To let DD wear this dress to a wedding?

[veruka]

My friend thinks it's unfair on the bridesmaids/bride?

https://www.matalan.co.uk/product/detail/s2652137c356/girls-corsage-bridesmaid-dress-3-13yrs-cream?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIxOOpkrHU3QIVLZPtCh2o5g63EAQYKCABEgJjlPDBwE

A little girl wore a 3/4 length white bridesmaid dress to our wedding and I didn’t bother. She wore a red shrug over the dress & she would have been just turned 3. I’ve not given it much of a thought until now, I certainly didn’t think wannabe flower girl.

what about something like this? it may save the tears, because what 4 year old doesnt love sparkles! www.lookagain.co.uk/products/honor-maxi-dress-by-monsoon-kids/_/A-90J265_4Y?utm_source=GoogleProductList&utm_medium=PLA&utm_campaign=KidsFashion&utm_content=90J265_4Y&ns_campaign=KidsFashion&ns_mchannel=PLA&ns_source=GoogleProductList&ns_linkname=90J265_4Y&ns_fee=0&ordermedia=L0637&name=LookAgain25Percent&orderoffercode=X3TP&entry=3

Doesn't it depend what the actual flower girls/bridesmaids are wearing? If they're all wearing turquoise or midnight blue I think this dress would be fine. Most little girl party dresses look pretty much like that to me.

It's a lovely dress and such a shame that our daft wedding conventions dictate what kids can wear to weddings! I would have been happy for wee ones to wear whatever they wanted to mine! However lots of people obviously take it seriously so you'd best err on the side of caution and get a less bridesmaidy dress. What about something like this www.tkmaxx.com/kids/girls/dresses+skirts/occasion+party-dresses/gold+pink-spotted-occasion-dress/p/63104063

Let her wear it. It’s nit going to be the same as the bridesmaids so she’s hardly going to be confused for one if the bridal party.

Could you either dye it or take her ahopping for a new one? You don't even have to actually say she can't wear it just go shopping and pick one out she loves and say, " as a special treat I will buy you this if you want to wear this to the wedding instead"

Yes, I noticed that Dickybow.... Matalan will be wondering what on earth is going on. Regarding the OP's question, I certainly wouldn't care if a child wore a dress like that to my wedding..... but then I only had adult bridesmaids. I think "ask the bride" is the best advice here.

The monsoon one above is gorgeous!! Do you think the bride would bother about a dress OP?

no, dont put her in it, it looks like a flower girl dress and your daughter isn't in the wedding party.

If it didn't have that description then I would think it just looks like a little girl's party dress. Let her wear it. She's 4. If anyone gets annoyed they're being ridiculous. Unless there are other small bridesmaids in that or a very similar dress then no one is going to think she's a bridesmaid/flower girl. So what if they do?

Honestly who is really going to care? Unless it’s the exact same dress that the bridesmaids/flower girls are going to wear and you plan on sending your daughter up the aisle with a basket of rose petals, I just don’t think people will even notice. Little girl comes to wedding in pretty dress shock! 🙄

Can't see the Monsoon one: have we crashed their website by all going for a look?

At 4 years old, it will be fine.

My horrible aunt I rarely saw did this for my wedding, told me in advance she was purposely dressing her little darling in a flower girl dress so she looked like one. I ended up paying £100 for my flowergirls to have floral circlets so they stood out as flower girls. In the end the mad aunt didn't even turn up .

Apart from the 4 year old... does anyone actually care what a 4 year old wears to a wedding? I’d be pleased she wanted to dress up for my wedding if I was the bride!

This is really cute too. www.debenhams.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/prod_10701_10001_63430+51507502_-1

What is all the fuss about, I have absolutely no idea what any of the kids wore to my wedding, it’s a kids white dress ?

It's a lovely party dress - she's 4 - surely only a full blown Bridezilla would mind?

A family member turned up with their two daughters in peach satin dresses with hooped skirts and matching tiaras!! Bizarre but to be honest I didn't really care. I probably would let her wear the dress.

Depends on the bride. I would love seeing a little girl in a sweet dress but others might not. Does she think she’s in the wedding?

I think it’s fine, if I saw it in a store i’d just think ‘pretty dress’ not ‘flower girl’ but it depends what the bridesmaids/ flower girls are wearing. I’d ask the bride.

That is a flower girl dress. Do not dress her in it unless that is what she has been invited to be at the wedding

Have you asked the bride yet?

All the little girls wore dresses like that to our wedding. They were not flower girls. They were adorable and looked fantastic on the dance floor.

It’s obviously a flower girl dress, I wouldn’t let her wear it. There are loads of nice party frocks out there - let her choose something else.