Bit shaken. Aibu to be?

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I've just been to Sainsbury's. I was in the fruit aisle and there was a lady and her teenager by the apples I wanted. I waited a while until they were done (they were inspecting each packet for a while) and as they were moving off I reached over and took a packet. I pretty certain I wasn't in their personal space but as I had waited a while I did swoop in a bit.

The woman shouted "stupid bitch" after me and I turned round and said "excuse me" and she incredibly angrily said "you heard". I said "what's your problem" and her teenager proceeded to come and get right up in my face (o could feel spit) and start shouting at me never to speak to her mother like that and that I needed to speak to her. She repeated this at least 10 times and every time I said "I am speaking to you - what exactly is the problem here". The only other thing she said was "ill give you a problem if you don't back off". No other answer at all. I was nothing but polite as it was a busy public place. I the. walked off and she kept shouting "stupid bitch" after me.

I just carried on for a few mins and then I just started shaking and crying and had to abandon the basket and leave. Lots of people witnessed this and nobody said a word.

I'm over 30 years old and I've been reduced to tears by a teenager. I feel so pathetic. I'm just sat in the car crying. I really don't think o did anything wrong. Aibu or are people really this unbelievably nasty and, in the case of everyone else, passive in this day and age and I need to suck it up?

How did she take people on needsahairbrush? All she said was excuse me

Wow op took the people on when she said 'excuse me' when the woman called her a stupid bitch. I would have said the same if some random insulted me without any provocation. Next time, op, just walk way, say nothing, there is no reasoning with these types.

what would you hope to achieve by saying “excuse me?!” other than an argument?

OP did not take anyone on FFS She did nothing wrong! I'm a copper and would have given them very short shrift if they'd spoken to me like that, they should consider themselves lucky OP was as permissive as she was. Disgraceful behaviour. So sad that no one around said anything either.
Ignore need a hair brush and creeper8 OP, they are just as weird as the pair in the supermarket.
Have a and try and let it go.

They sound absolutely delightful. Of course yanbu anyone normal would be thinking 'shit do you think they had knives?' Totally unnecessary aggression and rudeness, even if the OP was out of order (which she wasn't). Baffling that some people think this is acceptable/ that the victim was somehow at fault. But you should have gone to security or someone else who witnessed it should have. I recently got involved and got the duty manager when I witnessed a nasty incident between staff at a supermarket local to me (disablist abuse) but no one else did anything at all other than watch like this . I couldn't believe I was the only person who did something.

creeper8 grow up and go and find another thread to derail.

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I saw this type of behaviour on a crowded train one time. People recorded it on their phones and someone went to get the train attendant. She got arrested at the next stop.

I had no idea that excuse me was the equivalent to saying “you want a piece of me?”

I’ll remember that next time I am in public

You are not being at all unreasonable.
You weren’t being unreasonable when you reached around the oblivious slow pokes to get some apples and you weren’t being unreasonable when you said ‘excuse me’ because you were taken aback by a ranting aggressive show-off. Because that’s what they were doing, they were showing off to each other and anyone else who would watch.
You wouldn’t not be unreasonable to do your food shopping in Waitrose or M&S from now on either. I hope you feel better soon. It really does sound unpleasant.

I don't think anyone really knows whether they would have said 'excuse me' in the heat of the moment. Logic tells me ignoring them may have been the best policy but they sound so unhinged they may have taken exception to such 'disrespect'

take your pick or all of them you deserve them all. Glad you reported them. Now you and DH put it behind you. Don't guve them any fyrther thought. Pity anyone who knows them!

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You didn't do anything wrong OP, just be glad you're not them.
I get people like this at work that start having a go at me over the most trivial thing. I don't know how they've survived for so long without someone decking them. Maybe they only do it to people they perceive as weaker than they are. Arseholes.

Thank you crisps

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And thank you, too Sapphire

creeper someone calls you a stupid bitch just like that, a normal reaction is to say 'excuse me'. I think if it happens again, op won't as they types who do this are on another level.

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OP there's always someone on MN who will blame the OP even when it's blatantly obvious they're blameless. It's a strange and not very pleasant attribute they have.

You're so right, I don't understand it. Some posters just like being obnoxious rather than actually giving a considered response.

In this case, you've done absolutely nothing wrong, OP.

Nutella5x I'm pretty sure I didn't - but good point I suppose as it could have been involuntary or something like a click of my bag against the basket could have sounded like a tut I suppose

I'm sure most people will say the same - happened to me in Sainsbury's too. In the fag queue. Female went from 0 to 90 in a split second and then did the full Jeremy Kyle vows of violence.

I stared desperately at the floor, terrified, and hoped she'd go away. To the woman's delight the woman behind me was madder than she was and they had a superb stand-off. Security did 0. Some people go out looking for it OP, just like some people go looking on MN for it, too.

Only on mums net would this be op's fault. I had a strong feeling this was London. I've had very similar things happen to me. Once a woman screemed at me because I was in her way a busy bus stop and when she was really rude and said fucking move and I said she was being rude.

In hind sight I should have known that anyone unhinged enough to just say fucking move was going to react badly to being challenged. However her behaviour was still her own fault and not mine. Just like op should have know anyone calling you a stupid bitch for getting apples to close to them was also unhinged and you should probably just leave it. The abusive shouting is not your fault.

Maybe creeper 8 is the woman in question

They were clearly BU and lary but, given that, I wouldn't even have reacted to the 'stupid bitch' remark. What was going to happen? A quiet discussion as to exactly how you were a stupid bitch and whether they had possibly overreacted a tadge? Just walk away.

Excuse the comment - given that apples section is where this occurred - but, as the saying goes, 'the apple doesn't fall far from the tree'... You have to feel sorry for the teenager who must be being dragged up and will very likely teach her future children the same!
Someone said on the opening page of the thread that is was your fault and you should have said sorry. I vehemently disagree. In what world is being verbally attacked (called a stupid bitch) for accidentally getting in somebody's way normal or proportionate?
I really feel for you but try not to let it eat you up or ruin the rest of your day... Sadly, nasty people like this exist everywhere - just be thankful you're not one of them!

Dont have teenagers so not me no...

People are weird and aggressive - I try to limit my interactions out in public!