To ask how you deal with the incredibly spoiled children of your friends?

[Merryoldgoat]

Just that really.

We’ve had some friends over today with their children.

It was awful. They’re overindulged little drama lamas and they absolutely destroyed my son’s room.

Their parents were entirely unconcerned.

I sent a message after they left to explain the extent of the horror and they’re apologetic but I honestly am shocked.

My son is no angel by any stretch but he’d never behave like that, never.

I feel very upset by the lack of respect.

I’m suffering from PND so am a bit sensitive and I don’t really know what I want to say. I just had to vent a bit,

That’s exactly right clangers.

I didn’t go upstairs because they came down frequently so I knew they were ok and there’s nothing dangerous upstairs.

My fucking mistake.

I’m not exonerating my son - he helped at the start of the clean up and he’s been punished. But this is their game - he’s never done this - it’s not how he ever plays.

Umm, that would only take me about 10minutes to clear up, I think you’ve gone a little overboard in complaining to your friends.

How would they have known what the mess was like if you didn’t.

Wow..the state of that room. I would not have them back tbh. That might sound extreme but no way would I be having people in my house that disrespected me/the house/my family like that

We have a simple rule with visiting kids, they stay downstairs - we would bring toys down to the living room, or now most our young visitors are a bit older connect up a games system. My kids hated friends messing in their rooms (one is autistic and needed to be able to escape upstairs). They are grown so anybody visiting with young kids bring their own toys now.

Um because it's a game their kids have played before?

Horrible and disresoectful.

No it wouldn’t underneath - that’s a very small part.

And they did see it because we all went up there at the end as the kids didn’t want to leave.

I was absolutely shocked.

I think it’s because I’m new to this - my son hasn’t had many play dates and so this just hasn’t even nearly happened to me before.

I always make the kids tidy up before their friend goes home. I also help but make it clear that they've also to do their fair share of the tidying up.

Did they offer to tidy up? If they have emptied out puzzles and games it will take hours to put the room back together.

They are too old to have such poor manners. I bet they don’t get invited round to play at their friends house if this is how they behave!

That is a terrible mess, however did nobody check on them at all during the visit to see what they were getting up to ?

Wow!!
Don’t blame you for being annoyed! I had friends like this. It ended our friendship to be honest. Everytime their kids behaviour was shocking and they wouldn’t intervene. I can’t be friends with people like that!

That's a good rule. My sisters kids used to upend every drawer and trash the place. I once discovered a totally smashed double bed after they'd left ( ours). Even worse that they (BiL) had carpentry skills and we didn't.

Two friends of my son decided to have a fruit fight one day using watermelon, mangoes, sticky fruit all over the hallway of our RENTED FLAT! Little shits, ds got a right earful and never had them back,we had to paint the hallway. Some “dc “ are little sods, simple as that, no wonder you are rightly argry.

Did none of you say

'No ones going until you've all tidied up' etc

What did their parents say?

Well it's very messy for sure but I think you are exaggerating a bit to say the "destroyed" his room. Doesn't look like they wrote on the walls, broke the furniture, peed on the carpet or anything really difficult to rectify. Twenty minutes tidying will sort that out.

Of course it was a bit naughty but how did you not know it was get that bad? Were the grown ups all talking while the kids amused themselves. One can imagine the novelty of a strange house and light supervision things might get out of hand

Crimson - they were checked by their parents who said ‘its a bit messy’ but as I said, I thought ‘normal’ mess.

But they were downstairs so much and getting on fine that there didn’t see to be the need to go upstairs.

I’m cooling off for a bit. I’ve thought the children a bit spoiled for a while and this has made my mind up.

My dirty underwear was strewn around - I just wanted them out.

We’ve been at it two hours. It’s just looking human.

Before anyone asks I’m posting whilst feeding the baby. DH is tidying.

We have had this before with our daughter. Drawers emptied, a shelf full of trophies swiped to the floor, books and toys everywhere. It’s soul destroying!

And I hold my hands up - I didn’t supervise well enough - I just didn’t think kids of that age would do that.

Why wasnt anyone watching/checking in on the children?? My 2 year old doesn't even make that much mess!

It is a mess but I don’t think it would warrant losing friends over. I am a bit of a tidy freak but for some reason it doesn’t bother me if kids go a bit bonkers - it’s usually superficial mess that can easily be tidied up.

You’ve punished your DS and hopefully friends’ kids have been told off too. Just treat it an experience you don’t want to repeat and work out some ground rules for next time.

I always treat other children like my own. Everyone can have fun but no one goes anywhere until everyone helps tidy up.

Kids actually love me. No joke!

I'd have asked them to bring their children back round and help you sort out the very deliberate mess they had created. Parents, too.

That's shocking behaviour at those ages, and they would certainly know better!

'This pic is outing so if my friend is a MNetter our friendship is over anyway!'

Is your friendship over?
Blimey

I'm taking it these aren't really good friends of yours?

As that's rather OTT