To let DD wear this dress to a wedding?

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My friend thinks it's unfair on the bridesmaids/bride?

https://www.matalan.co.uk/product/detail/s2652137c356/girls-corsage-bridesmaid-dress-3-13yrs-cream?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIxOOpkrHU3QIVLZPtCh2o5g63EAQYKCABEgJjlPDBwE

Asking is definitely the right thing to do. No need to upset your DD and spend money on another dress if the bride is fine with it. If you were planning to spend her on an impromptu jaunt down the aisle with a basket of rose petals you would BVVVVU but if it's just a white dress I doubt anyone will care.

Lol. When I clicked the link, it said "There are 100+ people looking at this dress at the moment" and "5 have been bought in the last hour"You could probably ask the shop for commission and use it to buy her another new frock instead

Blue & brown? Let her wear it then. It's much nicer than anything that has been linked to imo.

Monsoon has so many lovely dresses for little girls. I love this one. uk.monsoon.co.uk/view/product/uk_catalog/mon_3,mon_3.3,mon_3.3.1/5150490252

Colour scheme is blue and brown?!

It's fine. She's 4. It's nothing like the bridesmaids' colours.
A question though: for what occasion was it originally bought?

It's fine. She's 4. It's nothing like the bridesmaids' colours.
A question though: for what occasion was it originally bought?

You obviously have doubts or wouldn't be asking. Sort her out with something else (tell her the other one isn't in her size) and then you can concentrate on looking forward to a nice time at the wedding without it being all about your little one's frock!

I think as it’s not matching the colour scheme I’d give her a coloured cardi and it would be fine.

I wouldn't have a problem with it, can't see anything wrong with it for a 4 year old.

She’s four. It’s a pretty dress. She’ll look sweet. It really is fine and anyone objecting would be churlish.

It just looks like a party dress to me. I think 4 year olds are exempt from the rules about not wearing white to weddings personally.

I don't see the problem - bride etc will just think she wanted to dress up for the occasion - we all know what little girls can be like - any excuse. I do not think it is a huge deal. If you are concerned then pop a little cardi over it.

It's fine. She's 4. It's nothing like the bridesmaids' colours.
A question though: for what occasion was it originally bought?

I think it's fine. Just get her a little cardigan or shrug in a colour not related to the wedding theme.

They all look like pretty party dresses to me. As long as she isn’t wearing a circlet of flowers on her head and doesn’t parade up the aisle, I don’t think anyone would think she was a flower girl.

If the colour scheme is different then I’d let her wear it.

Tulips dress link is really pretty.

A little girl (age maybe 8?) did that to my wedding and I thought it was cute, she was obviously doing her best to get into the spirit. Her parents were a bit so I made sure to mention how sweet I thought it was.

She is 4. It's a cute dress. Fashion is not a uniform. Let her wear it. Why shouldn't she get to wear a dress she finds pretty that makes her feel good? If you already own it, buying another one is wasteful and unnecessary if she's excited to wear it. /// She's hardly going to be mistaken for a flower girl if she's not acting as one. She's also 4, she's not going to show the bride up, so anybody getting ridiculous over it being too close to white needs to get a grip. (White is a fashion! Nobody will die! Flowers on dresses do not have protected status for use only by flower girls.)

When dd was 3 we went to a wedding. Friends of dh. I’d seen a bridesmaids dress in John Lewis about 18 months before that was wrongly priced and bought it as a party dress (£2.50 instead of £25). It jusf happened to fit dd perfectly for the wedding. Dh checked with the b&g and they were clear they didn’t mind. As was, they didn’t have any bridesmaids or page boys. So we just kept well out of the way for the photos to ensure the photographer didn’t think dd was part of the bridal party. No one batted an eyelid at dds dress tbh.......... I’d definitely check with them. If you explain you already bought the dress for another party and were wondering if it would be ok to wear of if you should buy something else. There’s nothing wrong with requesting. And there’s nothing wrong with them refusing.

aye. bright cardi and shoes. nothing on head. fine

do they have dinky flower girls and regardless of colour scheme check bms are not wearing white/cream

I've just remembered that when I was about 8 I wore a bridesmaid's dress (from when I was a bridesmaid) to another wedding (where I was not a bridesmaid). It wasn't the same colour as the bridesmaids at that wedding but it looked bloody odd. It was a lot more bridesmaidy than that one though.

It’s fine nothing like the erm unique colour scheme, stick a cardi with it and don’t give her a basket of rose petals to carry