To wanting to give my dog up

[1sunflower]

Ok, so I just want to say that I love animals so all animal lovers that read this please don't write stupid stuff like( how can you choose your child over a dog) ummm yes I can.
Long story but short my OH came up with an idea 2 months ago to get a puppy so I just said ok let's do it. We have a 11months old daughter. Now when we decided to get that puppy we were both supposed to look after it. But now it's all on me. I feel guilty that I don't spend enough time with my daughter or that the dog doesn't get enough walk. I have to bath her, feed her, walk her, brush her and the list goes on. OH comes home and does f* all. I am also concerned about her behaviour As I don't get enough time to train her. I have decided to tell my partner we need to rehome the dog. It will be better for her and us, however OH does not want to hear it and keeps telling me I'm cruel and that I hate animals! He had a day off today and stayed home with the baby so I took the dog for a walk to the park. When I am on the footpath I keep the dog close on the leash so that she doesn't jump on people. But somehow she managed to jump up rather than forward and she kind of jumped on the chest of an older man that wad going by.... he lost his balance and fell on to the road... hit his head... we called the ambulance and everything was ok but it was all terrible I thought I will just sit there and cry... I just can't control her anymore and I want to give her to someone that will
Be able to spend time with her and give her attention she needs. But now my OH and his mum are in my face telling me I'm such a terrible person for wanting to give her up... are they right? Am I being cruel?

OP you will get shouted down for anything to do with pets on MN!!

I agree it would be a very sensible decision to (responsibly) re-home the dog while she's still young. Better for the dog, better for you & baby, and safer if you don't have time to train her. Your partner is being very unreasonable if he doesn't want to re-home her but also won't help look after / train / walk her. Good luck

Not here to bash you further OP, but instead offer advice from someone who worked at a rescue centre.
As others have said please rehome via a reputable rescue centre. They will do the right background checks on your dogs new family and ensure she has a great life. You’ll also be able to get updates.
It’s not just the dog being passed around but a breed like that especially offered for free often ends up used as a bait dog for dog fights. The new ‘owners’ will appear respectable, lovely and give you all the right chat and then you’ll never hear about your dog again. Please please don’t rehome yourself. American bulldogs are status dogs and she’ll easily fall in to the wrong hands.
I think it’s an awful situation, but your decision is the right one for your dog as long as you go through a reputable rescue centre. Try bullies in need, or a specific American bulldog rescue, dogs trust may not take her based on her history but try them. She is young enough that someone can give her the proper training she needs. My biggest advice is do not rehome her yourself.

Amanduh thank you for understanding and great example :)

Rehome, properly through an official organisation and tell your DP that what happened today could have resulted in very serious legal consequences for you both. Today you broke section 3 of the dangerous dogs act (see below) if this injured man or his family report you to the police you could be in real trouble.

Section 3 of the Dangerous Dogs Act

Under section 3 of the Dangerous Dogs Act an owner, or a person in charge of a dog, commits an offence if they are in a public place and a person is scared that their dog is about to cause them injury.
No criminal intent or recklessness is required for liability to arise in cases under section 3 as a result a person can therefore be guilty of an offence even if their dog was on a lead and had never behaved in such a way before.

If no injury is caused the case will be heard in the magistrates’ court the maximum penalty should you be found guilty of the offence is 6 months’ imprisonment and/or a fine of up to £5,000. The court also has the power to order the dog to be destroyed or kept under control.

If your dog causes injury to a person, or an assistance dog, such as a guide dog, then this is called an aggravating factor. The injury does not have to be a bite it can be a scratch or a bruise. The aggravated offence can be dealt with in both the magistrates court and the crown court

The guidelines are as follows:

Injury to an assistance dog – maximum sentence 3 years’ imprisonmentInjury to a person – maximum sentence 5 years’ imprisonmentDeath of a person – maximum sentence 14 years’ imprisonment

You could also be ordered to pay a fine and/or compensation and the court have the power to disqualify you from keeping dogs.

Where an aggravated offence is committed, the court will order the dog to be destroyed unless it is satisfied that you are a suitable owner and that the dog does not pose a risk to the public. Expert evidence from qualified animal behaviourist is usually required on this point.

OP this dog isn't going to have a good life with you. I think your instinct is correct, you made a big mistake getting a dog, rehome her now so she has a chance to get the home she deserves.

Doyouneedanumber omg I did not think this could be that serious! And imagine if something like this happens again....