Op the problem is the people that are pushing this TRA agenda aren't the transpeople that just want to get on with their lives.
They're people who literally get off on invading women's spaces. So yes, it matters to me that I can be undressed in a changing room and a predator can say 'I identify as a woman, let me in' and in they come.
That person might be trans (because some transpeople are predators) or they might not be (because obviously not all trans people are predators, no one is saying that). They might just be a bloke that fancied spying on some vulnerable women or wanted to make them part of his kink. But the way things are going there is literally no way for us to know who is who until they are already committing a crime against you. I'm not willing to be the victim of a crime to protect someone's feelings. I'm just not.
Feminists are angry because this is so, so dangerous. Gender non-confirming children are literally being told that they must be the other sex and pushed to take hormone blockers, denying them the opportunity to go through a proper puberty and all of the maturation and brain development that comes with it, just because they don't fit in with the right 'gender' box. Access to mental health services for these children is sorely lacking because medicating them and not trying to understand the root cause of their dysphoria is approved practice. How is that understanding or accepting or inclusive of diversity?
It is so important to understand that trans doesn't mean what it used to. The people pushing this agenda are physically violent, aggressive, misogynistic bullies that think a cross dressing man is the same as a woman and should be afforded access to spaces, scholarships, and charities set up to help women that have been disadvantaged as a result of their sex. They aren't 'trapped in the wrong body' because you don't need to be to be trans anymore. The trans women (because it is mostly men that identify as women pushing this) are entirely different to the children that genuinely struggle with their identity (predominately girls trying to figure out how in the hell they fit into this fucked up patriarchy) and they're throwing the people that are actually struggling under the bus too.