Lying - another that can't abide this
Bigotry (an old school friend during brexit ref posted an appalling racist rant on FB - instant block! Was really shocked as we were a 'group of 4' at school - one of which was mixed race! Mixed race friend actually challenged her before I blocked and she started trying to backpedal with "oh but I don't mean YOU and your family" 🤔 mixed race friend also blocked - they were bff at school!)
Persistent flakiness for no good reason
Being a constant taker without ever giving
Shit attitudes to sick/disabled (being mentally ill myself I've experienced the ignorance/bigotry/discrimination I think other posters have. But I've also an invisible physical disability as has dd - and even those these are actually long recognised and documented and accepted conditions we've had similar attitudes to those too! As have friends who have had it worse due to having conditions that even some medical professionals are less accepting of/dispute acknowledgment of)
Stinginess (don't mean people who are sensible with money or frugal due to not having much but unnecessary mean-ness I hate)
Having been cheated on myself (and ow supposedly my friend) couldn't be friends with someone who was a long term/persistent cheat, either on their spouse or with someone else's.
"Judgement towards single mothers." Yes!
And people who not only believe the benefit bashing/benefit porn on tv and in newspapers but who bang on about it with no knowledge or experience on the subject!
I have a few friends who vote Tory, it's a weird one as this is so discordant with what I know of them and how they live their day to day life.
I'm a left wing, remain voting, socialist, vegetarian, teetotal (though not by choice), non-smoking, single mum with mental illness on benefits, somewhat agnostic, bisexual...
I have friends who are Tory voting, brexiter, real ale drinking, horse riding, meat eating, small state believing, religious, gay/bi/straight, rich (and I mean seriously wealthy) and poor (again extremes at points)...
Not being friends with someone because of how they vote is surely deliberately creating an echo chamber among your friendship group? Would you also cut family out for voting in a way you disagreed with?
I am no Tory fan never have been never will be, but I don't for one second think that someone voting Tory means that's all there is to them! Very narrow minded view.
I enjoy passionate discussion and debate but even if I disagreed with someone on a political point (bigotry excluded) I wouldn't fall out with them!
"And I hate people who say "we'll split the bill, yeah?" then go on and order expensive stuff expecting everyone else to subsidise them. I've fallen victim to that more than once, and in circumstances when they had plenty of money and I was skint." Agree with this - and it's the person saying 'we'll split the bill' who's actually a miser here! And a cf! My aunts and uncles are roughly 50/50 have/have not, a few years back over a milestone birthday for one of the 'haves' things were being organised by another 'have' and the costs were getting stupid and everyone was expected to cover birthday persons costs too. Eventually one of the "have nots" went - 'right well it's WAY out of hand now so I'm out! I'm sending them a card with money in that I can afford and that's it!' Initially there was a backlash from the organiser then the other have nots started backing up the dissenter and a whole LIFETIME of crap came out! Eventually things got resolved and a more reasonable celebration agreed on and since then the have nots are trying to be more considerate of the fact the have nots are on much tighter budgets! The haves were also frequently guilty of "we'll split the bill" then ordering champagne cocktails and lobster while the have nots were having beer and pie and expecting the have nots to subsidise them! When it all blew up one of the haves actually said something like 'it's not that expensive' about something costing over £100! To someone who's a full time carer and living hand to mouth on benefits that's a lot of money!!
Eggstoast - not sure how old you are, but took me a few years to learn "if they bitch TO you they'll bitch ABOUT you"
Family full of addicts and so difficult on the drink/drugs thing, but I certainly wouldn't be friends with anyone who thinks excessive drunkenness, or illegal drug taking is ok. Seems to have naturally ended up I don't have any friends that regularly take illegal drugs for pleasure (one friend who takes very occasionally - 1-2 times a year - to help with an excruciating disability), none of them to my knowledge alcoholics, very few of them even smoke cigarettes and those that did/do are gradually giving up (though I think a major factor is that as we are ageing they are developing health issues as a result or feeling a stronger sense of their mortality).
"Can't help but notice that people who would unfriend someone who has different political beliefs are all the left wing people." Not true.
And there's a few who've said they WOULDN'T end a friendship purely on friend voting differently to them who haven't stated their own voting preferences. Jaxhog and AlphaBravo have both stated disliking more left wing voters.
"People who are more conservative/right of centre/neutral, would not do it." I've certainly come across right wing people in real life AND on here who've taken against me PURELY due to my being more left wing.
"I can't believe how long some of your lists are; does anyone qualify to earn the privilege of being your friend??" I'm very lucky to have a strong core group of friends who've known each other since school and seen each other through many major life events. From marriage and children through to divorce, serious illness/disability, job loss, home loss and bereavement among others. Unusual I know. I also have a small group of close friends from uni who I'm still in touch with and are lovely and supportive. Friendships like any relationship need nurturing, I just hope I've been as good a friend as they have to me.