To have sex with him to keep the peace?

[BlazeM]

DH wants sex way more often than me.
He is currently furious with me as he thinks I am a selfish wife for not considering his ‘needs’. This stems from an argument last week where I was on my period, but refused to pleasure him by hand resulting in him being unable to sleep.
I have refused to have sex with him since, as quite frankly the way he’s behaving is repulsive.
He’s becoming more and more vile, ignoring me during the day, ranting at night not allowing me to go to sleep because he can’t sleep, threatening to go and have sex with other women, telling me if I loved my husband I should want to please him and I’m breaking up the family because I’m selfish and only care about myself.


We’ve had this same type of argument over and over again and I always give in and give him what he wants so that he will stop being such a prick.
Until the next time.


AIBU to just have sex with him to keep the peace, what do other people do in this situation where their partner’s sex drive is way higher than theirs?

He sounds absolutely disgusting.

I feel so sad for you, OP, and I really hope you can find some support in real life to end this awful relationship.

No this isn't normal in healthy relationships. He's being very disrespectful to you by doing that. It would crush me if my husband pulled that stunt.

He is fucking awful.

He's raping you. He's disgusting.

I have nothing more to say.

No, it isn't normal. He's doing it deliberately to get a rise out of you, or to make you feel bad.

Just ignore and carry on making your plans.

No OP it’s very far from normal.
Very very far

So sorry you are treated this way. It must be so horrible. Please make plans to leave him as you deserve so much better. He sounds really abusive and treats you so badly. It's not normal and you are not in a loving respectful relationship. Leave him asap.

OP MY parents stayed together for the “sake” of the children in a “nice” house and it was HELL on EARTH-verbal and emotional abuse with a smattering of physical violence. As a result all four of us children have issues with emotional/mental health-I have a short temper and anxiety but I have a good relationship and would never put my son through the childhood I experienced. You well and truly need to leave

That is very far from mormal

It is abusive

Christ OP he's fucking VILE.

I know exactly what you mean about it sounding worse written down. But that’s because it really is that bad, it’s just that you can’t recognise it in your own situation. When you write it down you’re forced to confront how you’d feel if you heard someone else describing that situation, and you feel dishonest because obviously your situation is different. Except that it isn’t. If you’d be horrified at a total stranger describing your situation online, then you should be just as horrified at your own post. I know it’s hard though.

And no, I promise you that what he did last night is not normal. My ex did almost exactly the same thing, though. I told him I didn’t want sex one night so he sent me out of the room and used my laptop (mine!) to watch porn and masturbate while I cried on the sofa. Every so often I’d ask if I could come back into the bedroom yet, and he’d get furious and yell that he’d have to ‘start over’ now because I’d interrupted him.

When I describe that, does that sound normal to you?

He raped you when you were pregnant. That is so shocking. Wishing you the strength you need to get away from his vile behavior.

How are you doing, OP?

He's fucking disgusting. No its normal, it shouldn't have been made normal for you by this turd.

@BlazeM thinking of you and hoping you have spoken to WA or at least are still planning to. You KNOW his behaviour is not normal; hard as it is to hear you are being abused. But you have the power to stop it. For you and for your kids. Stay strong