Bit shaken. Aibu to be?

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I've just been to Sainsbury's. I was in the fruit aisle and there was a lady and her teenager by the apples I wanted. I waited a while until they were done (they were inspecting each packet for a while) and as they were moving off I reached over and took a packet. I pretty certain I wasn't in their personal space but as I had waited a while I did swoop in a bit.

The woman shouted "stupid bitch" after me and I turned round and said "excuse me" and she incredibly angrily said "you heard". I said "what's your problem" and her teenager proceeded to come and get right up in my face (o could feel spit) and start shouting at me never to speak to her mother like that and that I needed to speak to her. She repeated this at least 10 times and every time I said "I am speaking to you - what exactly is the problem here". The only other thing she said was "ill give you a problem if you don't back off". No other answer at all. I was nothing but polite as it was a busy public place. I the. walked off and she kept shouting "stupid bitch" after me.

I just carried on for a few mins and then I just started shaking and crying and had to abandon the basket and leave. Lots of people witnessed this and nobody said a word.

I'm over 30 years old and I've been reduced to tears by a teenager. I feel so pathetic. I'm just sat in the car crying. I really don't think o did anything wrong. Aibu or are people really this unbelievably nasty and, in the case of everyone else, passive in this day and age and I need to suck it up?

Errrrm from your description I think you started it!! To be honest I would have said sorry and walked off rather than have a lunatic teen trying to fight me!
I tend to say “sorry, please can I reach passed you to the apples” in situations like this.

I bet you’re as dog rough as this trash and her feral child.*
coughlaughfart what a charmer you are. If you took the time to think about my post you would understand I’m saying with loons like this it’s best to walk off and not engage.

It drives me mad when people need to spend ten minutes carefully inspecting an item in the supermarket, especially when they do that thing of having their trolley alongside the display so it blocks off an entire section. And then they look affronted if you ask them if you could please excuse me so I can reach whatever item.

I'm glad you reported them OP!

and just to add i love you TRumps-brilliant response

You did nothing wrong. It's hard not to react when people say horrible things first but I try and pretend I just didn't hear. To be like this they must have a shit existence so I just try and focus on that not the insult to me.

I live in the area. No teenager though.

I think I would have reacted the same as you, I would have been shaken too. I probably would have stood up for myself a little but would have probably walked away after the teenager started.

Sort yourself out and then go in and report it to a member of staff, the incedent will be on camera. Not sure if there’s much that can be done though

OkMaybeNot
Interesting, a lot of these replies remind me of those cunts who blame women for getting thumped by their husbands because they argue back.

I thought exactly the same thing!

were they scouse boulty

Creeper - I think you've made some assumptions here.

1. I didn't reach over them - they were waking away. So was I supposed to say excuse me to their backs?

1. Lewisham is generally fine. I go regularly. I'm not sure I deserved it just for going to that branch purely based on location.

Maybe we should conduct a social experiment? If you are game creeper8, go hang about the Sainsbury’s next week and see if you can find this pair. Follow them round and choose your items immediately after they have. Maybe they are just triggered by apples

They are scum and get their kicks trying to intimidate normal, decent folk, I bet my bottom dollar they are not mulling this over, it will be water off a ducks back to them, it's the way they operate, pond life.

Thank you to everyone - I feel much better. DH is raging... he wants to go down there and have a go at the security guard - quite frankly I don't think it's worth it.

Oh my goodness, awful people, Instead of continuing with them, I would have found a member of staff or security.

You did nothing wrong.

From the way you describe it it sounded like you were making a point of having to wait. Just perhaps thats why the started on you, as thats how it reads. Only saying.

There's nothing wrong with saying excuse me when you want to reach something. It's rude to stand there for too long anyway. Just pick your apples then move the fuck out of the way.

Why are you defending these twats Creeper?

I cant understand why the op said “excuse me?!” unless she was equally looking to argue

Why on earth wouldn't she, Creeper8? It's a perfectly logical answer to someone who has suddenly shouted at her. What else should she have done? If she'd walked away, these people would have come after her. Face it, whatever she said they would have come after her. They were very obviously looking for a fight - in fact you have to wonder whether the teenager had taken something, given his inability to understand that repeatedly insisting OP talk to him when she was, um, talking to him made him look like the aggressive dickhead that he was.

Creeper, I didn't say a word to them and nor did I say at any point that waiting was an issue. I mentioned it only because I was stood there for a couple of minutes (pertly contentedly i should add) and I wanted to be clear that I hadn't just walked up behind them and tried to get round them aggressively.

You say you live in the area and you're not surprised. Sounds like you consider their approach to be a legitimate way to acting on that area. Maybe that's why it's been perpetuated. People like you excusing it.

Perfectly - not pertly. Awkward typo...

Ive has this type of experience a couple of times in supermarkets, not as bad as your one but always about people feeling like you've got in their space - eg my handbag lightly Bruges a woman's arm once (she was behind me and I didn't know she was there), I said excuse me whilst reaching for yoghurts next to one woman, didn't get anywhere near her. I think people must suffer from supermarket rage!!!
Anyway YANBU, it's really hard not to
React to people shouting in your face so walking away is not realistic advice. They are clearly horrible people. Try to forget it

Sorry this happened to you OP. I have had something similar in Tesco. I bent down to the bottom shelf and grunted on the way up. I grunted in pain because I have disc problems in my back and bending really hurts but two women standing next to me thought I was grunting at them. One then verbally attacked me for being a stupid ignorant bitch who can't say excuse me. I could've explained my back problems but I did not want to engage with them so I walked off.

I’m sorry that happened OP, how nasty. And ignore the strange responses from those who say you did something wrong that warranted it, there is unfortunately a small corner of mumsnet who don’t seem to have ever interacted with other human beings...

But even if OP was making a point by picking up apples quickly/in a marked manner/whatever it is you do to make a point with apples, surely their aggressive reaction was over the top?

Lewisham.

Sort of place you see on Location Location as "up and coming" and you know its rough as fuck.

Do you want to just put it behind you OP? Obviously they were just scummy, but do you think you could leave it at that?

Mind you, I'm thinking now maybe I should check myself as the youngsters say, as we live about 15 miles away in a much more affluent area and earlier this year some woman taking her kids to cricket practice punched my husband in the face.

To be serious; people these days are very willing to start fights and provoke violence, its becoming more common and all you can do is stand up to those people, like the OP tried to.