To change the locks before my husband gets home?

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My head’s all over the place. I’ll try to keep it brief.
We had a lovely day yesterday - lots of family time, big roast dinner. I made a delicious crumble. DH and I had a bowl each with some ice cream and there was a decent portion left. I covered it over and went to bed.
I’ve got loads of dull work to do from home today but cheered myself up with the thought of a mid morning coffee and the leftover crumble. Got myself a bowl, uncovered the crumble dish and my world fell apart. It was EMPTY. He’s eaten the leftover crumble AND covered it up again.
I just didn’t see this coming. He’s eaten the last Hobnob or something when we were younger but I thought he’d changed.
Has anyone been through similar and managed to make things work?

It was either crumble or gin
That's an idea OP - cook the blackberries in some gin, then put in crumb.e

Please whatever you do - DON’T confront him until you have all the evidence. Start looking at shopping receipts, can you get into his phone and check FB or Instagram for any incriminating pictures of this kind of thing? Sorry to say it but he might also be eating an extra dessert on his way home from work.

Make sure you have got everything you need together - sugar, flour, fruit, and the mixer, before you confront him and then change the locks when he leaves.

Good luck.

Me and dh have leftover wars. The worst was when I was 8 days past my due date and feeling sorry for myself. I'd made a huge crumble (more crumble than fruit) and served 3/4 with dinner. The next day after suffering the school run I was ready to grab the last hunk of crumble but instead he'd taken all but a slither of the crumble topping and left all the fruit. It actually tipped me over the edge and I cried for ages! Even now I panic if we have leftover crumble!

Its the calculating deceit which is so hurtful, I bet if you confront him he will deny it and start gaslighting. I fear this is the thin end of the wedge, LTB for sure.
Change the locks and throw his stuff out of the windows (I worry about your self esteem OP that you even have to ask to be honest )

Ducks in a row time OP. It must be so difficult but I sense that you never really trusted him again after the cheese thing, you probably always knew in the back of your mind he'd do it again and now here he comes out with the custard. I'm sure there will be some other dairy products waiting in the wings, he'll follow the Script just like all the rest

I have another idea also OP go and buy yourself some delicious custard based dessert for after dinner tonight. Leave the crumble dish with the cover over it and tell him you saved him that for after dinner as you have a lovely custard dessert and you know he doesn't like custard.

If he starts bringing home that Lactose free milk you'll have your answer

Tesco and Ambrosia both do individual pots of custard. Never put your needs second again, OP.

I have always had this theory that it was Adam that filched the apple of the tree & blamed Eve - this establishes the on-going truth/evidence of male deceit - sigh :)

I agree with throwing all his things out of the window after you change the locks. They will need going over with a cheese grater however to achieve that crumblelike finish. Very effective on the inside of underwear.

OP you should get your ducks in a row, buy some of the little single pots of custard to have on standby in the cupboard. Leave him to his ice cream, you have to do what's best for yourself and make sure you're setting a good example for any DC.

off the tree!

@iliketomoveitmoveitMOVEIT

It's my life ambition to turn into Jackie. 'lovely bit of squirrel

Shalom Cucumber

You need to have a secret stash somewhere!

Fuck it, kill him. I'll give you an alibi.

That is pure, unadulterated, calulating, headfuckwittery.

What a bastard.

I'm not victim blaming but you should have put it in the salad drawer. Mine's full of gin and chocolate wirh a few leaves of rocket scattered on top as camouflage.

I understand that in these situations, you can get a free half hour of advice from Waitrose or Sainsbury’s, so you can weigh up the best way forward for you and any DCs. Might sound a bit dramatic right now, but honestly, listen to everyone on here, he’ll be back, apeeling to your better nature, “but I didn’t really enjoy it.. it was only the once... I thought you weren’t interested in crumble these days”.

I think unfortunately you’re going to have to do some detective work in the future, and maybe put the crumble on your find-a-crumble app, so you can track it even when you’re at work?

Good luck OP, remember, once the trust has gone, it’s very hard to get back.

Get rid of him then go and get yourself a pack of jammie wagon wheels, it's the only logical explanation

*Fuck it, kill him. I'll give you an alibi.

That is pure, unadulterated, calulating, headfuckwittery.

What a bastard.*

This thread is just what I needed this morning, not that I'm laughing at what is obviously a very bad case of crumble theft OP.

do not say a word, don't mention it to him. Plot your revenge and do something similar and when he erupts, remind him of the crumble.

I made a crumble yesterday too (Apple and nectarines with almond flour in the crumble bit) have seen evidence on the worktop that some has been eaten this morning.
Debating whether to look now and see how much he left me, or go nuts later when I go to get some and there's none left.?
Is it a plot I wonder?
Also if he had just washed the dishes I would be no wiser about it.

@EdisonLightBulb are you a scorpio by any chance? 😂

I'd text him a photo of the empty dish. Let him know that you know what he's done. Let him spend all day sweating over the confrontation he knows is waiting for him at home.

(Then tell him that he'd better come bearing your favorite chocolate/snack of choice as a peace offering.)

I hope he gets his just desserts.

Next time you make a crumble make him his own individual one and replace the sugar with salt.

Revenge is not sweet.