To change the locks before my husband gets home?

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My head’s all over the place. I’ll try to keep it brief.
We had a lovely day yesterday - lots of family time, big roast dinner. I made a delicious crumble. DH and I had a bowl each with some ice cream and there was a decent portion left. I covered it over and went to bed.
I’ve got loads of dull work to do from home today but cheered myself up with the thought of a mid morning coffee and the leftover crumble. Got myself a bowl, uncovered the crumble dish and my world fell apart. It was EMPTY. He’s eaten the leftover crumble AND covered it up again.
I just didn’t see this coming. He’s eaten the last Hobnob or something when we were younger but I thought he’d changed.
Has anyone been through similar and managed to make things work?

Plus, you had ice-cream because HE doesn't like custard!

Do you find you are always giving way on your feelings and needs, OP? He is trying to change you and that's not on.

It never seemed worth opening custard just for me. Maybe I should have been stronger.

If he'd just eaten it then fair enough, I'd probably swear to myself a bit but get over it. But he covered it up and left the dish there so you would think there was some left, that is unforgivable!

You know this is as good as a declaration of war. You need hiding places, stashes and secret codes to remind you what they are and where they are.

Well I think you should be grateful! I lovingly saved my 'D'H some left over greek salad and the ungrateful cur didn't even touch it.

Now I'm wondering if he's getting leftovers somewhere else.....

Otherwise you’ll be finding left over crumbles in the bottom of the spare room en suite shower weeks after it was put there.

Suddenly the fancy Kenwood mixer he bought himself is making a lot more sense

It's not bright red is it? Does the top come off? Big motor?

Sounds like a classic midlife crisis to me.

The deceit! LTB

I want crumble (with custard) now!! 😟

Whatever you do, don't contact him and tell him you know or else he'll have his excuses worked out by the time he gets home. Better to confront him face to face and see his reaction.
It will take time to get over this deceit but time and is a great healer.

I'd also check his Internet search history. Could prove very illuminating!

You don't want to do this in a half-baked way, that's for sure...stay strong and don't crumble...we'll stay here on this thread and apple-awse you all the way, OP!

Wheel out the Mumsnet Stocks. Several hours imprisoned and the Mumsnet Massive all in front of him demolishing crumble. No nonsense about ice-cream either, latherings of custard.

Incidently OP, opening custard? Surely you should make your own from scratch.

YABU, early bird catches the worm and all that. LOVE leftover crumble!

YABU, early bird catches the worm and all that. LOVE leftover crumble!

I'm shocked! Where's your sisterhood! You're not the OW are you?!

The first rule of living with a greedy pig slightly sneaky person who eats the crumble which you had decided to eat yourself without any thought of saving any for them because you are also a greedy pig is to hide said crumble in the salad drawer of the refrigerator.

Many many chocolate bars, delicious desserts etc, have spent their last hours looking at lovely lettuce and peppers before I have sneakily eaten them when dp has gone out after lamenting that none of the delicious insert dessert of choice is left. .

So I don't recommend changing the locks, just your attitude to hiding places for delicious desserts. for you, you can pretend it is nearly as tasty as the crumble you never got to finish.

You knowingly married someone who doesn't like custard. Frankly you have got what was coming to you.

Oh and next time open the custard, put it on your portion then poor it all over the left over portion, that should stop him in his tracks! .

He didn’t like cheese when we met. But we worked through it.

If you are prepared to forgive him then next time (there will be a next time, believe me) portion the leftover crumble into individual servings and pour custard over yours. Not ideal, but it will stop the CF in his tracks.

Hide the food from now on. It’s the only way to save your marriage trust me.

You should have seen this coming. Only a deceitful wanker doesn't like custard. Im not victim blaming, but have some common sense eh? You should have LTB long ago. I hope you don't have DC with him.

What you do.. is you head to town and either go to:
A) Tesco - find his most favourite drink or pudding or food, photograph it send it to him with the caption, "How's this for tonight?" Then don't buy it. Let him look forward to it all day and then simply remind him bout the crumble when he expects his treat.
Or
B) do exactly the same as above but use a photo of sexy lingerie instead and then get into bed in granny pants and a good book..

Up to you which..

This marriage is clearly crumbling. Get out now before it's too late.

I’m too embarassed to tell anyone. I almost feel like it’s my fault for making such a nice crumble.

Don't feel embarrassed, OP! You're the victim here. It's not your fault.