AIBU?
DioneTheDiabolist · 14/10/2018 16:50
I am not on about people TALKING about sex,
Yes you are, this thread and the last one are people (mostly women) talking about sex.
And so what if I am judging people? I am entitled to my opinions, and to think what I like about people, whether you like it or not.
Of course you are, just as I am entitled to my opinion that you are here to slut shame women. Especially when you relace/change what is quoted to fit a slut shaming agenda.
It's all icky, yukky, and ewwwwww
I get that that's your attitude to sex neverending, thankfully most adults have a more grown up, intelligent view of it.
thisneverendingsummer · 14/10/2018 16:51
@RomanyRoots
My dh has had 3 and I'm one of those.
So he tells you.... 
I on the other hand..... lost count.
You sound so proud of that. Good for you! Aren't you clever?! 
As I said earlier, I bet you don't shout that from the rooftops in real life. Despite all the bravado of women like you, you KNOW people will judge you.
thisneverendingsummer · 14/10/2018 16:55
@Dionethewhatever
Of course you are entitled to your opinion, just as I am entitled to my opinion that you are here to slut shame women. Especially when you replace/change what is quoted to fit a slut shaming agenda.
I have said all along that I judge women AND men. So YOU can think what you like my dear, it doesn't mean it's true! You stick your fingers in your ears and go 'na na na na na,' change things people have said to suit YOUR agenda, and then call ME immature! You could not make it up!
If you are going to make stuff up to suit your little petty agenda, and try and point score against someone who DARES have a differing viewpoint to YOU, then I cannot talk to you.
I am ignoring you now. Bore off. And go rub your raw nerves!
Curioushorse · 14/10/2018 16:58
So I cited Tom Whipple’s X and Why book on the last thread. But in his first chapter it goes through the amount of sexual partners men and women have had. There are loads of studies and they all show that men have more sexual partners than women.
.....but he points out that this is mathematically impossible, because the men must be having sex with somebody. Women lie, claiming they,’ve had fewer partners than they have. Men lie claiming they’ve had more.
Pbm28 · 14/10/2018 17:10
I have been with my partner 3 years and he doesn't know how many people I have been with and I don't know how many people he has been with and I think it'll stay that way. I'm not bothered and by the looks of things he isn't bothered either as long as we love each other that's all that matters.
I think it is a very childish question about someone's past that some might or might not be ashamed of but in my eyes you shouldn't be ashamed of how many people you have been with. Just proves you have enjoyed life
zukiecat · 14/10/2018 18:33
Why the face Gingerrogered
Do you not believe me, or is the fact that I think 3 is a high number shocking to you
I can't regret the first (my XH) but I wish the second hadn't happened. It was three years after splitting up with XH, and at the time I thought he really cared for me, he didn't
The third is the wonderful man I've been in a relationship for the past five years (known him a lot longer), and we didn't start having sex til last year
StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes · 14/10/2018 19:01
I have had loads, probably a lot in my younger days for all the wrong reasons... low self esteem, bit tipsy, cos they wanted me etc, but hell I am in my 50's now and can look back and say I did have a lot of fun. who cares how many, I am not religious, don't judge others on their 'morals' think it is perfectly ok to do what the hell you want with your own body as long as you are switched on enough to recognise the fun element from the 'being taken advantage of' element. staying safe and having fun is fine as long as you are in control of your decisions. As many pp have said it is no ones business but your own. All the pearl clutching and judging comes from being brainwashed into 'being pure' as a desirable thing and sex being something to be ashamed of... why? it's a natural function and can be fun, I get if you have been brought up to believe it's wrong but it really is not! you may think you are better than others because you have only had a few partners but at the end of the day its sex, its a bodily function, unless you are in a committed relationship what does it really matter how many partners you have?
thisneverendingsummer · 14/10/2018 19:07
@zukiecat take no notice. Some women don't like it when other women have had very few sexual partners.
They see them as a threat, and deep down are quite envious of them. As I said, I pity women (and men) who have to shag around with multiple partners. Makes me wonder what's missing from their life.
I agree with @stepawayfromtheecclescake low self esteem is probably a major factor. And also deep insecurities, and needed to be wanted.
JacquesHammer · 14/10/2018 19:11
I mean the person who is having sex with them doesn't really WANT them, they just want a shag, but I guess it makes them feel special - if only for half an hour
People keep making this association with self esteem.
You’re really missing the point that when I have sex, I just want sex. It’s not about “feeling special”. For me, I enjoy sex and want no commitment.
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