To let DD wear this dress to a wedding?

[veruka]

My friend thinks it's unfair on the bridesmaids/bride?

https://www.matalan.co.uk/product/detail/s2652137c356/girls-corsage-bridesmaid-dress-3-13yrs-cream?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIxOOpkrHU3QIVLZPtCh2o5g63EAQYKCABEgJjlPDBwE

Btw I have a beautiful picture of me and my 18 month old cousin, who was dressed in a white dress, on my wedding day. Only just occured to me that she was wearing a bridesmaidy type dress. I got married in 2009....

So long as it's not same colours as actually bridesmaids, I think it's fine. It's a petty party dress; there aren't rules for what constitutes a bridesmaid dress. You get plenty of bridesmaids wearing party/ cocktail dresses - what the shop describes them as is irrelevant.

she can't wear that. I know she wants to but she's 4, she's not the boss, you are.

*Pretty not petty

Take her shopping, turn it into a treat with a cake stop and she’ll be fine.

Who is getting married?

If it was my wedding, I wouldn’t mind, she’s 4 not 24. However, in your position (if I didn’t feel comfortable asking the bride) I’d just take her out shopping without making a big deal of it and steer her in the direction of some pretty dresses, she’s bound to find one she loves then nearer the wedding you can suggest she wears that instead.

I think it's fine and wouldn't care what a 4 year old wore to my wedding certainly wouldn't be annoyed it could be a flower girl dress.

People would genuinely mind what a 4 year old wore to their wedding ?

What about this from h&m, 15 quid.

I like that Tulips

I think it's fine, but ask the bride just in case

I wouldnt mind if a 4yo wore that dress to my wedding if it were my big day. Id find it nice that she picked such a pretty dress to wear

I genuinely don't think the bride would mind, I don't think anyone would mind what a 4 yo wore to their wedding - but people will probably end up judging you & the evening guests will ask if your DD was a flower girl and you'll have to awkwardly say no.

Just get her a different dress.

I think it’s lovely. If you’re unsure then ask the bride and groom.

Personally I wouldnt find it odd at all if a little one turned up in a dress like that to my wedding. However the simplest thing to do would be to just contact the bride and ask her

'100+ people are looking at this dress now'

I'd ask the bride. I only had one adult bmaid in a long dark pink dress. Wouldn't have bothered me at all if a 4yr old guest had turned up in the dress in Op's link.

All party dresses look like that. I wouldn't think anything of it.

It's fine. As long as she doesn't try and run into the official photos I really can't see a problem. Any bride who cares about what a 4 year old wears on their wedding day would be being ridiculous, any other children (actual flower girls) wearing similar won't understand the adult rules of who wears what at a wedding.

Love that tulips

We had six little girls under 5 at our wedding, and I don't think I could describe any of their outfits... only got married last year as well! So, clearly, I wouldn't have minded, but I do think you run the risk of awkward evening guest questions about whether she was flower girl.

Just ask the bride. Some wouldn't mind at all, some would. I'd have been fine with it but then I was fine with a lot of things that seem to bother more highly strung brides.

God just put her in it. Put a little black bolero or something with it so it looks less bridesmaid. It just looks like a kids party frock to me