Refused to collect DD from party tonight.

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DD is just 17, we live in London. She is going to a party tonight with school friends, about 1 mile away.

She has asked me to pick her up at 11.30. I said no, I am tired after a week at work, want to have some wine and a relaxing evening. I have offered to pay for an Uber for her. She says she feels unsafe in one and would rather walk. I have suggested that her boyfriend gets the Uber with her, drops her off at home and takes the Uber to his house, all on the family account.

She thinks I am being very unfair and uncaring. Apparently all her friends parents pick them up from parties, so she will ask one of them to bring her home. I feel that I am being manipulated, and previously 11.30 has been extended to midnight and beyond.

AIBU?

accepting a lift home does not make you incompetent

asking if the other person feels up to it and if not, thinking out other safe arrangements does make you mature, though

the kind of maturity that one would like to see in one's older teens

I've lived in sw2 for 25 years and I've walked a mile home many many times. I am on a busy main road though. If I had to wend my way round the back/residential roads I'd maybe feel more nervous.

If only it's continuing reputation was still stopping the march of gentrification.

Its not it's. The shame, the shame.

It was entirely normal for us in the city in which I lived then. It was not 35 years ago, I am a millennial. We had our mobile phones with us. It is still a pretty normal choice for me to make now, as I live only 2 and a half miles from a city centre and consider being able to walk and and out of the city one of the bonuses of my neighbourhood.

And yes I have a daughter and no I do not pick her up when she is a mile away from home (although she is too young for nightclubs and pubs yet)

Which city? ChanklyBore

There are areas of London where walking 5 miles alone at 3am is not a good idea.

And if anything happened one would be held responsible.