though? Does my earlier good work make up for me slacking now?
Fifithefoof · 19/10/2018 11:03
@ftfoawygtfosm I'm sorry you've had to repeat your position again and again to defend your character. And that it's been met with such dismissal and lack of empathy.
For what it's worth, I think @lornar123 is actually a deeply troubled person who's projecting her issues on to all of us as she's clearly jealous of people with more robust emotional states of minds.
Fifithefoof · 19/10/2018 11:07
@soupforbrains did you read the other thread too? Taking that one in to account I can't believe how so many people have patiently tried to converse with Lorna and she didn't get her arse handed to her.
As I said, Mumsnet need a head banging on wall emoji.
Fifithefoof · 19/10/2018 11:19
She won't answer shit. (Unless it's in an obtuse, Kanye-talking-to-Trump way.)
I don't know how many times people have asked her if her next isn't better than all of her exes she'd dump him and she's still not answered.
She asks us a question and gets several people answering immediately and clearly.
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