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Holiday fall out

484 replies

Starleaf · 26/09/2018 18:32

Ok so I'm on holiday abroad with a friend and her two late teen children. It was my friends birthday yesterday, I packed birthday banners and ordered a cake and a bottle of fizz for her from the hotel. We went on a special day trip that I knew she wanted to do. Got back to hotel got ready for dinner and a night out, maybe a dance bar. All good so far. We had a lovely meal and decided to have a walk and find a bar. We passed several that were either showing football or boxing. Almost at the end of the strip we came to a place that was busy, playing music with people dancing. Just as we went in a song I love came on and I went to dance beckoning for my friend to follow. She didn't so when the song finished I went back to join her and asked if she'd like a drink. She said she didn't like the bar and was leaving.
I'll admit I wad pissed off at this point and walked out with my friend and kids following. I didn't walk fast but she hung back and the three of them stopped at a market, so I was on my own. I got back to our room (2 bed apt) and went to the bathroom. When I came out one of her kids was sleeping in her bed, and she'd gone to the other bedroom. I asked her why and she suddenly became very angry. She said as it was her birthday I should have done everything she wanted.
She has since told me she doesn't want anything more to do with me, I spoiled her birthday and that our friendship is finished.
I told her she was behaving immaturely. We haven't really spoken since, and they've now gone out for dinner leaving me in the room.
AIBU to think she'd had the whole day doing what she wanted, could she not have stayed at the bar for one drink, and has she over reacted?

OP posts:
Jlynhope · 26/09/2018 19:41

I'm still confused why you were pissed off and left the bar without them?

Sallycinammonbangsthedruminthe · 26/09/2018 19:42

odd choice of friend you have there OP!!!

speakout · 26/09/2018 19:44

You all sound drunk.

HollowTalk · 26/09/2018 19:46

Whatever has happened, she is very wrong to go out now with her children and leave you behind. That's ganging up on you.

Lifeisabeach09 · 26/09/2018 19:47

Fuck 'em!
Continue the holiday on your own and go have fun solo.

Bunnyfuller · 26/09/2018 19:50

I think OP was pissed off her friend wanted to leave the bar. It still feels like there’s a gap in the story though. Was your friend ok to go to a bar? Or perhaps she was knackered and just wanted to go back.

Unless you’ve missed some important detail she sounds a bit of a twat.

mypointofview · 26/09/2018 19:52

What adult storms out in a major strop on front of their kids on their birthday, leaving them looking silly in a strange place, just because their friend didn't want to stay?
A twat who has just run out of chances.

beanaseireann · 26/09/2018 19:53

It's my birthday and I'll strop if I want to. Smile
To the tune of 'Its my party and I'll cry if I want to'

BrendasUmbrella · 26/09/2018 19:55

Any chance she was upset for another reason and took it out on you? Did she get any gifts on the day from her kids?

Ellisandra · 26/09/2018 19:56

Sounds like it was you who wanted to find a dance bar, not her.

In my mind, she was pissed off because she’d walked all the way to the end of the strip past loads of shitty football bars when she didn’t want to (and it was her birthday Wink)

Then you see a bar that you like, dive in only beckoning her, then she’s stood around with the kids whilst you dance - ignoring that fact that the 3 of them haven’t joined you.

When you do go back to them, you “admit you were pissed off” so I’ll assume that meant they knew it. Why pissed off? Just because they wouldn’t dance with you?

They wanted to leave, but you left first with them behind - which does hint at you rather sweeping out in a huff.

You then didn’t bother to hang back with them, which will again have looked huffy.

I’m going to theorise that you were a bit pissed, and totally not reading signals that your friend had had enough for the day, before you left her standing whilst you danced, then went off in a seeming huff.

Havaina · 26/09/2018 19:57

@SoyDora

Havaina before picking apart my post, re read the OP. She states clearly that she left the bar first. She says she was ‘pissed off’ at that point. I was trying to establish why she was pissed off. She beckoned the friend into the bar to dance with her to a particular song, and the friend didn’t want to. Why would that piss the OP off?

If you're trying to establish why OP was pissed off, why not just ask her that instead of saying she stormed out?

SoyDora · 26/09/2018 19:59

Eh? My question was ‘why were you pissed off?’.

mypointofview · 26/09/2018 20:00

Havaina

And why shouldn't her friend have decided she wanted to leave? Is that not allowed.

I don't think you're going to answer, are you.

Havaina · 26/09/2018 20:01

@SoyDora you added 'enough to storm out', which is not a fact but your speculation

SoyDora · 26/09/2018 20:02

I'll admit I wad pissed off at this point and walked out with my friend and kids following

You’re right. Completely unfair speculation.

Havaina · 26/09/2018 20:05

@mypoint

And why shouldn't her friend have decided she wanted to leave? Is that not allowed.

Yes, because I said it's not allowed 🙄. People are saying OP stormed out - but it was the friend who wanted to leave. OP doesnt say she stormed out.

I don't think you're going to answer, are you.

Who do you think you are, Paxo?

3ChangingForNow · 26/09/2018 20:07

Lol you sound selfish. Its her birthday she didn't like the bar why were you pissed off?

Havaina · 26/09/2018 20:07

@mypoint - why are you calling OP a twat? Why so nasty to a stranger on the internet, who hasn't done anything wrong?

WildfirePonie · 26/09/2018 20:09

I know this isn't the point of the thread, but you already went for dinner. Why have they gone for dinner again?

The birthday was yesterday, so they've gone out to dinner without OP tonight. This hasn't all happened on the same day.

Just as we went in so they were all going into this bar...

delphguelph · 26/09/2018 20:09

Uh?

LIZS · 26/09/2018 20:10

Friend wanted to leave with her dc then op stropped out first. Maybe she felt it unsuitable , noisy, not to her taste, hot and stuffy - why should she indulge op ?

HowlsMovingBungalow · 26/09/2018 20:13
SinglePringle · 26/09/2018 20:20

HowIs it’s not just me thenConfused?!

The way people have interpreted this thread makes me wonder if comprehension is still taught in schools.

🦇💩 flying about all over the place.

bettytaghetti · 26/09/2018 20:25

Is mypointofview the (ex) friend?

MorningsEleven · 26/09/2018 20:28

I'm wondering which ones are the children in this scenario.