Wedding Drama

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I’ve namechanged as this is very outing.

A close friend of mine has got engaged and has asked me to be bridesmaid. I, of course, said yes and have been happily helping her plan. She’s had some bridezilla moments but they are mainly with her MIL who is a bit crazy.

So the problem is with the bridesmaids’ dresses. I’m a firm believer of wearing whatever the bride wants you to. She has also asked us all to pay for our dresses but she told us upfront when she asked us to be bridesmaids that we would need to so we are fine with this (within reason). There are 6 of us and we all absolutely hate the dress she has picked. She has found it online with her DM and it is honestly the fuglest dress I have ever seen.

www.kissydress.co.uk/product/orange-organza-ruffles-sweetheart-floor-length-ball-gown

We’ve decided to tell her how we feel and drew straws. I obviously drew the short straw. So AIBU to tell her that we do not want to wear and pay for these monstrosities? How do I do that without upsetting her? She’s so stressed and I don’t want to add to that.

She wants them in yellow btw. Not a flattering colour on any of us

Looks like those toilet roll cover dolls from the 70s and 80s.

I have to agree... this dress is hideous!!!

She secretly hates you all!

The grooms men could wear these to match?

www.escapade.co.uk/adult-costumes/disney-cartoon/beauty-and-the-beast-movie-costume-820452.asp?gclid=EAIaIQobChMI95b9jqje3QIVwrTtCh0r6QlOEAQYAiABEgJjsvD_BwE

There is a fb page called Knock Off Nightmares

Its hilarous/sad and explains why buying from china is not a great idea

When my daughter was bridesmaid to her friend, she wouldn't let me go to the church to see her in her bridesmaids dress, because the dress was so hideous (Think orange milkmaids outfit). The worst thing was she couldn't have a moan to the other bridesmaid because the dresses had been bought from her. She had them for her own wedding and her mum had made them...

I'd go with the dodgy website approach.

How did it go OP...?

Hopefully well and the friendship group (and bank balances) remain intact.

Heads up OP, this story is now on the Daily Star website.

"Bride BLASTED over 'hideous' wedding dress choise"

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.dailystar.co.uk/real-life/732960/mumsnet-aibu-wedding-etiquette-bridesmaids-dress-ugly-am-i-being-unreasonable/amp

How did she take it?

Really?!

How can a paper take something as sensitive as this and splash it across the world.

Oh god, I hope it was a joke, if it's now been reported by a shitty journalist.

She must be having a laugh?

She must be thinking you wearing that will make her look the beesknees, surely?

Get the Daily Star to sponsor the bridesmaid dresses.
Why don’t you each have one in different colours. You will look like the Disney Parade!

@MrsMozart OP already made it public by putting it on a public forum here. The bride is as likely to see it here as on the Star website.

Now the question as to whether copy-and-pasting responses on a forum counts as journalism is another matter...

We prefer to make every hand ruching fit you in the most adequate way and present your beauty

Most adequate...

Epic

I need an update I hope OP and Bride are both okay!
It’s an absolute monstrosity

@furx
The literacy is really outstanding

EmUntitled Indeed she did. I guess the difference is the anticipated audience.

I have been following this thread with interest, having seen some extraordinary sights when singing at weddings; I decided the click on the link to see what all the fuss was about. I agree with the consensus. What I had forgotten was, that when you search a topic, the internet decides that you will want to see LOTS of other variations on that theme, so I am now being accosted with bridesmaids dress suggestions, in varying degrees of tastefulness, every time I check my emails. Thanks, interweb.

they look like belles dress!!!!

i wouldnt be paying for that but would love it as a halloween/themed party dress.

Sorry for the delay on the update. Been a crazy day.

So I spent a lot of time yesterday finding alternative dresses and I wrote a load of notes of what I was going to say. I know this was OTT but I was just really anxious and it helped me organise my mind.

I went over to the bride’s house and we were talking about wedding stuff. After a while,I brought up the dress. I said that we were concerned as the website looked very dodgy and that even if the site was legit we would struggle in photos, etc. She started off really calm and then just just yelling at me and saying that we all hated her and wanted to ruin her wedding. She said that we were just jealous of her as her fiancé is so great and that she is the first of us to get married (which isn’t actually true as one of the bridesmaids is married). Then she ran off crying and locked herself in the bedroom

I gave her a few minutes then tried to talk to her through the bedroom door. She told me to fuck off. I had no idea what to do so I called the other bridesmaids, no one answered. I was really upset that we had all upset her so much and said that we would wear them and apologised for upsetting her.

Suddenly the door flew open and there she was with all the other bridesmaids. They all burst out laughing and yelled ‘gotcha!’ To be honest I was actually really angry at first as I was worrying about it all day. But I calmed down and now I’m just relieved that I don’t have to wear that hideous dress!

On the upside as an apology I get to pick the bridesmaid dresses now

If that really happened, I would tell the lot of them to get fucked.

I hate practical jokes, and that one was particularly cruel. Who the fuck would make their close friend worry like that 'for a laugh'?