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Namechanger86745 · 28/09/2018 11:59

I’ve namechanged as this is very outing.

A close friend of mine has got engaged and has asked me to be bridesmaid. I, of course, said yes and have been happily helping her plan. She’s had some bridezilla moments but they are mainly with her MIL who is a bit crazy.

So the problem is with the bridesmaids’ dresses. I’m a firm believer of wearing whatever the bride wants you to. She has also asked us all to pay for our dresses but she told us upfront when she asked us to be bridesmaids that we would need to so we are fine with this (within reason). There are 6 of us and we all absolutely hate the dress she has picked. She has found it online with her DM and it is honestly the fuglest dress I have ever seen.

We’ve decided to tell her how we feel and drew straws. I obviously drew the short straw. So AIBU to tell her that we do not want to wear and pay for these monstrosities? How do I do that without upsetting her? She’s so stressed and I don’t want to add to that.

She wants them in yellow btw. Not a flattering colour on any of us

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AhYeahOkayThen · 28/09/2018 14:09

£144.99 of FUGLY. Shock

WhateverHappenedToTheHeatwave · 28/09/2018 14:10

Thats hideous. I would back out of being a bridesmaid before wearing that.

Unicornandbows · 28/09/2018 14:10

Why don't you send her a text message saying we've all seen the dress gave us a good laugh 😂 for a second we all thought you were serious but I know you well enough for us not to parade in such atrocities haha nice try at fooling us.

Something along those lines in your own words.. If you know what I mean

HeebieJeebies456 · 28/09/2018 14:15

I’m mentally preparing myself that I may have to end up buying that dress

Well, they say a fool and his money are easily separated.....

Seriously though, woman up and grow a backbone.
I wouldn't pay that much for a bridesmaid dress let alone any dress that i couldn't wear again in public unless it was my own wedding outfit

WickedGirl · 28/09/2018 14:15

If she wants a specific dress, she needs to pay for them

That website sounds as dodgy as anything

AcrossthePond55 · 28/09/2018 14:17

First off, I'd have 2 of you at the 'talk' with the bride. That way she'll really understand that it isn't just you. Secondly, you'll need to be really sure that the rest of the BMs aren't going to backtrack, leaving you alone falling on your sword.

purplelass · 28/09/2018 14:18

I'd just say that you're worried about buying anything off that site because of the shocking reviews and you'd rather invest in something that you're able to try on in store.

That way you're not dissing the dress but showing concern that anything from the website might cause her problems which she doesn't need at a stressful time.

Seriously hoping it's a wind up though!

And whatever you do, don't buy the dress

Maddy70 · 28/09/2018 14:19

This has to be a joke.
I would show her this thread :)

3luckystars · 28/09/2018 14:21

No way.

If this is true, then tell her that you don't think the site is trustworthy. Just show up with photos of some dresses you all like. (5 or 6 options)

Don't show up with problems, bring the solution with you.

Gazelda · 28/09/2018 14:25

Maybe with the right accessories ... (clutches as straws)

Dodie66 · 28/09/2018 14:27

You do realise that the dresses are from China don’t you? I’ve read several forum posts where people have bought from sites like this and the dresses were horrible when they arrived. Can’t you. Use that as a way to get out of it?

GerdaLovesLili · 28/09/2018 14:32

I've found the wedding cake!

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GerdaLovesLili · 28/09/2018 14:36

Actually, this one's rather good. What a shame you won't get to look as elegant as a cake!

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purplelass · 28/09/2018 14:38

GerdaLovesLili I've found the wedding cake!


3luckystars · 28/09/2018 14:39

Best man suits:

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verite · 28/09/2018 14:40

This surely has to be a spoof thread? I find it impossible to believe that anyone would chose that as a bridesmaid dress

FunSponges · 28/09/2018 14:41

Please post a photo of the BMs if you do buy that dress 😆.

firstdegreehb · 28/09/2018 14:42

That dress is so bad that this must be a wind up...

Gazelda · 28/09/2018 14:46

I'd love to see the bride's frock!

gassylady · 28/09/2018 14:47

You will look like a bunch of those toilet roll covers

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 28/09/2018 14:49

I don't actually mind the dress but the colour is awful and wouldn't be any better in yellow - you'd all look like Big Bird!!
It's also far too expensive for a dress that you all hate.

confusedmomm · 28/09/2018 14:52

That's really ugly

kenandbarbie · 28/09/2018 14:54

I think it's really rude to ask bridesmaids to pay for their dress.

If they're really skint then at a push the bridesmaids could pay, but then they should be able to choose what they want.

Snowymountainsalways · 28/09/2018 14:54

This has to be a wind up surely. I am not even sure how she has managed to find anyone to manufacture such an eyesore much less charge that much for it Confused

shamofamockery · 28/09/2018 14:59

Holy shit, that's disgusting. It's a no from me. I'd just say "we all had a good laugh at the joke bridesmaid dress you sent through, you had us worried for a minute!! What will we really be wearing"?!?

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