To have basically told neighbour to fuck off

[MrsPuff5]

Neighbour is also a school mum. Neighbour is generally rude to everyone. I tried to be friendly, invited her and kids over, out for days etc. She is not interested and ignores me. I wave hello and try to be cheery and she ignores me still. I take parcels in and over to her, she grunts and takes them. Last week I made a last ditch attempt at conversation and was told by her husband to leave it because my brother, who lives with us, is gay. They are Jehovah's witnesses... Sad but never mind. Would rather not be around people who think like that.

I have recently become friends with a couple of other school mums, who my neighbour is also friendly with apparently. Today I had invited those mums over for a drink before school run. Ten minutes in neighbour knocks and says she saw visitors arriving and can she join us? I replied "absolutely no, you ignore me, insult my family, but want my hospitality because your friends are here. You do not want to be around me, but will happily drink my drink and sit in my house. No." And I shut the door.

The women at my house said they understood but also called me harsh. Am I? Was I wrong?

[ohfourfoxache]

You could make prosecco Friday a regular thing.....

[Aeroflotgirl]

Fossie why should op do that, when the woman has continually been rude to her, despite op doing her favours and greeting, her, be the bigger person. Op has already done that and gotten nowhere. Plus all this is because op brother is gay, your having a laugh Flossie.

[Lottapianos]

I'm cheering for you OP! How fabulous. Well done you. Her rudeness alone is bad enough, but the lack of gratitude for taking in her parcels and blatant homophobia - no way. I bet your friends just wish they had the guts to do the same

[Leeds2]

I would've liked to have done exactly the same, but I fear I would've asked her in.
Can't actually believe her cheek for trying to invite herself though.

[JesusInTheCabbageVan]

YABU for not taking a photo of her face when you said it

[RockinHippy]

Nope, not harsh. She's an ignorant bigoted bitch, so alls good. You are an absolute star though

[Spudlet]

Scones, jam, cream, prosecco... I would like to apply for a position as your friend op! I am very fairly mostly quite nice and would have been right behind you on this one. You were quite right! Also, I like prosecco, and scones.

Can send a cv if needed?

[SweatyFretty]

How did she react OP? You're my hero.

[dustarr73]

I would have loved to be a fly on the wall,when she told her dh.

Her face would have been priceless.

[LexieLulu]

She deserve that and more. Well done op

[MrsPuff5]

She didn't say anything back, just looked shocked... But I did shut the door when I finished speaking.

[CoraPirbright]

Just when I thought you couldnt rock any more.........scones and prosecco!!!!

[MrsPuff5]

@Spudlet
Count yourself invited!

[Aeroflotgirl]

She thoroughly deserved what she got. What a cheek after the way she treated you.,if yiu invited her in she woukd have probably sat with her back towards you dominating the cinversation.

[Aspergallus]

Good on you. Zero tolerance for that bullshit. You were clear and assertive and much less harsh or offensive than her homophobia. Religion is not a get out clause for bigots.

[9amtrain]

@MrsPuff5 then your friends are being ridiculous!

[AMomHasNoName]

Go OP ! Not harsh at all in my opinion.
She was VERY cheeky to even ask.

[RhythmStix]

NIce one, OP.

[Rabblemum]

Well done, the JW are an evil organisation as well as hating gays they deny children medical treatment and don’t encourage education, more people need to be rude to them.

[Angrybird345]

Good for you!!!

[EdisonLightBulb]

Not harsh, unless we challenge such bigoted views we can never move forward as a race. Maybe she will reconsider her beliefs.

[donquixotedelamancha]

I think it is to your credit that you were honest. Having your brother's back is more important than being liked by arseholes.

People are entitled to feel homosexuality is wrong for religious reasons. What they are not entitled to do is treat people poorly because of their views. If only everyone treated bigots (and I mean real bigots, not just people with unfashionable views) this way.

[EdisonLightBulb]

• the human race

[0hCrepe]

Good. Homophobia shouldn’t be tolerated even when it’s dressed up as religion.

[MulticolourMophead]

Actually, OP, this was a "teachable moment".

You've taught the neighbour that actions have consequences, and if you're going to be rude to someone, they'll bite back eventually.

You never know, this might actually prove beneficial in the long run, she might just re-evaluate her behaviour.