DD used the phrase "KYS" and has been suspended for 3 days?!

[olayjer]

DD is 13 and said sent the phrase "KYS" to a boy in her year after he sent her an email saying "type X into the school internet" (the X is the name of a porn star that wouldn't seem like a porn star name if you see what I mean). She replied "KYS" back on the same email. The school have said the boy will be punished for the initial email but he clearly hasn't been punished as much as DD has. 3 days exclusion!?

No. Some posters have put in context, and some think it’s worse than others, but no-one actually has said it is ‘fine’.

No some said it's fine because that's just what they say nowadays

What about him??? Where's his lesson? KYS is just an acronym, it's nothing. Sexual harassment on the other hand...

For God's sake. I am not blaming her at all, but you won't see that.

You’re contradicting yourself. I don’t think you know which way is up tbh.

Are you kidding?

KYS is a pretty stock standard thing to say in the new generations
There you go TatianaLarina someone accepting it as a pretty stock standard thing to say.

No wonder schools are taking action.

It's not ok to say it.

Drop dead was never an OK stock standard thing to say either.
Glad it's getting pulled up more now.
Plus in writing it has much more of an impact to read than to your face with tone or intent missing.

No some said it's fine because that's just what they say nowadays

I repeat no-one has said it is ‘fine’. You pick out a single post where the word ‘fine’ was used.

KYS is just an acronym, it's nothing

And again.

It isn't nothing.

The result is that 13yr olds get excluded because they think it's ok to say it.

Because adults don't tell them it's wrong

I repeat no-one has said it is ‘fine’. You pick out a single post where the word ‘fine’ was used.

Well there's been 2 posts within the last page.

Do kids these days really kill themselves by someone telling them to?

I don't understand this generation at all. When we were kids there was bulling yes but kids killing themselves cos someone said to never happened.

I think the punishment is harsh tbh and thr lad shouldn't of been encouraging a girl to look up porn.

There you go TatianaLarina someone accepting it as a pretty stock standard thing to say.

She did not say it was ‘fine’, she was putting it in context of current idiom of young people.

Toughtips

A PP explained that this was said once to her 10 year old and she has taken it literally because of contributing reasons.

Clearly the pervasive culture is having an effect.

empero tell that to the young boy’s family. This is precisely how these things start and end in a young suicide.

She did not say it was ‘fine’, she was putting it in context of current idiom of young people.

She is saying everyone says it, it's nothing.

Therefore saying it doesn't mean anything because everyone says it.

Suggesting it is ok (or fine).

You’re contradicting yourself. I don’t think you know which way is up tbh

I'm saying that what he did was wrong. Needs dealing with. I'm saying telling someone to go kill themselves is also wrong. Needs dealing with too. I can't say it any clearer.

And you a random on the internet know what punishment the boy got, what part they both played in this plus the context for the school too? No you don't.

I never said I did . YOU claimed there MUST be more to it though.

It is. Like 'drop dead' was for ours. If someone goes out to kill themselves because a confused and uncomfortable girl writes KYS in an email, it isn't the email that's the problem. I'm more concerned that there was no action taken against the boy who was sexually harassing OPs daughter.

Perhaps the fitting response from school would be:
Bring in both sets of parents.
Bring in 'email boy'.
Ask his to google the very thing he asked the girls to google. In front of teacher and both sets of parents.
Review reaction.
Bring in girl. Ask boy to tell her to 'GKY', in front of all.
Review reaction.

Who is going to to be most at risk of resulting mental health issues?

Teddy Between your lack of intelligence, your lack of grammar, your complete lack of awareness around the issues of sexual harassment and sexual offences offences in schools, your lack of objectivity, your lack of wisdom and professionalism in declaring yourself a school governor online while expressing some very dodgy views, when you and your school could potentially be outed, I do not believe you’re a school governor.

'm more concerned that there was no action taken against the boy who was sexually harassing OPs daughter.

We have absolutely no idea what his punishment was as his parent isn't on here!
School said they were dealing with him too. Won't go into more details with that with the OP,will they?

The point sweary was actually making was that she considers the sexual harassment more serious than the use of the acronym.

YOU claimed there MUST be more to it though

And I stand by the that. Whether that is with the school, the boy or the girl I don't know. That is what the OP needs to find out.

There is a reason why the school have done this. 3 day exclusion is a harsh punishment. Why have they chosen that over isolation, detention etc? The OP needs to ask them.

Us arguing about possible scenarios won't help. There is more to it than what is said here and the OP needs to ask the school what that is.

You can see from the reactions here that no one cares about the actions of the boy, just that the girl wrote 'KYS' in an email. 3 days suspension is ridiculous.

This world has gone mad. Would it have been better if she said something along the lines of "Die bastard" or Drop dead you dick" I think a word in their ears would have been sufficient. Snowflakes all over the bloody place.

TatianaLarina

Ok.

I've identified my school how exactly?