Bit shaken. Aibu to be?

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I've just been to Sainsbury's. I was in the fruit aisle and there was a lady and her teenager by the apples I wanted. I waited a while until they were done (they were inspecting each packet for a while) and as they were moving off I reached over and took a packet. I pretty certain I wasn't in their personal space but as I had waited a while I did swoop in a bit.

The woman shouted "stupid bitch" after me and I turned round and said "excuse me" and she incredibly angrily said "you heard". I said "what's your problem" and her teenager proceeded to come and get right up in my face (o could feel spit) and start shouting at me never to speak to her mother like that and that I needed to speak to her. She repeated this at least 10 times and every time I said "I am speaking to you - what exactly is the problem here". The only other thing she said was "ill give you a problem if you don't back off". No other answer at all. I was nothing but polite as it was a busy public place. I the. walked off and she kept shouting "stupid bitch" after me.

I just carried on for a few mins and then I just started shaking and crying and had to abandon the basket and leave. Lots of people witnessed this and nobody said a word.

I'm over 30 years old and I've been reduced to tears by a teenager. I feel so pathetic. I'm just sat in the car crying. I really don't think o did anything wrong. Aibu or are people really this unbelievably nasty and, in the case of everyone else, passive in this day and age and I need to suck it up?

Yeah, anyone who mildly objects to unprovoked verbal abuse deserves everything they get, right

Fuck that.

Oh and I used to live in Lewisham and go to that Sainsbury's weekly, I am unsurprised...

Well why engage? then expecting others to defend her when they kick off! No one else was stupid enough to get involved

Yanbu. They are clearly scumbags looking for a fight... especially that they kept shouting after you.

Don't worry, confrontation like that would make me burst into tears afterwards too x

Are you fussy about Apples Creeper? And do you have an aggressive teenage DS?

OP .

If it makes you feel any better I once had my breasts grabbed in a department store. I shouted out and no one supported me or even acknowledged it was happening except one staff member who glared at me as if I was at fault.

There are some utter cunts in this world and you bumped into two - the apple does not fall far from the tree methinks.

And it was lewisham sainsburys wll what do you expect?! not surprised.

Unfortunately some people will only take notice when you treat them the same way back. I am all sunlight and flowers as I work with young kids and I look like butter wouldn't melt. But I live in a bit of a rough estate and grew up in a very masculine environment where the air was often blue. Quite a few times I have been out and about minding my own business and somebody has thought I am a soft touch and squared up to me over some imagined slight. A bit like-

local teen nob- And who the fuck do you think you are , giving me the side eye?
me- 'scuse me? I wasn't, just on my way to the shop to get some milk. no side eye at all.
local teen nob (to his mates)- Look at the fat hag, no fucking idea who we are and that we rule the streets.
Me (smiling and walking towards them)- Now look here. You make out your all hard but I heard you mates say that you're hung like a hamster and throw a whitey after half a doob. Now get the fuck out of my face you wannabe north face face ninja or I will kick you in your mangina.

They run for the hills. Sad but true.

How dreadful for you OP, I would have been shocked/shaking/tearful too. Sounds like MH problems to me. Try to forget about it.

They both sound like utter nut cases. Poor OP. As if anyone could even think she was being slightly unreasonable. You weren't OP.
They sound like they are either druggies or just plain nasty bastards always looking to kick off.

Some people are just..........scrappy.

Don't fear these people, judge them. Massively.

Ive come across a few of these types over the years and either shove my nose in the air and stalk off or respond with a haughty 'what on earth are you talking about' Then stalk off

Do not waste your time on people like this, time is precious. And they are not worth any of yours.

Whoever thinks I am
Passive aggressive is mad. I picked up some apples as they were walking away... how is that PA?

duchess for you tonight. With people like that, I find it helps to picture what Christmas day must be like in their house. Bit random, but it works for me

I had something similar once. I reported to a member of staff who basically shrugged and said they couldn't do anything. In hindsight I should have gone to the security desk

This is crazy - The OP said excuse me after being called a stupid bitch and some people see that as engaging or looking for an argument. If she’d ignored and walked off all would have been fine so it’s her own fault?

Ok to call someone a stupid bitch then? Just gloss over that and blame the OP for replying?

Fuck me.

Oh good lord creeper8. Doing your own escalating here I think

You poor thing - don't let this get to you, you did nothing wrong. There are some horrible people out there. Last week a man had a go at me at a pay and display machine in a car park. I was only reading the information about paying and as he walked past he started shouting in my face and banging on the machine for no reason - I should have told him where to go but I was so shocked I just stood there, and was really shaken up all afternoon. If you, like me, are not the type that shouts and swears at people then it can be really upsetting when someone does it to you. Just be glad you are not like them, they only showed themselves up.

jesus that is a great way of thinking about it. Some people’s lives just aren’t great.

duchess, you did nothing wrong at all and had a horrible experience. You enjoy those apples!

OP there's always someone on MN who will blame the OP even when it's blatantly obvious they're blameless. It's a strange and not very pleasant attribute they have.

Ignore ignore ignore

That was a horrible thing to have happened to you OP.

Some people are just truly awful these days, there's no reasoning with people like this.

I know it's difficult but just forget about them, let them stew in their own juices.
I hope you're feeling better now

Interesting, a lot of these replies remind me of those cunts who blame women for getting thumped by their husbands because they argue back.

The security bit isnt far from the fruit in that sainsburys you could have spoken to them if it was that distressing? I dont tend to engage with crazy people in public.

yanbu they prob would have started a row with anyone by the sounds of it
i smiled at someone once they said what you looking at in an agresive tone i just walked away-not worth it

I had a very strange similar thing on holiday.

I was stood in a queue waiting for an ice lolly - a lady walked straight up to the front and ordered what she wanted. I said quite loudly I'm next there is a queue here and indicated the 10 or so people stood waiting.
She said "calm down" I didn't see the queue (unless you have a white stick a queue of 10 people waiting in a line is not missable). Her teenage son then came over and stated with the 'calm down, don't talk to my mum like that' - I had called her out for pushing in, nothing more nothing less. Her husband said nothing and was probably used to her doing this, her daughter made faces and son kept glaring at me and said 'calm down' several times. I turned away and ordered what I wanted I was done with them...

It was quite laughable really, mum gets caught trying to jump in front of 10 people, it gets pointed out to her - her go to response is 'calm down' followed by her parrot of a son with a go to response of 'calm done.... I had a laugh about their stupidly and reaction later... they made themselves look really dumb

The women and daughter in the supermarket made themselves look dumb, just get want you wanted and ignore and walk away then laugh about it later and how dumb they are to your friends... they have a odd approach and you are better to avoid people like that and not engage with them at all... they are dumb and looking for a fight...

You seem to know an awful lot about Sainsbury's in Lewisham Creeper...