AIBU?
Mrsharrison · 14/10/2018 01:59
Why brag about how many, i think id feel a bit ashamed of myself to have been with a hundred men. Who’d want to have such a cheap reputation.
Your lack of ? Makes me think you're a slag too. Just shag around and then lie about it - that's what I've done.
FinnegansWhiskers · 14/10/2018 02:18
Following on from the last thread I would like to ask Earlywalker et al why they think all women would stoop to their level when it comes to sexual partners. Do they really think all women think it's ok to shag any male that shows interest? Don't they consider that it may be possible that women can show restraint when it comes to men feigning showing interest in them and not be gullible enough to think they want anything more than a quick shag?
I guess these women will say "Ah but I use blokes as much as they use me"... That's fine. Good for you...if thats what you want...But don't try to make out that its usual for every woman to set their bar that low... and have a giggle amongst yourselves when you discover not every woman is desperate to shag anything. You are not superior to women who are more choosy as to who they have sexual relations with. Why do you think women who have chosen to have sex with only a few men/women are to be laughed at?
Let's face it most women could have at least one shag a day if they wanted to...most women are more choosy.
That may come as a shock to some on this thread.... Especially those who consider themselves irresistible and brag about the number of men who want to shag them.. 🙄
Some women choose to shag anything that comes along. Some women choose not to. It all depends how low/high your personal bar is.
Are you Kath from Kath and Kim!?Rach182 · 14/10/2018 02:22
Of course not- I've slept with 1 (my husband), yet I've still been called a whore, tacky, inappropriate because I dared wear white and a wedding veil in a church while pregnant on my wedding day. Not sure how being pregnant is any different from getting away with pretending to be a virgin by wearing white without a bump. Anyhoo... It's made me realise people will always find a reason to judge a woman's sexual choices in a way men never get subjected to- whether your number is 1, 10 or 100.
Rach182 · 14/10/2018 02:28
@FinnegansWhiskers what a bizarre rant... Not sure if you're trolling but sigh here goes...
- Can't see anyone here judging other women for having fewer sexual partners. Only judging so far has come from you.
2. Why does someone's personal choices bother you so much...?
3. You seem to be the one with a superiority complex...I imagine with your ego you're a virgin? Seeing as that must be the highest level of female status given that you equate the ability/desire to close your legs with a greater state of being...
4. Why does it bother you so much...?
5. Why do you care...?
Very odd
That sounds a little ott.NotNachoing · 14/10/2018 02:31
Aah but the counting is wrong, I tell you, wrong! It's not how many people you've slept with, it should be how many times you've had actual sex! Now let's see who has been doing more shagging.
I've been married for 8 years to someone who wanted to have sex with me 3 out of five of those years.
Now I'm getting divorced.
And I only want sex with people I have an actual connection with, BUT they all know that they're not the only ones. :) I fully intend to make the most of my discovery that monogamy doesn't work anymore for me and have as much fun as I possibly can. I'm fat, nearly forty and not remotely fabulous, but the sex I'm having now is awesome. I couldn't give a shiny shit if someone thinks I'm a whorebag because any woman who would call another women - or man - that has no respect for others.
I wasn't a virgin when I got married at 30 but I'm not counting lovers now anyway, only orgasms. The more at one time, the better. I'm not interested in mediocre sex. I see this as entirely in line with my feminist principles.
fifig87 · 14/10/2018 03:19
No idea how many i have slept with, probably overa 100. But I was sexually abused from a young age so it stems from that.
Now I enjoy sex for myself and not for attention. Couldn't give a shite what anyone thinks about who I sleep with or when. Actually enjoy myself properly with my dp now.
Hate people who judge others on their sex life, don't understand why anyone actually gives a shit what someone else those
Monty27 · 14/10/2018 03:34
OP I don't know why you felt the need for your post. Was it just to get others' opinions?
If so suck it up now that ppl have given their opinions and now you have them. And don't seem to be pleased about it. Be careful what you ask for and all that jazz
We're all different. Simple.
Do you think you are special? And who cares how many people anyone has or has not slept with? Maybe it's just you.
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