To let DD wear this dress to a wedding?

[veruka]

My friend thinks it's unfair on the bridesmaids/bride?

https://www.matalan.co.uk/product/detail/s2652137c356/girls-corsage-bridesmaid-dress-3-13yrs-cream?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIxOOpkrHU3QIVLZPtCh2o5g63EAQYKCABEgJjlPDBwE

[Aridane]

Yeh -:it’s got to be someone who’s seen this thread

[MarianneAgain]

@Aridane "Lol at the first review of the dress!!"

ROFLOL. Well spotted.... I wonder what AmandaJS's MN handle is because she is definitely on this thread somewhere.... the date is a dead giveaway...... there's no way it's coincidental.

[Princess1066]

Oops Dastardly sorry

[Princess1066]

@ADastadlyThing

That's brilliant

[Mumsnut]

Just ask the bride if she'd mind.

[LaurieMarlow]

was the talk of the day about how inappropriate it was

Do people really not have anything better to talk about than this? How pathetic.

[Leapfrog44]

who CARES what a 4 year old wears to a wedding? Christ I couldn't believe there are unspoken rules of etiquette about the colour of a child's dress. These people are living on a different planet to me. Put her in what you damn well want. She's 4 FFS

[ADastardlyThing]

Pah! These stories are nothing.

I once wore a dress like that at a wedding when I was about 8 and was mistaken for the bride and was married by accident.

[ReanimatedSGB]

Look, almost any smart/formal/party-type dress for a little girl will be sold online with additonal 'bridesmaid' and 'flowergirl' keywords, simply to boost the rankings (and, of course, to help out those who are looking for such a thing.) Sellers often add 'princess' to the listing for the same reason, but it doesn't mean people will think a kid wearning such a dress is actually royal.
I can see that PP are sensitive to it because they have direct experience of pushy cunts doing this type of thing deliberately to upset or manipulate the bride, but that doesn't make the OP such a person. She just wants to keep her DDhappy nd get her money's worth out of the DD's party frock.

[kierenthecommunity]

When I got married, some friends of my parents bought and allowed their daughter (who was 12 at the time!) wear a dress that matched the colour of my bridesmaids and was very similar. I wasn't best pleased!

How would they have known what your bridesmaids were going to be wearing when they bought their daughter’s dress? Surely you can’t think they did it on purpose?

To the OP (if this is genuine) just ask the bride what colour dresses the flower girls are wearing. If she says blue, happy days. If she says cream with pink flowers then maybe have a rethink

[LynetteScavo]

So many weird replies in this thread. Unless the actual flower girls are wearing this exact dress of course it's fine to wear it. I'm presuming she won't also be wearing a flower ring on her head?

[Teenagerwoes]

HRTFT but the only valid question for me would be, is it the same as the bridesmaids or flower girls dress for the wedding? If not then no issue, it’s just a little girls dress.

If I was that invested in what a small child wore to my wedding then I think I may be focussing on the wrong aspects of the day.

[JeezYouLoon]

She's 4! Let her wear it, she'll look lovely.

My wedding was wine ago and all the little girls wore dresses like that, was I fussed? Nope, I thought they looked lovely and was pleased they were at my wedding.

If the bridal party like you, which they should as you've been invited they won't care. If they don't like you, they will and in this case you wouldn't be going

Enjoy the day.

[PollyFlinderz]

"was the talk of the day about how inappropriate it was!"

They were best ignored.

[JollyAndBright]

She’s 4.
Buy her another pretty dress, let her wear that one at the weekend for fun and she will get over it.

Do not be one of those people that dresses their kids in bridal wear for a wedding.
you’ll look like one of those CFs who’s trying to get your DD to be a part of the wedding even though you are not.

[Aridane]

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[Aridane]

I wonder if this thread has caused an increase in sales of the dress!

Lol at the first review of the dress!!

[Strongmummy]

@courtney555, I think I understand and so the op should probably clear it with the bride.

[Courtney555]

@strongmummy

I probably wouldn't be bothered as it's my wedding day, and I'd be all consumed with that, but it's still bad manners on the mum's part. A similar thing happened on my wedding day. An aunt of mine did something with her outfit that made her look part of the bridal party, even though she didn't match, and the result was my other aunt feeling really upset because she thought I'd allowed it and that left her as the only one not included. I wasn't bothered, but my aunt was.

There are enough people on this thread with similar experiences to show that even if the mum has no etiquette, she really shouldn't do it.

[ADastardlyThing]

The dress isn't even the same colour scheme.

That monsoon dress I linked to before was described as a party dress so absolutely fine? But its way more bridesmaidey looking than ops dd dress?.

Just because it's called a flower girl dress doesn't mean that has to be it's only use I've seen many dresses like that in kids party wear sections.

And, it's not even the same colour scheme.

I just don't get why some think it's inappropriate. It's truly baffling.

And for the record kids running around in restaurants are little turds and I laugh if they trip up.

[kaytee87]

What has a dress got to do with children running around restaurants

[Strongmummy]

@Courtney555, would you honestly care if you were the bride? I genuinely wouldn’t give a damn. I’d just see a little girl in a pretty dress being happy to wear it at my wedding.

[Courtney555]

Is it a bridesmaid dress? Yes.
Is it sold specifically described as a bridesmaid dress? Yes.
Has she been asked to be a bridesmaid? No.

It's a very straight forward no.

And it's OK to just put her in it because it's pretty? Maybe you'll get lucky and no one will mind, but it's still poor etiquette to do it, or even ask to do it.

This is all starting to sound like people who think it's OK for their kids to run around in restaurants, then act like the people who are being disturbed by it are totally unreasonable because that's what little darling 4yr olds do. Obviously these "weirdos" have a problem with 4 Yr olds and need to take the stick out their arse.
It's no different here, the problem lies with the parent having no consideration for others. Don't be that parent.

[Wineallthetime]

kaytee87 It's not just a pretty dress it's described as a flower girl dress in the description. The wedding I attended had a lot of backstory that the mother was miffed she wasn't a bridesmaid so dressed her similar on purpose.

ADarstedlyThing it was a lovely wedding actually but there was a lot of backstory which isnt relevant to what the OP was asking in the first place...

To me the dress looks like a bridesmaid dress, there's thousands of other dresses out there in a whole range of styles and prices, why risk offence? The op wanted an options on her dress not on my story.

[PoxAlert]

Ask the bride what the bridesmaid dresses are like.

If they're white/light pink then 100% no.

I wouldn't put my DD in it personally.