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To change the locks before my husband gets home?

210 replies

checkingforballoons · 01/10/2018 10:26

My head’s all over the place. I’ll try to keep it brief.
We had a lovely day yesterday - lots of family time, big roast dinner. I made a delicious crumble. DH and I had a bowl each with some ice cream and there was a decent portion left. I covered it over and went to bed.
I’ve got loads of dull work to do from home today but cheered myself up with the thought of a mid morning coffee and the leftover crumble. Got myself a bowl, uncovered the crumble dish and my world fell apart. It was EMPTY. He’s eaten the leftover crumble AND covered it up again.
I just didn’t see this coming. He’s eaten the last Hobnob or something when we were younger but I thought he’d changed.
Has anyone been through similar and managed to make things work?

OP posts:
Mildmanneredmum · 01/10/2018 12:33

Hairbrush - did you really believe "the dog ate my cheesecake" story? Really?

tillytrotter1 · 01/10/2018 12:34

Text him 'Do you know what happened to that bit of crumble in the fridge, I'd put some poison in to get rid of the mice, I was going to spread outside today'.

My OH is a conspicuous leaver, whatever we're having he leaves a bit behind. He always insists that I take my meal first then he gets his but leaves a bit, and I'm talking about a tablespoon of chili beef, a spoonful of rice, half a roast potato etc, although he will then sometimes put it all into a bowl and warm it up for lunch. In the meantime though the fridge has dozens of little plastic pots taking up loads of space.

DolorestheNewt · 01/10/2018 12:34

As far as I know he had bran flakes
This was the tipping point into weeping with laughter. God knows why.

Flooffloof · 01/10/2018 12:34

Sommelierrrr

Ah come on it's satire, if we can't laugh we would cry.
Some of these posters will in fact have gone through some horrible times, me included.

trulybadlydeeply · 01/10/2018 12:34

Sommelierrrr I've been through it, in RL, but still find this thread enormously entertaining. In fact, after a difficult conversation with my solicitor just now, it was just what I needed. Thanks for cheering me up OP Grin

peachgreen · 01/10/2018 12:35

@MaggieSimpsonsPacifier Grin

KathDayKnight50 · 01/10/2018 12:35

@Sommelierrrr

Sounds like you could answer this question. What kind of wine goes with apple-crumble? Would having custard make a difference at all?

KathDayKnight50 · 01/10/2018 12:37

I had to leave my first husband when he was at work because he had a violent temper and I was too afraid of the confrontation. Then, my mother actually told him where I was living after I expressly asked her not to!

I am still enjoying this thread though.

RayRayBidet · 01/10/2018 12:40

@KathDayKnight50
Some second best friend you turned out to be.

mummmy2017 · 01/10/2018 12:41

Get yourself a lush cake...
Start to eat it in front of him and as you lick your lips tell him he can have a sweet too.. There is crumble left in the fridge.

elfycat · 01/10/2018 12:45

My DH has just suggested that we get an expensive mixer as a Xmas gift (we don't buy gifts for each other, but buy something 'for the house' with the budget). He said it was to continue his experiments into bread making but I'm beginning to wonder if this is the first step into something darker.

He's the type when asked if he'd like custard, cream or ice cream in a restaurant to want all 3. This isn't a good sign is it? He's showing indecisiveness and gluttony though ice cream with hot custard is a wonderful thing

Do you think I should confront him? Or suggest we buy an alternative Xmas gift to the house and then watch his reaction?

I feel for you OP. There has been a lot of good advice on this thread, and i hope you can find your way through this difficult time. Use MN for all the support you need. We understand. Flowers

IthinkIsawahairbrushbackthere · 01/10/2018 12:52

Mildmanneredmum - I think they may have shared it.

HalleLouja · 01/10/2018 12:54

LTB

Though I think MNHQ needs a crumble emoticon if that is at all possible.

Gigglebrain · 01/10/2018 12:54

Ltb!

Gazelda · 01/10/2018 12:57

Wow that's sneaky. Nobody likes sneaks.
He'll know what he's done and how hurt and disappointed you will be on the discovery.
He'll either come home with flowers or will go to the pub straight from work. He won't be able to face you.
Shitty behaviour.

MorningsEleven · 01/10/2018 12:57

@KathDayKnight50
Did you pacifically ask her?

Isitsixoclockalready · 01/10/2018 12:58

LTB
Ducks in a row
Spa day

ScrimshawTheSecond · 01/10/2018 13:00

Make him a branflake crumble for tonight's dinner and serve it in his lap. Bastard.

RayRayBidet · 01/10/2018 13:01

@MorningsEleven
Are you effluent?

wafflyversatile · 01/10/2018 13:06

Have you changed the locks yet?

And whatsapped him a photo of the empty dish and his clothes scattered on the front lawn?

MorningsEleven · 01/10/2018 13:06

@RayRayBidet

Brett just got a pay rise, I'm super effluent.

RayRayBidet · 01/10/2018 13:07

@MorningsEleven
You are also a hornbag

MorningsEleven · 01/10/2018 13:09

I know! We should so go out for a glass of Cardonnay.

RayRayBidet · 01/10/2018 13:12

Ooh and some footie franks!

Urbanbeetler · 01/10/2018 13:25

As long as he is a manly hunk of spunk,I would forgive him eventually.