In thinking having more than 5 sexual partners doesn't make you a raging whore bag?

[fifithefoof]

Following on from the last thread .....

[Monty27]

Yup! Vulgar. Like I said. Who cares? And who's judging? Except you OP.

[fifithefoof]

@Monty27 it's a follow on thread. The last one provoked a very interesting discussion. If you don't approve of the thread or like it you're welcome to not look or not post.

[fifithefoof]

Who's judging? You sound a little aggressive so possibly you @Monty27

[Monty27]

Absolutely OP. I didn't appear to disapprove on either side I hope. That's my point. And no I haven't read the original thread so I shall stand reprimanded and butt out

[Monty27]

Oi OP that was crossed post.
Well I was brought up strict Catholic.
I brought my DC's up the same.
I have advised them to have fun. And they're both very confident.
Long story

[sunshineandshowers21]

i’ve been with my boyfriend since i was 14 and so have only ever slept with him. my best friend openly admits that she doesn’t have a clue how many people she’s slept with but guesses it’s now over 50. i definitely don’t think she’s a ‘whorebag’ - if i was single i’d probably be doing the same! i have found though that when girls do get to an age where they’re becoming sexually actively then they are often judged to be frigid if they don’t have sex and a slag if they do! you can’t win either way!

[MawkishTwaddle]

Sigh. These threads make me feel like a two-headed monster.

Not only have I only slept with two blokes, I can actually count the times I've been approached on the fingers of one...well, one finger actually.

I'm very happy with DP, but if anything went wrong, my strike rate is such that my vag would probably heal over.

Shame because I do love sex. I must put out a Puritanical vibe. Or I'm plug-ugly.

[Monty27]

Mawg I bet you are lovely. You certainly made me smile. And that's beauty in itself

[Thenewdoctor]

I really couldn’t care how many anyone has had.

My number is low so I suppose I’m not a whorebag

[Brownboots]

@FinnegansWhiskers what a negative, unpleasant post. So much negative language in your post...

Stoop to their level
Men feigning interest
Desperate
Set the bar low

Some women choose to have a lot of sex, for those who have slept with a lot of men, much of this sex is likely to be no strings. This doesn't mean they're desperate, setting their bar low or stooping to any level. They just like to have sex and are doing what makes them happy. It also doesn't mean that the men they sleep with are only feigning interest.

Sounds like you take issue with women doing as they please. Should we all conform to your view of how a woman should be? Restrained, prim and proper?

With regards to setting the bar low, this term frustrates me at the best of times but especially here. Such an offensive way to describe someone in my opinion. But, if you mean sleeping with men they really don't find attractive, just for the sake of having sex, then in reality lots of women who have only had 1 or 2 partners may be doing this too, married to a man who they don't get on with, or doesn't treat them well, or they don't find attractive.

If you think that a lower number of sexual partners is something for self worth to be measured by, then you go ahead and hold that measure for yourself but don't apply it to other people.

[fearfultrill]

I'm finding myself oddly impressed at this - how on earth do people find this many people to sleep with? Are you all out partying all the time? I'm genuinely interested, I can't really fathom how you meet this many people.

[MawkishTwaddle]

Me too, fearfull.

I mean, are you all pulling in Aldi?

[Lockheart]

My number is over 5 but under 10. Spread over 11 years, so less than 1 a year really!

I don’t give a damn what anyone’s number is. Lots of partners, no partners, as long as it’s what you want then good for you. Makes bugger all difference to anyone else’s life in the end.

[Donthugmeimscared]

I agree. I've only had 2 but that's nothing to feel superior about it's just a sign of my shyness and lack of confidence. I hate the fact women are judged so much when men are applauded for the same thing.

[mirialis]

I know myself well enough to know I can't have sex with someone without getting emotionally involved, even when it starts out as a 'no strings fling'. Having sex with someone who has no real interest in seeing me or caring about me does not make me feel good despite the orgasms. As such have only had sex with 5 people and hope it stays at that number now I'm married.

No point comparing yourself to others. Just do what is right for you. If having lots of sexual encounters makes you feel good in the long term, go for it, and if it makes you feel bad, stop it.

[thisneverendingsummer]

how on earth do people find this many people to sleep with? Are you all out partying all the time? I'm genuinely interested, I can't really fathom how you meet this many people?

These women who shag dozens of people a month probably meet them online @fearfultrill 'Dating' websites are rife with men desperate for a casual shag.

I am not impressed by it at all, and wonder what people are trying to prove. As I said, it doesn't mean you are more attractive or sexy or adventurous; it's just a bit icky and gross. And I think that about men as WELL as women who shag 2 or 3 different people a week.

I find myself agreeing with a lot of what @FinnegansWhiskers says...

Following on from the last thread I would like to ask @Earlywalker et al why they think all women should stoop to their level when it comes to sexual partners. Do they really think all women think it's ok to shag any male that shows interest? Don't they consider that it may be possible that women can show restraint when it comes to men feigning interest in them - and not be gullible enough to think they want anything more than a quick shag?*

I guess these women will say "Ah but I use blokes as much as they use me"... That's fine. Good for you...if that's what you want...But don't try to make out that its usual for every woman to set their bar that low... and have a giggle amongst yourselves when you discover not every woman is desperate to shag anything.

You are not superior to women who are more choosy as to who they have sexual relations with. Why do you think women who have chosen to have sex with only a few men/women are to be laughed at?

Let's face it most women could have at least one shag a day if they wanted to...most women are more choosy.

That may come as a shock to some on this thread.... Especially those who consider themselves irresistible and brag about the number of men who want to shag them... 🙄

Some women choose to shag anything that comes along. Some women choose not to. It all depends how low/high your personal bar is.

I don't see what is wrong with that post. It's just their views, and as I said, I agree with much of it. I don't think the poster is 'projecting' but I do think they have hit a raw nerve with some posters.

As a few posters have said, it's a bit grim that some women shag multiple dozens of men a year (who they often don't even know!) and then feel the need to brag about it.

[PrincessWire]

My number is probably about 40-50 men and 3 women. I had a lot of ONSs when I was young and I didn't keep tally.

IMO I'm no "better" or "worse" than someone who's had 1 sexual partner or someone who's had 1000 sexual partners because that's not something to judge or measure.

DP doesn't know how many I've had (although he's vaguely aware I've had quite a colourful past) and I don't know how many he's had because it's not relevant to us.

[ForalltheSaints]

We would never describe Boris Johnson as such (though why any woman would want any relationship with him is beyond comprehension), nor Nick Clegg, nor any other man. So we should never describe a woman in the word the OP used.

[Missillusioned]

I don't judge people who have slept with a lot of people, but I do wonder how they find that many men to sleep with.

I just don't find very many men attractive. And of the ones that do, some of them don't find me attractive. And as you get older, many men are married and I wouldn't knowingly sleep with a married man.

I'm single and in the last year I've slept with a grand total of 2 men. I would like that number to be higher 😂

[Thatssomebadhatharry]

How can sleeping with more than a few men be anti feminist but calling another woman a slag be ok? Ffs

[thisneverendingsummer]

As I said @missillusioned these women meet these men online.

Must do, as there is no way they would meet so many men who want a shag.

[thisneverendingsummer]

I could sign up to a 'dating' website now, and have 3 shags by sunrise tomorrow.

Any woman could do it. Doesn't make you special.

[Singlenotsingle]

So long as the 5 sexual partners aren't all at once, no problem.

[BrokenWing]

I'm 50 and I've had 6. A couple were teenage ONS or very short term and after that decided that kind of sex wasnt personally for me as I got too emotionally involved/hurt.

But if a woman enjoys no strings safe sex, with both parties ensuring no babies are accidently made, and without the emotionally ramifications why not? I don't think their bar is higher or lower than mine, just a different angle.

[CinnaMessala]

“These women who shag dozens of people a month probably meet them online”

Where are “those” women posting that they have 200-300 partners a year?

I don’t get the low bar comment about someone with say 50 partners with no other info given. We could be talking about a 40 year old single woman who began having sex at 18 and has had steady boyfriends/partners averaging two sexual partners a year. So maybe she’s had a few long term relationships, and then dated around and slept with a bunch of men after the 4/5th date... 50 would be a pretty average number whereas 5 would make me gasp.