To have basically told neighbour to fuck off

[MrsPuff5]

Neighbour is also a school mum. Neighbour is generally rude to everyone. I tried to be friendly, invited her and kids over, out for days etc. She is not interested and ignores me. I wave hello and try to be cheery and she ignores me still. I take parcels in and over to her, she grunts and takes them. Last week I made a last ditch attempt at conversation and was told by her husband to leave it because my brother, who lives with us, is gay. They are Jehovah's witnesses... Sad but never mind. Would rather not be around people who think like that.

I have recently become friends with a couple of other school mums, who my neighbour is also friendly with apparently. Today I had invited those mums over for a drink before school run. Ten minutes in neighbour knocks and says she saw visitors arriving and can she join us? I replied "absolutely no, you ignore me, insult my family, but want my hospitality because your friends are here. You do not want to be around me, but will happily drink my drink and sit in my house. No." And I shut the door.

The women at my house said they understood but also called me harsh. Am I? Was I wrong?

Hah, awesome.
Next time, you could say 'no, you can't come in, you might catch the ghey'.

Homophobia shouldn’t be tolerated even when it’s dressed up as religion.

Especially when it's dressed up s religion!

God is a god of love - and love is love and is valid whenever it respects the people involved - male or female, straight or gay.

The obsession that some religions/churches have with what two consenting adults do to each other in bed is obscene! Show me the commandment that says "Thou shalt only shag a member of the opposite sex". There isn't one.

All biblical prohibitions against homosexuality are cultural - not theological.

Your neighbour is a twonk.

I can’t believe the fucking downright cheeky fuckery of her asking to come in because her friends were there! Bloody hell, the sheer cheek of it, let alone the homophobia bollocks she’s spouted!

You’re a legend OP. From someone who has had their adult life affected by (although no way as affected as some!) by that disgusting cult, thankyou for standing up to them. Her behaviour is typical, self serving, JW hypocrisy.

You never know, this might actually prove beneficial in the long run, she might just re-evaluate her behaviour.

A nice thought but doubtful. Those brazen fuckers actually believe in the utter shite they spout so much that they just decide they’re right and that’s it. Be prepared for some pretty manipulative tactics being pulled with your mutual friends OP.

Yes totally. But I think some people are more forgiving of twatty views when it’s done for religious reasons!

I am so shocked there is actually people that are as brazen to ignore you everyday in life and then turn up on your doorstep asking in.
Good for you OP

Good on you

You have an opportunity to be the bigger person.

She was the bigger person. She stuck up for her brother to a homophobic cow.

haha well done OP

Bloody amazing OP!

Well done

Oh, OP – you were not wrong. Good for you for speaking your mind and holding your ground.

That can't have been easy –how are you feeling about it now?

Let us know what she says/does when you see her next

Go you!!
Can't believe she had the stones to invite herself in in the first place

Schadenfreude—quite right. If Jesus were around these days he’d be scandalising people by hanging out with LBGTQ+ folk, I suspect. Not to mention telling off the Pharisees virtuous people for being sanctimonious!

You did right OP, to stand up for your brother. Also prosecco and scones? I know whose friend I want to be!

@ladybee28
Well I feel better after the responses on here, but honestly, when we moved here I just wanted to get on with the neighbours, especially when I knew we had kids at the same school.

I feel a bit crap that we won't get on, end the day I still have to live next door to them don't I?!

I don't regret what I said, I wish my friends hadn't witnessed it though.

I worry for my brother, I hate that people can be so nasty about him, he only came out a couple of years ago. I told him what happened and he feels like his living with us has caused problems but hopefully I have reassured him. He is only 22 so not assured of himself yet, which is probably what made me so defensive and angry. I am much older and he moved in with us when our parents died, so I feel really maternal towards him. I only told him so he knows to avoid them. If they said something directly to him I don't know how I would react!!

You sound like a lovely sister OP

Tbh ....she’s probably used to having the door shut in her face - it’s what happens to JW most of the time

Your neighbour is a grade A cheeky fucker.

I can't say whether you were BU or not until you answer this question:

Jam first or cream first on the scones? 😑

@DorisLessingsCat
Jam first, then clotted cream!

You had the opportunity to be the bigger person nope this is just a line trotted out by people who let people continuously treat them like shit and don't stand up for themselves to make themselves feel better.

I think you handled it brilliantly!

Your brother is lucky to have you. Ironic that she’s worried about what your kids are exposed to when that vile bitch is spreading her hate around to everyone that will listen. YANBU x 1,00000

That is the correct answer. YANBU OP and you sound lovely.

I want to spend the afternoon eating scones and drinking Prosecco

You are the best sister and the perfect school mum!