Would you fancy you OH if you met him now?

[LolaPickle]

When we first met - ten years ago ,my husband looked and acted VERY different, he was up for a laugh, looked very very different and was much more outgoing. Now he is the opposite of what i would find attractive and is very different socially / takes life very seriously

Would you still fancy you OH if you met him today?

Gosh that poem is everything I don’t want. Ha.

Me and DH are both more miserable nowadays (together a decade, three young kids, I’m a SAHM while his career has really taken off so we get patches of resenting the other one) BUT we have really grown into each other. We fight, we kiss and make up.

I’d say about 50% of the time I’m sat round thinking what a miserable bastard he is but I know that once the kids are older and I’m not so tired all the goddamn fucking time I’ll like him properly again. I find when I’m tired I see / remember the annoying stuff. When I’m rested I see the good stuff.

I would have said yes, if it wasn’t for some of the hateful things I’ve heard coming out of my OH’s mouth recently. He looks pretty much the same as when we met, but for me there is nothing more offputting than a negative, nasty person. We were just watching Xfactor and he said some girls wouldn’t get through because they are fat. I said well that’s not really fair, it should go on how well they sing and he replied, well no not really because it’s just lazy isn’t it? No one needs to be fat, they just choose to be. I’m a size 18-20 and was around a size 10 when we got married. I’ve had a host of health problems and am on regular prednisone steroids, which affects my weight. His comments really hurt

@Batteriesallgone

I’d say about 50% of the time I’m sat round thinking what a miserable bastard he is but I know that once the kids are older and I’m not so tired all the goddamn fucking time I’ll like him properly again.

Aw, I'm sorry you're so knackered, Batteries, it makes a huge difference when you're getting decent sleep.

Hang in there, though. DH and I were the same when our DCs were small but it's much better now they're older. We actually get to do things on our own sometimes and we're not in a constant brain fog (that was me more than him with breastfeeding, etc.). DS especially wasn't good with babysitters when he was little - now he enjoys all the attention!

We're always plotting ways to get away from them and do our own stuff.

That is lovely buggeroff.