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To let DD wear this dress to a wedding?

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veruka · 24/09/2018 20:36

My friend thinks it's unfair on the bridesmaids/bride?

https://www.matalan.co.uk/product/detail/s2652137c356/girls-corsage-bridesmaid-dress-3-13yrs-cream?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIxOOpkrHU3QIVLZPtCh2o5g63EAQYKCABEgJjlPDBwE

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diddl · 24/09/2018 21:09

Well yes, it is a flower girl/bmaid dress. But it may be nothing like what the baids/flower girls are wearing, in which case it would be fine imo.

FruitofAutumn · 24/09/2018 21:10

Why wouold you buy a bridesmaid dress if she isn't a bridesmaid. Don't do it OP- it is rude and people will think you are trying to muscle your DD in on the wedding party

EK36 · 24/09/2018 21:11

If it was my wedding I wouldn't mind little girls wearing a dress like that. It's beautiful. I would let her. It's just a pretty dress.

AmericanEskimoDoge · 24/09/2018 21:11

Unless she's going around tossing handfuls of flower petals or trying to sneak up the aisle with the wedding party, I don't see a problem with that dress. She's a little kid, who would possibly care? Unless the actual flower girl is wearing something that looks very, very similar, it wouldn't even cross my mind that she was a "flower girl wannabe".

sixtyeleven · 24/09/2018 21:11

If it's different to what the flower girls are wearing, of course she can wear it! So cute!

Dollymixture22 · 24/09/2018 21:11

Sorry, but I think She is a little old to dress as a flower girl to a wedding that she isn’t the actual flower girl. She will spend all day explaining she isn’t a flower girl. If there actually is a flower girl this could be infusing Andy take the limelight away fro the chosen little girl.

LynetteScavo · 24/09/2018 21:11

Eh?

Unless all the flower girls are wearing exactly this dress it's fine! She'll need a cardigan anyway, unless the weddings in a green house or the Southern Hemisphere.

It's a bog standard dress for an under 5.

If you own it, your DD can wear it.

Dollymixture22 · 24/09/2018 21:12

If you can afford it get another dress and keep this for parties.

CarlGrimesMissingEye · 24/09/2018 21:12

I'd let my daughter wear t. Put bright tights on or something to make it less flower girl like if you have niggles.

Belletower · 24/09/2018 21:12

Oh dear. Said DD can wear it (she begged) there's going to be lots of tears. It's completely my fault, I didn't see the issue.

Then why did you ask OP!!!

HeyNumber2 · 24/09/2018 21:13

uk.monsoon.co.uk/view/product/uk_catalog/mon_3,mon_3.1,mon_3.1.3/5131061522 can she wear one of these instead? Boots also have some lovely dresses in their Mini club range. Let her wear the other dress somewhere else 😊

WhateverHappenedToTheHeatwave · 24/09/2018 21:13

It wouldnt bother me but i would ask the bride. After all her flower girls may be wearing the same dress.

ImogenTubbs · 24/09/2018 21:14

I'd check with the bride/ mother of the bride. If the colour scheme is totally different then you might be alright.

Myimaginarycathasfleas · 24/09/2018 21:14

I prefer the one Tulips posted, tbh. You could ask the bride but it puts her in the awkward position of being a killjoy if she’s not happy about it.

Unicornandbows · 24/09/2018 21:14

I wouldn't mind at all and I just had my wedding recently

Enko · 24/09/2018 21:15

Ask the bride I agree however if she says no Have a look at Moonsoon pretty sure your dd will be happy with plenty of them.

TaggieRR · 24/09/2018 21:15

I think it’s fine- just looks like a party dress.

diddl · 24/09/2018 21:15

"She will spend all day explaining she isn’t a flower girl." Not unless it's what the flower girls are wearing! If not she's juat a 4yr old in a pretty dress.

PunishmentSnart · 24/09/2018 21:15

Depends - do you have an idea of colour scheme from invites? Would look odd if she matched the bridesmaids / flower girls but if it’s completely different then I’d say it’s fine for someone so little. Or you could take her shopping, sure she’d be excited to pick another pretty dress!!

Mildred007 · 24/09/2018 21:16

Of course you're not being unreasonable, it's just a pretty dress! If the bridesmaids are wearing the same then yes I see the problem but otherwise let her wear it!

StarUtopia · 24/09/2018 21:18

No. Pick another dress. She can wear that dress to another party.

LokiBear · 24/09/2018 21:18

I really can't believe that wedding guests would judge a 4 year old childs dress. Unless it is the same as the bridesmaids it makes no difference. Just let her wear it. It is pretty.

veruka · 24/09/2018 21:18

I asked because it's better to know now than find out on the day Grin

Colour scheme is blue and brown so can't imagine her looking like one of them.

Will take a look at some of the links, thanks

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nokidshere · 24/09/2018 21:21

It's fine. Just let her wear it. Everyone wears their "best" for a wedding and that's hers. The bride won't be bothered or even care.

Puggles123 · 24/09/2018 21:21

I think it’ll be okay as the colour scheme is blue and brown; maybe just dress it down a bit with tights and a cardigan?

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