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To change the locks before my husband gets home?

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checkingforballoons · 01/10/2018 10:26

My head’s all over the place. I’ll try to keep it brief.
We had a lovely day yesterday - lots of family time, big roast dinner. I made a delicious crumble. DH and I had a bowl each with some ice cream and there was a decent portion left. I covered it over and went to bed.
I’ve got loads of dull work to do from home today but cheered myself up with the thought of a mid morning coffee and the leftover crumble. Got myself a bowl, uncovered the crumble dish and my world fell apart. It was EMPTY. He’s eaten the leftover crumble AND covered it up again.
I just didn’t see this coming. He’s eaten the last Hobnob or something when we were younger but I thought he’d changed.
Has anyone been through similar and managed to make things work?

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MrsStrowman · 01/10/2018 10:29

😂 I love that it is exactly what you planned to do but he got there first! Did he have it for breakfast?

GiveMeAllTheGin8 · 01/10/2018 10:29

LTB I wouldn't want that kind of negativity in my life

hungryhippo90 · 01/10/2018 10:31

OP, that’s abuse. Log it with 101

nellieellie · 01/10/2018 10:31

I’m sorry, but I can’t get past the idea of having a portion of CRUMBLE with a mid morning coffee. Crumble is only to be had as part of a main meal surely?

Nesssie · 01/10/2018 10:32

LTB. Covering up the empty bowl is calculating.

I went out to dinner with my partner yesterday, ordered a sharing platter with two portions of chips. One each right? Greedy fucker tried to eat my chips too... Thought I was joking when I told him to do one. Honestly can't look at him the same.

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checkingforballoons · 01/10/2018 10:32

As far as I know he had bran flakes. But can I trust him after this?
It was the covering it back over that hurt. Couldn’t even be a man and put the empty dish in the sink.

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MissusGeneHunt · 01/10/2018 10:33

I couldn't cope with such immense fuckwittery... Have my first Biscuit (to eat in replacement) and my first LTB. Men these days.... Tsk tsk.

nellieellie · 01/10/2018 10:33

It’s the putting the cover back on an empty dish that would get me. Sneaky. Op I’d say this is about more than a fruit dessert (apple or blackberry?). This is about HONESTY. You need to have a talk. Maybe counselling.

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checkingforballoons · 01/10/2018 10:33

Sorry to drip feed but I’m writing the work newsletter today. It was either crumble or gin.

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checkingforballoons · 01/10/2018 10:34

Apple, blackberry AND blueberry Sad

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ChocolateOrIDie · 01/10/2018 10:34

That is pure cheeky fuckery. Empty his bank accounts and run away with a Spanish lover NOW

CoffeeShortbread · 01/10/2018 10:35

Crumble with ice cream?

He did you a favour, OP. Custard is the only way. You know it makes sense.

peachgreen · 01/10/2018 10:36

Yeah, you lost my sympathy at ice cream OP. You don't deserve crumble. Heathen.

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checkingforballoons · 01/10/2018 10:36

He...he doesn’t like custard. That’s why we had ice cream.
Oh god I’ve been so naive haven’t I.

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KathDayKnight50 · 01/10/2018 10:37

He’s eaten the leftover crumble AND covered it up again

Not sure I could forgive this level of deceit. Trying to cover his tracks too! No, no, just NO!

Shock
iliketomoveitmoveitMOVEIT · 01/10/2018 10:40

Jackie? is that you?!

(Shit on the shitting thing)

Hidingtonothing · 01/10/2018 10:40

When someone tells you who they are you must listen OP, he doesn’t like custard, all the signs were there, I’m so sorry Sad

CoffeeShortbread · 01/10/2018 10:40

He doesn’t like custard? How is that even possible?

DoYouLikeHueyLewisandTheNews · 01/10/2018 10:40

You are supposed to be a partnership. Do you think he has any hidden crumbles you don’t know about? While he’s at work I’d check the cupboards for any suggestions of a secret life - butter, poached fruit, even something sordid like packet crumble mix. Get your affairs in order, bulk order some bramley apples or flour but keep them hidden. Do you have a safe oven you can utilise that he doesn’t know about? The crumble could stay in a friend’s fridge until you know what you’re dealing with.

MadeForThis · 01/10/2018 10:41

How can you live with someone who can deceive you like this?

What else is he covering up?

peachgreen · 01/10/2018 10:41

He doesn't like custard?!

OP, have my first LTB.

KathDayKnight50 · 01/10/2018 10:41

@DoYouLikeHueyLewisandTheNews

Great advice here. Grin

MaggieSimpsonsPacifier · 01/10/2018 10:42

I have eaten
the crumble
that was in
the icebox

and which
you were probably
saving
for breakfast

Forgive me
it was delicious
so sweet
and so cold

KathDayKnight50 · 01/10/2018 10:44

Apple, blackberry AND blueberry

Too much forbidden fruit and he was tempted.

I'm so sorry, OP.

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checkingforballoons · 01/10/2018 10:45

He did pick up some ready made pastry when we did the shopping. I’m only joining the dots now.
I don’t know if I can approach a friend about borrowing their fridge just yet, I’m too embarassed to tell anyone. I almost feel like it’s my fault for making such a nice crumble.
Suddenly the fancy Kenwood mixer he bought himself is making a lot more sense.

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